Mentioning that your GF goes to the school.. good idea?

[axp107]

During interviews.. I mean.. for me atleast.. when I apply, it'll be one of the biggest factors.

Gf of almost 6 years. btw.

Hypothetically...

A) Lets say gf goes to Upenn.. and during Upenn interview, I say.. "my gf goes here.. this is definitely my first choice"

Let's say I don't apply to PENN:

B) Lets say gf goes to Upenn.. and during Drexel interview, I say .."gf goes to Penn and I'm not applying there b/c I don't like their med program"

Would that add to your credibility from an interviewers perspective? B/c to me where the gf goes is a major factor.

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[TheRealMD]

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Drop the term "girlfriend" and say "significant other" before you try to pull something like that.

THEN, drop the idea altogether unless they ask why you want to go to their school.

Also, don't even think about lying about something like that. Next they ask you who she is and IF you've been caught in that lie... say goodbye to your chances at that school. You could try to deflect and not give up her name but why bring it up then? 🙄

 

[axp107]

Lol I wasn't really serious about the white lie idea haha.. I'd never be able to pull it off during an interview.

 

[MassTransport]

Yeah, girlfriend may sound too teenagerish, SO is better. If you're serious about her, then you should be honest if it weighs into your decisions. Definitely don't make it a central reason, and be prepared to discuss how you would handle personal and professional responsibilities.

 

[M Sinner]

I wouldn't do it unless you were applying to an OOS school and they were looking for a way to "root" you to that state. Even then, just state that you have "close friends" in this school.

Don't mention that she's your significant other. The last thing that they want to hear is that you're following your Girlfriend around... "So, you're interested in Medicine to impress a girl?..."

Try as you might, I doubt that you'll be able to shake *that* vibe after dropping the "G" bomb.

 

[wryandwatchful]

I don't think it's a problem at all. If you've been in a relationship for 6 years and can truly vouch that your significant other of 6 years is attending the same school, then I think that's a great reason. 👍

These people are doctors and know about the difficulties and sacrifices that must be made when balancing a professional and personal life. As long as you have other reasons to prefer their school, I would definitely mention it.

 

[evade]

Assuming that you are serious and you are planning to marry this girl one day, absolutely you should say it. But don't say "girlfriend." Fudge the truth: say "fiance." Only say this at the school she attends; no school wants to know that you're applying because it's in the same city as the school you actually wanted to attend.

My boyfriend (of four years) and I pulled this at my school; only difference is that he was applying to law school and I to med school. I was accepted first (med school admissions have an earlier schedule), and he sent a letter of intent to the law school stating that his "fiance" was going to be attending the medical school, and he absolutely would attend the law school if they took him. The day after the letter was received, he was accepted. I have a classmate whose husband now attends my school, a year behind her. Another classmate's husband transferred here for third year.

It does make a difference, to be sure, but it won't make up for any gross deficits. These people were ALL excellent applicants, but the fact that their significant other attended the school was surely a factor. So long as you're serious about your girlfriend and about going to med school, there's no reason you shouldn't mention it.

 

[Jew Alcindor]

I'd say something more along the lines of "My GF goes here and she's always spoken highly of the faculty, curriculum, other students etc."

I'd also say fiance as well, like the other guy said.

 

[Despina]

I say you should propose if you've been together six years and make her your fiance. If it's that important that you attend the same school as her and you want medical schools to appreciate/respect the seriousness of your relationship then why haven't you proposed?

 

[axp107]

I say you should propose if you've been together six years and make her your fiance. If it's that important that you attend the same school as her and you want medical schools to appreciate/respect the seriousness of your relationship then why haven't you proposed?

She'll still have a few years of undergrad left when I apply to med school 😀

plus I'm only 19.. lol.. so I guess mentioning this might not work afterall.

 

[DoctaJay]

During interviews.. I mean.. for me atleast.. when I apply, it'll be one of the biggest factors.

Gf of almost 6 years. btw.

Hypothetically...

A) Lets say gf goes to Upenn.. and during Upenn interview, I say.. "my gf goes here.. this is definitely my first choice"

Let's say I don't apply to PENN:

B) Lets say gf goes to Upenn.. and during Drexel interview, I say .."gf goes to Penn and I'm not applying there b/c I don't like their med program"

Would that add to your credibility from an interviewers perspective? B/c to me where the gf goes is a major factor.

Definitely say SO instead of girlfriend, and I believe that you should only mention it at the school that your SO attends. If you are a good applicant, it can show stability and a high chance that you will matriculate if they accept you.

 

[limpkitty]

Sorry if this offends anyone, but why would significant other be better than girlfriend? the only time i've ever heard someone say significant other is when they're gay

 

[axp107]

Sorry if this offends anyone, but why would significant other be better than girlfriend? the only time i've ever heard someone say significant other is when they're gay

LOL

 

[alwaysaangel]

She'll still have a few years of undergrad left when I apply to med school 😀

plus I'm only 19.. lol.. so I guess mentioning this might not work afterall.

Yeah, honestly, I can't see it workign out too well for you.

It may be prejudiced and unfair - but not too many people are going to think too highly of a relationship that started when you were 13, and I'm guessing has been mostly long distance (just based on the way you're talking and the way most high school sweethearts go).

If you were older, then yes it would be worthwhile, and if she were attendign that MEDICAL SCHOOL it would be worthwhile. As it is I would simply say you have strong roots in the area in terms of friends and family and have a high preference to be there.

(and out of curiosity how will she have several years of undergrad left? are you ahead of your age or was she 10 when you started dating?)

 

[littlealex]

I'm in the same boat and its a pickle. My girlfriend is starting her Md/Phd in the fall, and if I fail to get into the same school with her, we're in for at least 4 long years if it does work out at all.

Worst part? I'm not anywhere near the caliber of her school.

 

[alwaysaangel]

I'm in the same boat and its a pickle. My girlfriend is starting her Md/Phd in the fall, and if I fail to get into the same school with her, we're in for at least 4 long years if it does work out at all.

Worst part? I'm not anywhere near the caliber of her school.

Is she in a city with lots of other med schools? It would have been ideal for her to pick a MD/PHD program in a place like that (Chicago, NY, Philly). If she didn't do that, then too little too late.

Do your best and budget monthly plane tickets. Long distance is doable for some, not for others.

If you're older, long-term and are both going to be in the MD program then its worth bringing her up.