Moving out

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I would like to move out within the next year. Hopefully for good.

When I graduated high school I decided to move back in with my Dad I did not live with ever before. That is, I never lived with him permanently. For the last two years things have been OK, but not the best. He is a psychologically damaged individual who tends to take out his frustrations and anger on me verbally. He constantly calls me "idiot," "*****," etc. I know he thinks very little of me and has on one occasion almost killed me while drunk (only instance of physical abuse).
To his credit he has been letting me live with him, paying for my phone bill too. I know he loves me, and the situation is financially smart for someone in my position. However, I can't take it anymore. I'm treated like crap. I have no dignity. At first I brushed all os this off thinking that I was the smart one using him; the abuse didn't get to me. At this time however, I do not share the same sentiments. I hate him. I really wanted to make this work with him. I have really tried. But I can't take it. Moreover, he has borrowed thousands of dollars from me in the past and basically swindled me into trading a good car I had for something more "economical." I was 18 and foolish. I genuinely feel he would attempt to bleed me financially the second I started making a residents salary. But I digress. People have it worse. I know.

I have to move out and have dignity- even if this means taking the longer and harder road. So, how do you guys afford it? I know applying is extremely expensive. Obviously step one is saving money. I've lived on my own before, so I am not exactly spring chicken. For what it's worth I know I'll get in to at least a DO program. I'm not going to spend time sharing my stats, but I will say that the I have volunteered, shadowed, scribed, and have a perfect GPA. I need to research and take the MCAT still. I am confident I will do well.

TLDR: Tired of being a victim; time to grow up and sail this ship. Applying is very expensive. How does one afford it on a scribe's wage, how much should I save before I move out, anything I missed? So far I am debt free and would be applying in two years. Yes, a large part of my application is theoretical, but I promise I work very, very hard.
Thanks ya'll.

 

[eteshoe]

I was in a different financial situation so bear with me. Sorry about your situation. Since you know applications will run you a couple thousand bucks and you have 2 yrs before applying, you can certainly save quite a bit. Assuming once you move out you can afford your living expenses plus a little bit of change, I would aim at saving $100-$150/month for the next two years. That should give you a nice start (e.g. ~$2000-3000). Some people also use credit cards. I'm sure others will chime in and good luck.

 

[Dr. Death]

Good luck indeed. Depending on how old you are you may be able to get a fee waiver for DO schools. (Since you have a living parent the FAP for MDs is basically out) That helped me immensely this cycle because they paid all secondary application fees. Depending on how much you work now you might be able to afford to move out with very little savings. Take a second job or more hours when you aren't in school and just save up incrementally as the previous poster said.

 

[starspells]

Sorry about your situation. People can survive by scribing but have you ever considered clinical research? It pays better and it seems like you can cover both research and clinical experience with it. If you need extra cash consider tutoring and uber. Good luck

 

[pageantry]

FAP is not out with a living parent. Before you file, tell them you want to fill out the form for an estrangement. They will ask you to get an old friend or teacher or clergy member to corroborate that this is not a relationship that you are able to look to for support. My friend simply wrote that even though my parent and I occasionally had contact, in my friend's view it was much better for me not to have my parent in my life at all, for my emotional health.

They approved my FAP. Good luck with yours.