MCAT + Girlfriend

[The Poet Sings]

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maybe i'm old fashioned, but i've always known guys for much longer than 4 months before getting to the boyfriend/girlfriend stage. so in the event that she is still interested in you, take it slow. you don't want to jump into something only to realize she's completely wrong for you.

my boyfriend and i were together when i was studying for the mcat. since he could understand how serious it was, he would keep me motivated to study and call me out if i was on facebook/sdn for too long. not all significant others are oblivious.

 

[jboz]

brb, restarting firefox because I can't see any pics...

If she looks good then here is my advice.

 

[Hifey]

lol we're jumping so far ahead of ourselves.

1. How do you know she'll say yes? This is not to say that there is something about you that is offensive or anything but she may already be "talking" with another guy, still in love with an ex-bf whatever. Things that you don't normally share with classmates.

2. Even if she does say yes, who says it will work out to the time you have the MCAT? Also, if you can't handle studying for the MCAT in the summer AND have a social life then you need to develop more time efficient study habits. Sure there will be days/nights when you're indisposed but thats life.

3. Your ex gf sounds like an insecure brat. So, I wouldn't measure/expect future relationships to go along this line. Unless the girl in question is a lot like your ex.

I say ask her out for coffee or something simple until you can say that you're friends. Start out slow and then if the chemistry is right, work up to dinner. And don't tell her that you almost didn't ask her out b/c of the MCAT. Before you get to the MCAT though, you should explain to her what you feel your life will be like and see how she reacts. If she seems cool with it and understands it, then maybe it will work out. good luck 👍

 

[MugenTsukiyomi]

you never know till you ask. She might understand and i'm sure you can find some to time to spend with her. She might be out of town during the summer or doing summer school just like you. If you don't ask her know you might regret it. And besides, if she can't understand then the worst that can happen is she break up with you.

 

[Frazier]

I was saying that because if I was concerned if it would ever lead to that situation where we did start dating, since that what you normally do after you ask girls out..... I'm not trying to fu**-and-chuck this girls since I obviously like her and am attracted to her.

 

[Frazier]

i love how you assume that just because you ask her out she's going to become your girlfriend

We're pre-med dude -- "no" isn't in one's vocabulary when it comes to replying to "u wanna be muh boo?" 😀

 

[Evergrey]

You live life NOW, in the moment, or not at all.

Agreed. If you keep putting off doing amazing things in the name of "success," you are going to end up a lonely, miserable 55-year old.

My challenge to other pre-meds: redefine success.

 

[FloatOn]

This situation is getting way too complicated. Focus on your MCAT, and just keep in touch with her. Hang out with her now and then when you feel like it and have the time.

 

[prettylady]

youre always going to be busy with life...you have to make time for things you want.

 

[prettylady]

The MCAT will become your girlfriend. Your abusive, awful girlfriend that will make you hate yourself, all the while being unable to leave her.

Tell her you are already taken.

LOL
well said.

 

[Asyouwereatrio]

I would suggest against it only because it will take up a lot of your time. However, if you feel you CAN handle it..then go for it.

Keep in mind though, you have not known her for that long to rightfully be able to "go out"/date her seriously....You need to get to know her first in a platonic context before you can make decision with the accuracy and depth to build a strong, lasting relationship.

 

[girlofgrace7]

This made me laugh because a pre-med guy friend of mine is in the same boat. He was starting to see a girl but is preparing for his MCAT. He told her, "I'm not calling you! I'm not taking you out! I don't have time for a girlfriend!"... you could do the same... or not.

Maybe it's just because I'm a pre-med girl, but seeing a girlfriend once or twice a week does not seem unreasonable to me. Not counting nightly phone calls, I saw my boyfriends in college once or twice a week, and it didn't kill me. Just let her know before you get serious (presuming you do) what she's getting herself into. Also, like many others have said, stop planning out the relationship months in advance. Oh, and I think it's garbage for someone to say they don't have time for a relationship. I have a friend who is taking 19 units while working three jobs and taking care of his younger brothers (in addition to other things), and he has managed to have a girlfriend. You just have to make time for a social life.

 

[IH8ColdWeath3r]

This made me laugh because a pre-med guy friend of mine is in the same boat. He was starting to see a girl but is preparing for his MCAT. He told her, "I'm not calling you! I'm not taking you out! I don't have time for a girlfriend!"... you could do the same... or not.

Maybe it's just because I'm a pre-med girl, but seeing a girlfriend once or twice a week does not seem unreasonable to me. Not counting nightly phone calls, I saw my boyfriends in college once or twice a week, and it didn't kill me. Just let her know before you get serious (presuming you do) what she's getting herself into. Also, like many others have said, stop planning out the relationship months in advance. Oh, and I think it's garbage for someone to say they don't have time for a relationship. I have a friend who is taking 19 units while working three jobs and taking care of his younger brothers (in addition to other things), and he has managed to have a girlfriend. You just have to make time for a social life.

Yes it is because you are a pre-med girl. My last gf was not pre-med (she was an art major) and she did not understand at all. She thought I should see her+call her every single night.

Everyone who just commented, thank you for your insights. I wanted to know if anyone had experienced this or knew anyone with the same dilemma. Currently, I am taking 18 units, plus a full load + research + prep class in summer, so I will be busy. I honestly don't know, and I don't think that I will be able to handle it, even though I think I have excellent time management skills (I took 17 hrs las sem and made a 4.0). For me, the MCAT is such a big deal, bc my grades are great, but my schools grades are inflated and my state schools know this. The MCAT is really one of the major deciding factors for applicants who apply from my school. Plus, I really struggle with standardized tests so I will definitley need to stay focused and devoted. I have a year after my senior year to go hunting down girls, so I am not worried.😀

With that being said, I decided to put completely disregard everything I just mentioned above and since today as the last official day of class I did ask the girl out...and she said yes and were hanging out this weekend. To all you haters out there who said I have no balls to ask this girl out......go brush up on your game. She seems high maintenance though, but who knows...well see how it goes.

 

[rkmoto121]

You're studying and working hard to go to medical school... not prison. You can have a girlfriend. Especially now because it might be a little easier to have someone with you motivating you through it. Don't go out with her if she is somebody that doesn't want you to succeed. My girlfriend always gets on me if I'm not doing my homework or slacking off and reminds me why I'm doing all of this. Without her it would be much more difficult for me.

 

[FloatOn]

Yes it is because you are a pre-med girl. My last gf was not pre-med (she was an art major) and she did not understand at all. She thought I should see her+call her every single night.

Everyone who just commented, thank you for your insights. I wanted to know if anyone had experienced this or knew anyone with the same dilemma. Currently, I am taking 18 units, plus a full load + research + prep class in summer, so I will be busy. I honestly don't know, and I don't think that I will be able to handle it, even though I think I have excellent time management skills (I took 17 hrs las sem and made a 4.0). For me, the MCAT is such a big deal, bc my grades are great, but my schools grades are inflated and my state schools know this. The MCAT is really one of the major deciding factors for applicants who apply from my school. Plus, I really struggle with standardized tests so I will definitley need to stay focused and devoted. I have a year after my senior year to go hunting down girls, so I am not worried.😀

With that being said, I decided to put completely disregard everything I just mentioned above and since today as the last official day of class I did ask the girl out...and she said yes and were hanging out this weekend. To all you haters out there who said I have no balls to ask this girl out......go brush up on your game. She seems high maintenance though, but who knows...well see how it goes.

👍 Well done, grasshopper.

Show's over everyone. Our work here is done.

 

[petlee1]

how did you ask her out?

 

[JoshUNCW]

Ok,
So I met this girl in my Econ class recently and I have started talking to her. She sits by me and I am very much into her. Even though i recently met her, the class will be ending in less than a week and I was thinking about asking her out since we don't really hang out outside of class. I will prob never see this girl again bc this is my only class in the business building and she is a business major.

I have the MCAT coming up in sept and I will be taking the TPR class plus physics II and cell bio in summer school. Should I ask this girl out? I'm afraid that I will start liking her if we go out a few times before summer, but then in the summer I will be too busy to see her more than once or twice a week. Im also afraid that she wont understand, especially bc she is a business major and has no clue in the magnitude of time needed to study for the MCAT. This is the same reason my last gf and I broke up, and then I wasn't even studying for the mcat I was just in summer school.

anyone had a similar situation? whats your adivce?

If she likes you and you like her you could make it work. MCAT studying shouldn't be so intense as to get in the way of a relationship. Maybe you could try to hang out with them while studying. I prefer to study with my girlfriend around. If I feel distracted I have something to do

 

[Techmed07]

wtf

 

[Hurricane95]

If you can't find time to date around now, it doesn't get any easier in the future. You think things ease up once you're in medical school? Nope. Careful with that mentality, or you'll find yourself in an eternal cycle of "waiting for the right time."

Spend time with this girl now (don't just "ask her out", and offer to buy her dinner or something lame like all the other guys do), preferably doing fun things, project a lot of confidence and have fun. If things heat up, then date her more seriously. If she's superficial and no good for a serious relationship, try to keep her on the side for no commitment fun.

Either way, I had a girlfriend the whole time I studied for the mcat and maybe it even helped me. It almost served like a motivator to study hard during the day so I could make time to see her most nights after I had studied.