Master Bedroom: Let the wife stay at home or send her to work?

[hyperalgesia]

That's 5 figures a month, bro.

Nooooooooooooo!

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[hyperalgesia]

This is terrible! It is one reason that my wife and I did extensive pre-marital counseling with an attorney/a relationship specialist/rabbi before we tied the knot and banged out: Life insurance, disability, durable powers of attorneys, wills, my student loans, her pre-existing debt, her student loans, my pre-existing debt, prior legal matters from a previous relationships, and yes a PRE-NUP. With her background in family court, she'd seen BOTH men and women screwed-over by divorce judges.

We meet every other year with our family attorney and go over everything. I would say the initial investment was $3K ten years ago and the re-occurring biennial meeting is $450. Chump change and cheap insurance in comparison to the catastrophic situation @ParaVert describes above...

These are essential pieces of any long-term agreement. It is not romantic, but before any potentially high-earning MD/DO ties the knot (man or woman), you must iron out this stuff. Always remember: What's your out?

This is golden, thank you for sharing. Sounds like this mtg was the REAL wedding. Where discovery and compromises were actually made.

 

[bedrock]

Five figures for several kids could be worse. A doc friend of mine has an ex who's got him by the cojones in California. She's got the daughter, the boyfriend, the free money, the bulldog lawyer. I think he's paying 100k+ in alimony and CS. The ex never worked. Even though he's allowed to share custody of the kid, in reality she holds the key and uses this power to taunt and otherwise torture him. They live in different states and she insists on traveling with the daughter on visits.

Good God, I’m never getting married.

 

[lonelobo]

Wow , maybe I am the exception but love my wife...she is a Doc and works harder than me and doesn't want to stay home.
Been 17 years since I was single chasing tail, had some good times but would not look forward to it again.

 

[Man o War]

Good God, I’m never getting married.

No, just choose wisely.

 

[bedrock]

Wow , maybe I am the exception but love my wife...she is a Doc and works harder than me and doesn't want to stay home.
Been 17 years since I was single chasing tail, had some good times but would not look forward to it again.

No, just choose wisely.

Congrats to you both. I would be happy to be in a committed long-term relationship as dating does get old, even in SoCal.

What drusso did makes sense and based on his wifes comments, he married a great woman.

I will keep that in mind for the future. I will be damn sure to do a prenup as well.

 

[Man o War]

Congrats to you both. I would be happy to be in a committed long-term relationship as dating does get old, even in SoCal.

What drusso did makes sense and based on his wifes comments, he married a great woman.

I will keep that in mind for the future. I will be damn sure to do a prenup as well.

@bedrock I used to say I’d never get married. When my now wife and I were engaged a long time ago I freaked out and sabotaged the relationship. Had nothing to do with her....anyway, the engagement ring I gave her is a family heirloom- very big diamonds, very expensive.
I knew for sure I was an idiot and let a good one go when she gave it back to me after I broke off the engagement. She was PISSED but still packaged it up carefully and made sure to give it me in person so it was safe. She easily could’ve kept it and gotten herself a large sum of money by selling it.
My point is, I think there are always glimpses into a person’s character along the way if you really pay attention. That woman has stuck by me through the hell of medical training, leaving my cushy partner job mid life to go back to fellowship, moving a few times for jobs, etc.
Sorry didn’t mean to go all Dr Phil on you, but there are good ones out there.