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Ok,
So I met this girl in my Econ class recently and I have started talking to her. She sits by me and I am very much into her. Even though i recently met her, the class will be ending in less than a week and I was thinking about asking her out since we don't really hang out outside of class. I will prob never see this girl again bc this is my only class in the business building and she is a business major.

I have the MCAT coming up in sept and I will be taking the TPR class plus summer school. I'm afraid that I will start liking her if we go out a few times before summer, but then in the summer I will be too busy to see her more than once or twice a week. Im also afraid that she wont understand, especially bc she is a business major and has no clue in the magnitude of time needed to study for the MCAT. This is the same reason my last gf and I broke up, and then I wasn't even studying for the mcat I was just in summer school.

anyone had a similar situation? whats your adivce?
 
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UTSAPremed said:
Ok,
So I met this girl in my Econ class recently and I have started talking to her. She sits by me and I am very much into her. Even though i recently met her, the class will be ending in less than a week and I was thinking about asking her out since we don't really hang out outside of class. I will prob never see this girl again bc this is my only class in the business building and she is a business major.

I have the MCAT coming up in sept and I will be taking the TPR class plus physics II and cell bio in summer school. Should I ask this girl out? I'm afraid that I will start liking her if we go out a few times before summer, but then in the summer I will be too busy to see her more than once or twice a week. Im also afraid that she wont understand, especially bc she is a business major and has no clue in the magnitude of time needed to study for the MCAT. This is the same reason my last gf and I broke up, and then I wasn't even studying for the mcat I was just in summer school.

anyone had a similar situation? whats your adivce?
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Sounds like you have your answer.... You're too busy for a girlfriend right now. You'd just be playing w/ her heart by going out, since you won't have time for her. Maybe get to know her a bit in a friendly manner (w/o getting "friend-zoned") and ask her out once you have time.
 
Medical school, residency, and even practicing as a physician will take a lot of time. Sometimes more than others, but you can bet you will be pretty busy for the next few years at least. It takes effort to maintain balance and significant others definitely will have to compromise at times. Be aware of your priorities and your situation and handle everything as you see fit. If you think you have too much going on and a relationship would just add extra stress, I wouldn't start dating someone now. But if you feel like you are able to manage your time pretty well and are ready for a relationship, I say go for it.
 
UTSA, Are you mocking my thread??!!! This is not a joke...lol...
 
It would definitely not hurt to ask her out... you also have to have some time for fun. And who says one date will lead to a 24 hour a day relationship?
sounds like you are a bit paranoid because of your previous break up.
 
It's probably not okay to refer to a girl you have never asked out as your girlfriend on messageboards dude...

Don't ask her out. It's a trap.
 
You might as well just become celibate now. If you seriously can't find the time to date a girl while in college, forget it once med school starts.
 
If you like her why pass up the opportunity??
If shes understanding you will have no problem, in fact, she might it find admirable how dedicated you are to your studies.
Since theres only one week left, you really have nothing to lose. Go for it!
 
UTSAPremed said:
Ok,
So I met this girl in my Econ class recently and I have started talking to her. She sits by me and I am very much into her. Even though i recently met her, the class will be ending in less than a week and I was thinking about asking her out since we don't really hang out outside of class. I will prob never see this girl again bc this is my only class in the business building and she is a business major.

I have the MCAT coming up in sept and I will be taking the TPR class plus physics II and cell bio in summer school. Should I ask this girl out? I'm afraid that I will start liking her if we go out a few times before summer, but then in the summer I will be too busy to see her more than once or twice a week. Im also afraid that she wont understand, especially bc she is a business major and has no clue in the magnitude of time needed to study for the MCAT. This is the same reason my last gf and I broke up, and then I wasn't even studying for the mcat I was just in summer school.

anyone had a similar situation? whats your adivce?
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Why are you living like months and months into the future? That's weak sauce.

Don't be a ***** and ask her out. You cross bridges when you come to them, NOT before.
 
UTSAPremed said:
No, not at all. I am serious, and I unlike you have had zero problem talking to this girl and getting to know her so I don't see how it could even be remotely similar to your situation.
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Dayumm...

Anyway, why don't you just explain your situation to her? I'm sure she could translate it into business terms or something. And you never know...she may not have any time for you.
 
You should absolutely ask her out if you're truly into her! Our academic and professional pursuits are demanding and inevitable and they're certainly not going to stop after the MCAT or even after med school graduation. I feel like a lot of people have a mentality along the lines of "I just have to make it to this next stage and then I can live my life..." but there will always be another step in the process. Obviously you'll have to set aside a substantial amount of time to study and whatnot but that shouldn't keep you from pursuing a relationship. It may seem that logic dictates that you should avoid things like relationships and other things in order to focus on your undertakings, but I've noticed that life doesn't always operate logically, especially when it comes to relationships. I think the key to a fulfilling life lies in achieving some sense of balance. Worst case scenario is that it doesn't work out in the end, but at least you will have given it a shot. It would be a shame to miss out on something just because you're so consumed by your studies.
 
UTSAPremed said:
I was saying that because if I was concerned if it would ever lead to that situation where we did start dating, since that what you normally do after you ask girls out..... I'm not trying to fu**-and-chuck this girls since I obviously like her and am attracted to her.

your such a troll
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your =/= you're

is this endemic to this forum? should I just stop pointing it out?
 
UTSAPremed said:
I was saying that because if I was concerned if it would ever lead to that situation where we did start dating, since that what you normally do after you ask girls out..... I'm not trying to fu**-and-chuck this girls since I obviously like her and am attracted to her.

your such a troll
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I'm a troll? You're the one calling some random girl in class your girlfriend and worrying about the future with her when you don't even have the stones to ask her out, creepo! 👍
 
lovemesomeTJ said:
Dayumm...

Anyway, why don't you just explain your situation to her? I'm sure she could translate it into business terms or something. And you never know...she may not have any time for you.
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😳
 
ProgPenguin said:
I feel like a lot of people have a mentality along the lines of "I just have to make it to this next stage and then I can live my life..."
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I still fantasize about that day . . . when, exactly, does this "living life stuff" begin anyway, and how am I supposed to know it when I see it?

You live life NOW, in the moment, or not at all.
 
I feel like a lot of these premeds have this problem of not living in the moment. Do you realize that by the time you are done with college, med school, residency you will be in your 30's? Do you really just want to be getting into your first relationship when you are 30? Life is all about balance. So study hard and party harder, and make time to live your life. So what if you don't score in the top 10% of your class? At least you will have still enjoyed your youth.
 
The MCAT will become your girlfriend. Your abusive, awful girlfriend that will make you hate yourself, all the while being unable to leave her.

Tell her you are already taken.
 
All it really comes down to is this: will she understand what preparing for the MCAT mean?
 
lovemesomeTJ said:
Yeah, it is. It irks me, too, but it's like :beat:. So I just roll with it.
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So, I'm like not the best speller, right? But the your/you're thing is just such a brutal affront to the english language I can't help but find myself offended by it. It also makes the person look like an idiot. I would like to think the people trying to get into medical school would have this straightened out, but that's what I get for having expectations . . .
 
UTSAPremed said:
I was saying that because if I was concerned if it would ever lead to that situation where we did start dating, since that what you normally do after you ask girls out..... I'm not trying to fu**-and-chuck this girls since I obviously like her and am attracted to her.

your such a troll
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yeah...the word "troll" as it pertains to sdn does have a definition, and what VTBuc said does not even remotely fit that definition. you can't call people trolls just because you don't like them you incompetent ***** (notice how i didn't call you a troll because it would be inappropriate in this case...however this does not excuse the fact that you're obviously an idiot).

as for your situation, if you're seriously asking us to evaluate how well YOU manage your time...actually, based on what i already typed, this doesn't change how i feel about you at all. good day
 
crixx said:
The MCAT will become your girlfriend. Your abusive, awful girlfriend that will make you hate yourself, all the while being unable to leave her.

Tell her you are already taken.
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:laugh:👍
 
DUDE dont listen to some of these nerdlords. Who gives a !@#$ if you don't THINK you'll have time for a GIRLFRIEND. Shes not your GF yet so why even think into the future?! Ask her out if you want to. Time is a non-issue here. If you start dating and you find you don't have time then deal w it then. Stop being so dam neurotic.
 
UTSAPremed said:
Ok,
So I met this girl in my Econ class recently and I have started talking to her. She sits by me and I am very much into her. Even though i recently met her, the class will be ending in less than a week and I was thinking about asking her out since we don't really hang out outside of class. I will prob never see this girl again bc this is my only class in the business building and she is a business major.

I have the MCAT coming up in sept and I will be taking the TPR class plus physics II and cell bio in summer school. Should I ask this girl out? I'm afraid that I will start liking her if we go out a few times before summer, but then in the summer I will be too busy to see her more than once or twice a week. Im also afraid that she wont understand, especially bc she is a business major and has no clue in the magnitude of time needed to study for the MCAT. This is the same reason my last gf and I broke up, and then I wasn't even studying for the mcat I was just in summer school.

anyone had a similar situation? whats your adivce?
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It's not unreasonable to see someone 1-2 times per week, especially if you just started dating. Ask her if she wants to go out for pizza or see a movie or whatever it is you college kids do. Make-out party? Swing dancing?
 
jihad said:
dude dont listen to some of these nerdlords. Who gives a !@#$ if you don't think you'll have time for a girlfriend. Shes not your gf yet so why even think into the future?! Ask her out if you want to. Time is a non-issue here. If you start dating and you find you don't have time then deal w it then. Stop being so dam neurotic.
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+1
 
Also, seeing as how my last relationship ended bc my gf totally couldn't deal with me having to study ALL THE TIME, even though I saw her like 2-3 times a week and took her out to movies and stuff, I would say that I def have a right to be concerned and ask for help. If you do not have any positive advice that could be helpful to myself and others with similar concerns, please save our time and the space on this forum and don't post. THANK YOU!
 
UTSAPremed said:
Also, seeing as how my last relationship ended bc my gf totally couldn't deal with me having to study ALL THE TIME, even though I saw her like 2-3 times a week and took her out to movies and stuff, I would say that I def have a right to be concerned and ask for help. If you do not have any positive advice that could be helpful to myself and others with similar concerns, please save our time and the space on this forum and don't post. THANK YOU!
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Um...I can't see the video. Can anyone else?
 
from your descriptions, new chick sounds potentially high-maintenance....

just sayin'
 
UTSAPremed said:
Highly doubt that since she constantly talks about how much she loves to go sit out and go tanning + shopping. Plus, relate to that in business terms....I hope you are joking. its BUSINESS. my roommate is business he doesnt study worth a ****!!!
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Just because someone else doesn't study worth a **** doesn't mean they can't understand why you need to or that they would even care.

I hope sitting out, going tanning, and shopping are not her only interests... 😱

Also, your last girlfriend was crazy. My boyfriend is a business major, never studies, but has HIS OWN LIFE (this is important to look for in a SO) and he could care less how much I study as long as I make time for him. <-- that is what you should look for, except with the opposite sex of course 🙂 .
 
UTSAPremed said:
Also, seeing as how my last relationship ended bc my gf totally couldn't deal with me having to study ALL THE TIME, even though I saw her like 2-3 times a week and took her out to movies and stuff, I would say that I def have a right to be concerned and ask for help. If you do not have any positive advice that could be helpful to myself and others with similar concerns, please save our time and the space on this forum and don't post. THANK YOU!
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Sorry to be negative, but you're the one on a forum asking for advice on personal problems, so you can't really whine if you get advice you don't like.

If you want to ask her out, do it. Don't just assume that you'll get in a relationship with her and she'll turn out just like the last one. Live your life.
 
For now, MCAT=girlfriend. You should focus on the MCAT, get into medical school and go from there. Da ladiez gunna be all over you once you get those two letters added to the end of your name. :laugh:
 
sizillyd said:
For now, MCAT=girlfriend. You should focus on the MCAT, get into medical school and go from there. Da ladiez gunna be all over you once you get those two letters added to the end of your name. :laugh:
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^ thats exactly what my friends BS instructor for the princeton review said to him. So funny, bc it seemed like that was the only reason that guy wanted to be a MD. He had a background on his phone of a hot blonde girl, and I can assure it wasn't his gf. He said he would look at it whenever he got tired of studying for the MCAT for motivation :laugh::laugh:
 
UTSAPremed said:
Highly doubt that since she constantly talks about how much she loves to go sit out and go tanning + shopping. Plus, relate to that in business terms....I hope you are joking. its BUSINESS. my roommate is business he doesnt study worth a ****!!!
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I dunno. I'm not Business! I don't know what they do! I'm PRE-MED!
 
I had a girlfriend throughout the entire duration of my MCAT studying. I don't think it affected my studying habits too much. Are you really going to spend every waking minute with her? I mean I guess that's a possibility if she's really clingy, but at this point in your life you should be able to pick up on that pretty quickly. Ultimately you're the main factor that decides how much studying you'll be doing. Also, it's not like relationships are required/expected to be permanent. If you see that it's not working out and your unhappiness is affecting you getting where you need to get to in life, move on.
 
This kind of sounds like Lounge type discussion. There are better places to ask about relationship advice. You really don't want to regret anything and the MCAT is a significant time requirement, so if you don't score so high, it won't feel so great if you spent it with someone else. Just saying.
 
UTSAPremed said:
Also, seeing as how my last relationship ended bc my gf totally couldn't deal with me having to study ALL THE TIME, even though I saw her like 2-3 times a week
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if you're looking for a serious relationship it sounds like you're going to need someone independent. Like everyone said, if you don't have time now, when will you? Give it a try, if she's an independent person it may be just the thing to refresh you while studying.

You could also try the rule of threes.

"The important thing is to abide by the rule of threes. either you see a woman three times in quick succession and never again, or you maintain relations over the years but make sure that the rendezvous are at least three weeks apart." credit Milan Kundera for this one. The character who came up with this rule is a lothario surgeon so it works for busy people too.:highfive:
 
You can have a girlfriend and study for the MCAT at the same time. I did it and worked 40+ hours/week, other people have done it, it's not rocket science.

Go for it, the chance might never come up again. You don't want to become the guy that doesn't have a life because of school while you're in college and not even in med school yet when things get harder and time becomes more valuable.
 
uclaussr said:
I feel like a lot of these premeds have this problem of not living in the moment. Do you realize that by the time you are done with college, med school, residency you will be in your 30's? Do you really just want to be getting into your first relationship when you are 30? Life is all about balance. So study hard and party harder, and make time to live your life. So what if you don't score in the top 10% of your class? At least you will have still enjoyed your youth.
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:boom:
 
crixx said:
The MCAT will become your girlfriend.
Tell her you are already taken.
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Ditto.👍👍

Ever have a hot and steamy dream about a girl to wake up and realize it was only a dream. Ever passionately pursue a girl way out of your league to just get slapped in the face in the end. Ever been abused by your gf who complains that you are neglecting her when all you want is a break from it all. THIS IS Mcatia. She is a B$%*% trust me on it. Damn I would listen to my stupid girl talk all day about Delta gamma this delta gamma that then study MCAT....IT Blows big ones...

You want my advice; find some nice sites on the computer or stalk the Facebooks of girls at your school, less time comsuming. 😎
 
Whatever you do, please don't hint to the girl that you've considered her place in your life for the next 4 months. It'll really creep her out since you guys haven't even gone out yet. I think you're getting ahead of yourself here.
 
I would be careful about dating when your about to take the MCAT. My girlfriend (now my wife), back when I took the MCATs ended up buying me a German Shephard puppy the month before my exam...Most people have no idea what goes into this exam..or getting in to medical school for that fact.
 
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i love how you assume that just because you ask her out she's going to become your girlfriend
 
careful with this, I was with a girl during my MCAT intense studying period, and it didn't work out and definitely hurt my score and I regret it in the long run.
 
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