Lots of little things to this. As long as you get used to picking out S1 and S2 -- as in, can easily tell systole from diastole -- you can rule out half of the options on what a rhythm is. Lub-DUB. S1-S2. Diastole is ~2x longer than systole, so that's the easiest way to tell. Then it's just pattern matching. Definitely drum on the desk or conduct or whatever helps.
AS is systolic, best heard over the right 2nd ICS, and radiates to the carotids; MS is diastolic, best heard over the left 5th MCL, and doesn't really radiate.
Probably overkill... but I thought Goljan did a terrific job of showing how to think through this. Just think in simple terms: S1, beginning of systole, is the CLOSURE of the tricuspid and mitral valves. S2 is the CLOSURE of the aortic and pulmonic valves. Regurgitation is a problem with valves closing, and the tricuspid/mitral valves are closed in systole, so regurg of either valve must be a systolic murmur. Stenosis is a problem with valves opening, right? What's open in systole? Aortic and pulmonic -- which means AS and PS are systolic murmurs. And the tricuspid / mitral are open in diastole, so stenosis of either valve is a diastolic murmur.
AS/MS are both left-sided in terms of anatomy, but there's the rIght / lEft thing to remember what's louder when.