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Hello all,
I am a long-time reader of SDN but this is my first time posting, so I apologize ahead of time for overlooking any customs and/or if I have simply failed to find answers on my own. Thank you all for your continued addition to these discussions so that we hopeful students may learn from your experiences. I will try to strike a balance between brevity and completion as I describe where I’m coming from and where I want to go.
BLUF: I’ve been planning on attending USUHS for years but over time I have begun to question my path.
I am a married, 26-year-old Marine vet w/4 years AD ending in 2017. My wife and I met when we were teenagers and married in 2015, so she stuck it out with me through my maybe somewhat-impromptu decision to enlist a year after we met, and then through two deployments and now into my undergraduate education. We had our complaints about military life when I was enlisted—trust me—but there was also a lot of things we enjoyed about it, too. I was an infantryman, and a kid, so maybe some of the running around playing games seemed a little less frustrating at that time, but I proudly maintain that my service was a generally positive experience that played a large role in my development.
Additionally, my wife enjoyed not having to work while she could finish her education, and we discuss now how the early financial stability of a pipeline like USUHS would be very helpful to our goals of starting a family. (I’ll be 32 when graduating med school, so we want to bring kids into the picture sooner or later) I have seen thread after thread offering wisdom against choosing mil med for financial reason. So, I will also express that I have been so passionate about the idea of putting the uniform back on and giving back to the community that raised me as a young man—this cause has driven me. Because of this, I have been able to get passed a lot of the frustrations that I have read about on SDN (not all—some really horrible stories have been shared and I will not forget them). Perhaps another factor in my ability to rationalize these issues away is that I have experienced one or another form of many of these frustrations in the infantry; administrative overload, complete disconnect between higher command and ground level, mission requires inaccessible logistics, unforeseeable last-minute changes to your orders, etc. And, even though I have read on here about bigger and bad-er version of these issues, I have thus far stayed true to the course: attend USUHS and follow through to retirement (which would mean 5-6 years after ADSO).
But as time moves on and I approach my graduation (spring 2021), I have started to waiver in my commitment to this plan. What is the issue that has loosened my devotion? The time commitment.
Although I could see myself putting on a smile regardless of the issues around me (perhaps a character flaw on its own, but beside the point), I simply don’t know if I can commit to a path for nearly 2 decades (fulfilling ADSO would end in 2037, retirement in 2043). Doing the civ route, I would not have to lock myself to such a commitment, but it would also mean that my wife and I would have to go it alone and struggle for years to come, and having her be able to stay home with kids 4 years from now is something that is important to us—its one of the reasons we have been careful not to have had any children already. I understand it can be done, though, through intelligent barrowing and having a plan to pay student loans off as efficiently as possible. (PSLF is one option that comes to mind—in which I could still spend some time in the service)
Now, I somewhat apprehensively hand over my story and ask for any insight that might be helpful. Are the financial/healthcare/retirement benefits of the USUHS pipeline going to be as helpful in starting a family as we believe? Or is going the civilian route just as do-able? I will remain open to any criticism and advice. Thank you for taking the time to read my small autobiography!
As an aside, I am currently interested in primary care—something that is congruent with predictions about the future of mil med, but I am not foolish enough to deny that I may one day discover a passion for a less mil-friendly specialty.
I am a long-time reader of SDN but this is my first time posting, so I apologize ahead of time for overlooking any customs and/or if I have simply failed to find answers on my own. Thank you all for your continued addition to these discussions so that we hopeful students may learn from your experiences. I will try to strike a balance between brevity and completion as I describe where I’m coming from and where I want to go.
BLUF: I’ve been planning on attending USUHS for years but over time I have begun to question my path.
I am a married, 26-year-old Marine vet w/4 years AD ending in 2017. My wife and I met when we were teenagers and married in 2015, so she stuck it out with me through my maybe somewhat-impromptu decision to enlist a year after we met, and then through two deployments and now into my undergraduate education. We had our complaints about military life when I was enlisted—trust me—but there was also a lot of things we enjoyed about it, too. I was an infantryman, and a kid, so maybe some of the running around playing games seemed a little less frustrating at that time, but I proudly maintain that my service was a generally positive experience that played a large role in my development.
Additionally, my wife enjoyed not having to work while she could finish her education, and we discuss now how the early financial stability of a pipeline like USUHS would be very helpful to our goals of starting a family. (I’ll be 32 when graduating med school, so we want to bring kids into the picture sooner or later) I have seen thread after thread offering wisdom against choosing mil med for financial reason. So, I will also express that I have been so passionate about the idea of putting the uniform back on and giving back to the community that raised me as a young man—this cause has driven me. Because of this, I have been able to get passed a lot of the frustrations that I have read about on SDN (not all—some really horrible stories have been shared and I will not forget them). Perhaps another factor in my ability to rationalize these issues away is that I have experienced one or another form of many of these frustrations in the infantry; administrative overload, complete disconnect between higher command and ground level, mission requires inaccessible logistics, unforeseeable last-minute changes to your orders, etc. And, even though I have read on here about bigger and bad-er version of these issues, I have thus far stayed true to the course: attend USUHS and follow through to retirement (which would mean 5-6 years after ADSO).
But as time moves on and I approach my graduation (spring 2021), I have started to waiver in my commitment to this plan. What is the issue that has loosened my devotion? The time commitment.
Although I could see myself putting on a smile regardless of the issues around me (perhaps a character flaw on its own, but beside the point), I simply don’t know if I can commit to a path for nearly 2 decades (fulfilling ADSO would end in 2037, retirement in 2043). Doing the civ route, I would not have to lock myself to such a commitment, but it would also mean that my wife and I would have to go it alone and struggle for years to come, and having her be able to stay home with kids 4 years from now is something that is important to us—its one of the reasons we have been careful not to have had any children already. I understand it can be done, though, through intelligent barrowing and having a plan to pay student loans off as efficiently as possible. (PSLF is one option that comes to mind—in which I could still spend some time in the service)
Now, I somewhat apprehensively hand over my story and ask for any insight that might be helpful. Are the financial/healthcare/retirement benefits of the USUHS pipeline going to be as helpful in starting a family as we believe? Or is going the civilian route just as do-able? I will remain open to any criticism and advice. Thank you for taking the time to read my small autobiography!
As an aside, I am currently interested in primary care—something that is congruent with predictions about the future of mil med, but I am not foolish enough to deny that I may one day discover a passion for a less mil-friendly specialty.