I understand the difference. If her net pay was $250k that would mean her gross pay had to have been about 20-30% higher based on her withholdings which is why I'd be more impressed if her net pay was $250k not her gross pay. It's possible that you're the one who needs to look up the difference between net and gross pay.
The differences in pay (especially in FM) has a lot to do with the type of job you're working, hours willing to work, location, etc. Having that said, the residents graduating from our program this year had starting salaries ranging from $180k (outpatient only, minimal at-home call, no weekends) to $300k (hospitalist, 7 days on 7 days off doing anywhere from 15-20 admissions per shift).
Middle-ground jobs (in the area I live) doing a mix of outpatient, inpatient, and some OB seem to be offering closer to $220k (benefits included) which is why I was just a bit surprised to hear CabinBuilder talk about "making bank" doing locums and making $250k/year when considering locums jobs usually come with zero health/retirement/cme benefits and force you to work away from home. That just doesn't seem like a far cry from what a lot of outpatient-only jobs are offering nowadays. Just sayin.