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I finally just got an interview invite!

Except, I'm taking it more of as an insult than anything. The school barely breaks into the top fifty and was literally my last choice. I spent some time there (the undergrad and partly the medical school) and let me just say I hate (and I do not like using the word hate) it there so very much. I applied there because my parents pushed me to apply there and they are making me go to the interview. I have had migraines for two days now and nightmares (I can barely sleep). I hate the culture at the school, and I despise the students there (many, many of whom I know). It is the most hostile environment on this Earth.

I can hide this anger during my interview, but I know their real intent in this. They are going to belittle me the entire interview. The interviewer will drill me and make me feel like I'm not worth anything in the world. They are like that there, I know it.

Man, I'm not so much angry at the school as I am with myself. Why did I put myself in this position? Why wasn't I competitive enough for the UVAs, Hopkins, Harvards, Stanfords of the world? How did my life get to where it is right now? I actually looked down on this institution for so many years of my life and now they will kick dirt on my face while I'm barely crawling through the end of the application season. I wish I could turn my life around and become more competitive for the top programs in the country, but I've run out of time and my parents won't let it go on any longer.

Sorry, this isn't a troll post. I'm just losing it big time and I need some advise.
 
I've got some advice for you bro: take a chill pill. Medical schools aren't going to give you an invite just to embarrass and belittle you. Sorry to break it to you,but you're not important enough to waste the time of very important people. Be happy you got an interview and an opportunity to become a doctor.
 
I'm kind of confused as to what kind of advice you might be looking for here.
 
Sounds to me like you need to do some soul-searching and figure out your priorities in life. This school is willing to offer you an interview, which no other school you applied to has. Get your mind right and go in there ready to kick ass and take names.

Get your acceptance, go to med school, and become a physician without some sense of entitlement to get into top programs.

Who knows, maybe you'll learn something being around other people who could "only" get into a top 50 program.

Grow up.
 
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Also, please get therapy.
 
Here's your advice.

1) adjust your attitude
2) prepare all you can for that interview
3) ace the interview
4) go to the white coat ceremony
 
Congrats on the interview invite! It takes a huge amount of work on your part to get where you are. I can understand not liking a school, but "looking down on it" for not being one of the absolute top programs in the country, especially for the purposes of medical school, is just a bad attitude to have. Plus, going into your interview being angry at the school is just going to be counterproductive for you.

Assess your priorities: would you rather be a physician, or would you rather turn down a perfectly good medical school program because it isn't ranked in the top echelon by US News? Not a rhetorical question.
 
Here's how your interview is going to go OP:

[YOUTUBE]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VY7anGG16u0[/YOUTUBE]
 
If you hate the school but you are forced to go to the interview just show up and tell them you actually don't want to be there.

They will be glad to reject you and then you do not have to worry about what happens if they accept you.

But if any part of you actually wants to attend medical school next fall and you think you could actually stand going to that school, you have to change your attitude.

You need to act like you have never been to this school and forget about all your previous feelings about the school. Essentially, you need to give them a fresh start and figure out if you might actually like it there. If you cannot get over your dislikes than don't bother going there.
 
By the way, in response to the title:

Your ego needs to be based on your intrinsic qualities as a person. How do you feel about yourself?

Basing your self worth on where you go to school, how much money you make, or other similar characteristics is a recipe for disaster.
 
Ppierce baller said:
I finally just got an interview invite!

Except, I'm taking it more of as an insult than anything. The school barely breaks into the top fifty and was literally my last choice. I spent some time there (the undergrad and partly the medical school) and let me just say I hate (and I do not like using the word hate) it there so very much. I applied there because my parents pushed me to apply there and they are making me go to the interview. I have had migraines for two days now and nightmares (I can barely sleep). I hate the culture at the school, and I despise the students there (many, many of whom I know). It is the most hostile environment on this Earth.

I can hide this anger during my interview, but I know their real intent in this. They are going to belittle me the entire interview. The interviewer will drill me and make me feel like I'm not worth anything in the world. They are like that there, I know it.

Man, I'm not so much angry at the school as I am with myself. Why did I put myself in this position? Why wasn't I competitive enough for the UVAs, Hopkins, Harvards, Stanfords of the world? How did my life get to where it is right now? I actually looked down on this institution for so many years of my life and now they will kick dirt on my face while I'm barely crawling through the end of the application season. I wish I could turn my life around and become more competitive for the top programs in the country, but I've run out of time and my parents won't let it go on any longer.

Sorry, this isn't a troll post. I'm just losing it big time and I need some advise.
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We don't know this person's experience with the school. The reaction to this particular school sounds a bit extreme to most of us including myself. Honestly, if you hate it that much don't go. If you already don't like it you will hate spending 4 years there. Improve the competitiveness of your application and apply elsewhere next year?

However, on the flip side i highly doubt this institution will kick dirt in your face. Chances are they don't even know you or who you are. If they really hated you, they would've rejected you pre-interview. They are also professional enough not to invite someone to interview just to harass them.
 
Thank you. I guess these are the type of answers I needed (not necessarily what I wanted to hear I guess). I've just been blind-sided so badly this year and it really took a toll on how I view myself. The part that hurts the most is that I genuinely disliked so much of this school and the peers of mine who chose to attend medical school there. They will be there on interview day (either in classes, the halls, or leading the tours). I really just never wanted to see them again in my life. Some of the faculty there were incredibly rude to me years ago and made me feel like, well I was nothing. I never wanted to see or hear from them either again.

I'm going to try my best and erase all these cold feelings I have and go there with an open mind. Right now I have no other choice in life and I have to cope. I guess this is going to be one of those experiences of "going outside your comfort zone".
 
I like meowmix said:
stop fallin for the troll
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I'm not trolling at all. Fortunately, you most likey don't have the extremely bad experiences with a certain institution that I did. There is a very bad taste in my mouth already. I trying to erase it and give the school a fresh chance, because right now it is the only chance I have.

Congrats on Northwestern. It was one of my dream schools but they wanted no part of me whatsoever.
 
Ppierce baller said:
Thank you. I guess these are the type of answers I needed (not necessarily what I wanted to hear I guess). I've just been blind-sided so badly this year and it really took a toll on how I view myself. The part that hurts the most is that I genuinely disliked so much of this school and the peers of mine who chose to attend medical school there. They will be there on interview day (either in classes, the halls, or leading the tours). I really just never wanted to see them again in my life. Some of the faculty there were incredibly rude to me years ago and made me feel like, well I was nothing. I never wanted to see or hear from them either again.

I'm going to try my best and erase all these cold feelings I have and go there with an open mind. Right now I have no other choice in life and I have to cope. I guess this is going to be one of those experiences of "going outside your comfort zone".
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Yes, and don't forget you will have plenty of people who are rude or treat you poorly. You can't go through life trying to avoid all those people. Learn to find the people who treat you right, become friends with them, and stop worrying about the others.
 
Medstart108 said:
However, on the flip side i highly doubt this institution will kick dirt in your face. Chances are they don't even know you or who you are. If they really hated you, they would've rejected you pre-interview. They are also professional enough not to invite someone to interview just to harass them.
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Trust me, they are not. I will hold my comments though and give them a try.
 
Jas1360 said:
Yes, and don't forget you will have plenty of people who are rude or treat you poorly. You can't go through life trying to avoid all those people. Learn to find the people who treat you right, become friends with them, and stop worrying about the others.
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I will try this. Thank you. I hope God is with me and I make it through the day. Hopefully, God will open another door me though as I just don't want to go down that path. If not, I thank God for the opoortunity and I will go along with it.
 
Ppierce baller said:
I finally just got an interview invite!

Except, I'm taking it more of as an insult than anything. The school barely breaks into the top fifty and was literally my last choice. I spent some time there (the undergrad and partly the medical school) and let me just say I hate (and I do not like using the word hate) it there so very much. I applied there because my parents pushed me to apply there and they are making me go to the interview. I have had migraines for two days now and nightmares (I can barely sleep). I hate the culture at the school, and I despise the students there (many, many of whom I know). It is the most hostile environment on this Earth.

I can hide this anger during my interview, but I know their real intent in this. They are going to belittle me the entire interview. The interviewer will drill me and make me feel like I'm not worth anything in the world. They are like that there, I know it.

Man, I'm not so much angry at the school as I am with myself. Why did I put myself in this position? Why wasn't I competitive enough for the UVAs, Hopkins, Harvards, Stanfords of the world? How did my life get to where it is right now? I actually looked down on this institution for so many years of my life and now they will kick dirt on my face while I'm barely crawling through the end of the application season. I wish I could turn my life around and become more competitive for the top programs in the country, but I've run out of time and my parents won't let it go on any longer.

Sorry, this isn't a troll post. I'm just losing it big time and I need some advise.
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Jesus, then why did you apply? Advice? Stop conceding to your parents. Time to grow up. Barely breaks into the top50? I have to go wash the vomit from my mouth hearing this garbage.

Sorry if this comes off as too harsh, but you need a serious wake up call man.
 
Someone finally entered the real world. Like MANY people said before, you should have applied to "low tier" schools, and apply to DO schools.

It's possible that *gasp* you aren't even close to elite. And guess what? Neither is most people! 😀
 
Ppierce baller said:
I finally just got an interview invite!

Except, I'm taking it more of as an insult than anything. The school barely breaks into the top fifty and was literally my last choice. I spent some time there (the undergrad and partly the medical school) and let me just say I hate (and I do not like using the word hate) it there so very much. I applied there because my parents pushed me to apply there and they are making me go to the interview. I have had migraines for two days now and nightmares (I can barely sleep). I hate the culture at the school, and I despise the students there (many, many of whom I know). It is the most hostile environment on this Earth.

I can hide this anger during my interview, but I know their real intent in this. They are going to belittle me the entire interview. The interviewer will drill me and make me feel like I'm not worth anything in the world. They are like that there, I know it.

Man, I'm not so much angry at the school as I am with myself. Why did I put myself in this position? Why wasn't I competitive enough for the UVAs, Hopkins, Harvards, Stanfords of the world? How did my life get to where it is right now? I actually looked down on this institution for so many years of my life and now they will kick dirt on my face while I'm barely crawling through the end of the application season. I wish I could turn my life around and become more competitive for the top programs in the country, but I've run out of time and my parents won't let it go on any longer.

Sorry, this isn't a troll post. I'm just losing it big time and I need some advise.
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0/10. Try being more subtle. Rule number one of successful trolling: DON'T say "this isn't a troll post." That's like someone trying to get you in on a pyramid scheme saying "this isn't a pyramid scheme."
 
Geebeejay said:
Jesus, then why did you apply? Advice? Stop conceding to your parents. Time to grow up. Barely breaks into the top50? I have to go wash the vomit from my mouth hearing this garbage.

Sorry if this comes off as too harsh, but you need a serious wake up call man.
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My parents know best. Look they were right, they pushed me to apply to this place and it turns out that until now it is the only place to even give me a fighting chance. I'm sorry about the top fifty comment, that is not really what bothers me. There is so much more wrong with this situation than rankings, but I have to put it behind me for a day and try hard because it may be my only chance this year.
 
Ppierce baller said:
My parents know best. Look they were right, they pushed me to apply to this place and it turns out that until now it is the only place to even give me a fighting chance. I'm sorry about the top fifty comment, that is not really what bothers me. There is so much more wrong with this situation than rankings, but I have to put it behind me for a day and try hard because it may be my only chance this year.
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I want you to take some time and start figuring out what is right with the institution. Do some research and find all the good you can.
 
Jas1360 said:
I want you to take some time and start figuring out what is right with the institution. Do some research and find all the good you can.
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+1. Get excited and focus on how fortunate you are.
 
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Ppierce baller said:
My parents know best. Look they were right, they pushed me to apply to this place and it turns out that until now it is the only place to even give me a fighting chance. I'm sorry about the top fifty comment, that is not really what bothers me. There is so much more wrong with this situation than rankings, but I have to put it behind me for a day and try hard because it may be my only chance this year.
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You should especially appreciate this school because they actually recognized that you earned your interview spot unlike all of those other schools that didn't seem to realize what they were missing by rejecting you.
 
Ppierce baller said:
I finally just got an interview invite!

Except, I'm taking it more of as an insult than anything. The school barely breaks into the top fifty and was literally my last choice. I spent some time there (the undergrad and partly the medical school) and let me just say I hate (and I do not like using the word hate) it there so very much. I applied there because my parents pushed me to apply there and they are making me go to the interview. I have had migraines for two days now and nightmares (I can barely sleep). I hate the culture at the school, and I despise the students there (many, many of whom I know). It is the most hostile environment on this Earth.

I can hide this anger during my interview, but I know their real intent in this. They are going to belittle me the entire interview. The interviewer will drill me and make me feel like I'm not worth anything in the world. They are like that there, I know it.

Man, I'm not so much angry at the school as I am with myself. Why did I put myself in this position? Why wasn't I competitive enough for the UVAs, Hopkins, Harvards, Stanfords of the world? How did my life get to where it is right now? I actually looked down on this institution for so many years of my life and now they will kick dirt on my face while I'm barely crawling through the end of the application season. I wish I could turn my life around and become more competitive for the top programs in the country, but I've run out of time and my parents won't let it go on any longer.

Sorry, this isn't a troll post. I'm just losing it big time and I need some advise.
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I feel pretty strongly this is a troll post, but the advice for someone in this situation is: get over yourself. You're nothing special, and if you don't want to do this interview, grow some balls and live your life instead of your parents' ideal of a life.
 
Or go to the interview, and purposely troll, making it highly unlikely to get accepted. 😳
 
NickNaylor said:
You should especially appreciate this school because they actually recognized that you earned your interview spot unlike all of those other schools that didn't seem to realize what they were missing by rejecting you.
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Great way of looking at things. All about paradigm!
 
Ppierce baller said:
I finally just got an interview invite!

Except, I'm taking it more of as an insult than anything. The school barely breaks into the top fifty and was literally my last choice. I spent some time there (the undergrad and partly the medical school) and let me just say I hate (and I do not like using the word hate) it there so very much. I applied there because my parents pushed me to apply there and they are making me go to the interview. I have had migraines for two days now and nightmares (I can barely sleep). I hate the culture at the school, and I despise the students there (many, many of whom I know). It is the most hostile environment on this Earth.

I can hide this anger during my interview, but I know their real intent in this. They are going to belittle me the entire interview. The interviewer will drill me and make me feel like I'm not worth anything in the world. They are like that there, I know it.

Man, I'm not so much angry at the school as I am with myself. Why did I put myself in this position? Why wasn't I competitive enough for the UVAs, Hopkins, Harvards, Stanfords of the world? How did my life get to where it is right now? I actually looked down on this institution for so many years of my life and now they will kick dirt on my face while I'm barely crawling through the end of the application season. I wish I could turn my life around and become more competitive for the top programs in the country, but I've run out of time and my parents won't let it go on any longer.

Sorry, this isn't a troll post. I'm just losing it big time and I need some advise.
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Cocaine is a hell of a drug.
 
The school barely breaks into the top fifty
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It doesn't matter if your stats are nearly perfect, every applicant should feel grateful for ANY interview offer. Schools are only interviewing about 10% (or less) of applicants. There's a whole bunch of students who will go thru this whole cycle hearing nothing but crickets. Some/many will have similar (or even better!) stats than you do.

You can ethically make one of two choices:

1) get an attitude adjustment, kiss the ground of this SOM campus when you arrive, ace the interview, and if you're LUCKY to be accepted, matriculate graciously.

2) Admit that you can't overcome your arrogance and withdraw your application.

I don't think I'm alone when I say that you'd be best advised to take a day or so and think about those 2 choices, and then proceed.
 
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Ppierce baller said:
I finally just got an interview invite!

Except, I'm taking it more of as an insult than anything. The school barely breaks into the top fifty and was literally my last choice. I spent some time there (the undergrad and partly the medical school) and let me just say I hate (and I do not like using the word hate) it there so very much. I applied there because my parents pushed me to apply there and they are making me go to the interview. I have had migraines for two days now and nightmares (I can barely sleep). I hate the culture at the school, and I despise the students there (many, many of whom I know). It is the most hostile environment on this Earth.

I can hide this anger during my interview, but I know their real intent in this. They are going to belittle me the entire interview. The interviewer will drill me and make me feel like I'm not worth anything in the world. They are like that there, I know it.

Man, I'm not so much angry at the school as I am with myself. Why did I put myself in this position? Why wasn't I competitive enough for the UVAs, Hopkins, Harvards, Stanfords of the world? How did my life get to where it is right now? I actually looked down on this institution for so many years of my life and now they will kick dirt on my face while I'm barely crawling through the end of the application season. I wish I could turn my life around and become more competitive for the top programs in the country, but I've run out of time and my parents won't let it go on any longer.

Sorry, this isn't a troll post. I'm just losing it big time and I need some advise.
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Wow... I must say I woke up today feeling that this entire process has made me bat**** crazy... but you are on a whole other LEVEL of cray-cray!!!

You need to take a step back and realize that only like 2% of people will "make it" to the level of Stanford, Harvard, etc... you will be lucky to get into any medical school period. There are more than enough qualified applicants to fill every single spot at every school in the US. If this is the only interview you have, then you best make it a damn good one, otherwise you will go through hell re-applying next year (and then you're really going to have something to cry about).
 
It looks like you only applied to SOMs within the top 50 with a 32 MCAT, that's expecting too much.

also, you're now considering getting a PharmD or something else, BUT you wouldn't consider a SOM ranked below 50? does that make any sense at all?????
 
Dude, chill out. I've had 3 interviews in the "top 60" and NOT ONE invited me to be mean. Heck, they were all really nice and came across as selling the school to ME. Got some nice folders, a free lunch, enjoyed spiffy presentations, cool tours, and one even gave me a great pen.

I was you for undergrad- all my friends went to top 10 name brand schools and I went to a state school no one ever heard of 2,000 miles away. One day in the summer before college I was chatting with my favorite teacher and expressed how disappointed in myself I was for not getting into Stanford/UofChicago/etc.

He said, "Do you think they have special books at Harvard that no one else is allowed to read?"

What he said has gotten me through a lot of **** that was all in my head. Medical school curricula is highly regulated and an MD/DO is an MD/DO is an MD/DO. Do you think that med students at Johns Hopkins learn about super secret organs and diseases that only doctors who went to a top 20 medical school can know about?

I'm not an MS1 yet but I have at least figured out that medical school is what YOU make out of it. Took my 4 years of a self-inflicted miserable undergrad to realize that. I will not make the same mistake again and I advise you to do the same.

Starting with going and getting a free lunch and a nice tour!
 
original
 
Are we supposed to feel sorry for you or something??? 😕
 
GallStones said:
Dude, chill out. I've had 3 interviews in the "top 60" and NOT ONE invited me to be mean. Heck, they were all really nice and came across as selling the school to ME. Got some nice folders, a free lunch, enjoyed spiffy presentations, cool tours, and one even gave me a great pen.

I was you for undergrad- all my friends went to top 10 name brand schools and I went to a state school no one ever heard of 2,000 miles away. One day in the summer before college I was chatting with my favorite teacher and expressed how disappointed in myself I was for not getting into Stanford/UofChicago/etc.

He said, "Do you think they have special books at Harvard that no one else is allowed to read?"

What he said has gotten me through a lot of **** that was all in my head. Medical school curricula is highly regulated and an MD/DO is an MD/DO is an MD/DO. Do you think that med students at Johns Hopkins learn about super secret organs and diseases that only doctors who went to a top 20 medical school can know about?

I'm not an MS1 yet but I have at least figured out that medical school is what YOU make out of it. Took my 4 years of a self-inflicted miserable undergrad to realize that. I will not make the same mistake again and I advise you to do the same.

Starting with going and getting a free lunch and a nice tour!
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Wish you can tell this to my dad. When I got into my Top 10 (now 5) undergrad, he was disappointed that I didn't get into Harvard. Now when I got into my beloved state school, he is disappointed I didn't get an interview from one of the Top 20's I applied to. Give me a break, dad, I worked very hard for that (multiple) acceptance.
 
I wish my parents could give me advice once in a while

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Ppierce baller said:
I finally just got an interview invite!

Except, I'm taking it more of as an insult than anything. The school barely breaks into the top fifty and was literally my last choice. I spent some time there (the undergrad and partly the medical school) and let me just say I hate (and I do not like using the word hate) it there so very much. I applied there because my parents pushed me to apply there and they are making me go to the interview. I have had migraines for two days now and nightmares (I can barely sleep). I hate the culture at the school, and I despise the students there (many, many of whom I know). It is the most hostile environment on this Earth.

I can hide this anger during my interview, but I know their real intent in this. They are going to belittle me the entire interview. The interviewer will drill me and make me feel like I'm not worth anything in the world. They are like that there, I know it.

Man, I'm not so much angry at the school as I am with myself. Why did I put myself in this position? Why wasn't I competitive enough for the UVAs, Hopkins, Harvards, Stanfords of the world? How did my life get to where it is right now? I actually looked down on this institution for so many years of my life and now they will kick dirt on my face while I'm barely crawling through the end of the application season. I wish I could turn my life around and become more competitive for the top programs in the country, but I've run out of time and my parents won't let it go on any longer.

Sorry, this isn't a troll post. I'm just losing it big time and I need some advise.
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Apply to DO school, at least then you'll know for sure your life will suck as it does for anyone choosing to go that direction. I was dismayed when US News and World Report barely paid attention to our DO school system, so I hope you don't mind being in the "non-ranked" schools out there. One cool thing is that our white coats are actually a light beige color, so they are better at hiding stains. I was recently disappointed to get a long alabaster white coat that didn't show the distinctiveness of my education. I guess I'll have to stick with showing patients what a student from a "non-ranked" school can do.

If you know you're responding to a troll with a troll response, does that mean you're actually taking it seriously? I hope not. See you dancing to the pistachio commercials tomorrow; I'm glad my school heavily reinforced this style during OMM class. On second thought, get some Haldol and sleep for for the next 24 hours, and when you wake up, this delusion of grandeur and persecution should be gone.
 
Feb. - Apr. brings the best SDN posts.
 
I have to say, this kinda reminds me of Harold & Kumar, where Kumar is forced to go to medical school by his overbearing father/surgeon. We all know what happens to Kumar in the beginning of A Very Harold & Kumar 3D Christmas...

But in all seriousness, you're an adult now. Make your own decisions in life. Yes it's tough trying to please your parents and whatnot, but what's the point of going to medical school against your own will? You're just gonna be miserable for the rest of your life...
 
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