( I hope I don't get chewed out here 
) So here goes, I am a foreign medical graduate, passed USMLEs with okay scores. Got into the residency of my choice, had some hiccups in the beginning- failed July August rotations, got placed on remediation. However, continued to work my ass off and did well on rest of the rotations, basically, everyone saw how well I did and noticed a stark difference.
During this time, I was married and my SO ( significant other) was also looking for residency. I spoke with the chairman and rest of the committee who were impressed enough with me at that time, gave my SO an interview and eventually we both were in the same program, Me as a senior and SO as my intern. Basically, life seemed set at that point, but the universe had a totally different plan
My SO and I were always having problems, so much so in spite of our best efforts, there were even physical altercations ( I know, I am not proud of this). Everything was always at home nothing ever happened at work until one day my SO basically took my phone while I was doing a very intensive rotation and this could have led to potential patient harm. They were thinking I was sleeping around and wanted to do their investigation. This type of behavior (potential patient harm, not the accusation) was crossing the line for me. After some serious thinking (I think I should have discussed with someone else) I decided to speak with PD and tell them what really happened. PD seemed very understanding and they said they will speak the other party ( my SO) involved.
They spoke and apparently put my SO on suspension until further notice. PD and the DEAN OF GME spoke with my SO. During their discussions, my SO mentioned about the physical altercations and said they acted out at work because of all the emotional stress and physical altercations at home (basically saying I was violent). PD and GME thought there might be something called TITLE IX violation( yeah.. look this up... historically used for sexual misconduct now even includes domestic problems).
So, basically, tables were turned on me. Even though I was the person who brought up this to PD's attention I was put on administrative leave until they conduct further investigation, which included SO and me interviewing separately.
Weeks turned into months and the final result was something really unexpected. We BOTH were found in violation of this TITLE IX, even though my SO was not even accused party. I said oh perfect finally time to go back to work, but when I sat down with the dean and PD, they recommended I should resign from my position, either that or they will put sanctions that could include termination from the Program.
I asked, again and again, what do the sanctions include, but PD simply said, let's focus more on termination part. We ( my SO and I ) were given only hand full of days, I spoke with whomever I could and that's when a TITLE IX expert told me, its unlikely they will fire one of you, but there still is a likelihood of them terminating both of you.
One thing I didn't mention, my SO and I have kids together. So, if we both were to lose our jobs, that would have been really bad. So after a lot of contemplation, I spoke with the PD and gave in my resignation letter. PD accepted and we discussed if they can consider keeping my SO at least for the sake of our kids, they listened and allowed my SO to continue with residency training. I am pretty sure there were some or
After resignation, the time came to get on the grind and get back into a program who would take me. I was able to get 4 LORs plus 'letter of good standing' from the PD. Reason I put letter of good standing quote is, it basically explains what happened during my time there- including my failed rotations ( with no explanation of which months which were July and August and how I and only I was found to be in violation of TILE IX secondary to domestic violence which led me to resign, basically no mention of how I was as a resident overall and what the PD thought about me, nothing even though I had decent evaluations). Applied through the match with 5-6 IVs and went unmatched. Bunch PL2s have opened up since and have told me again and again that we cannot hire someone who had to leave secondary to professionalism issues.
Since that time been working as an Assitant physician with doctors here and there, and trying to survive on menial jobs. My question for anyone who cares to answer is, I have done 20 months of training, is there a way I can get a GP license or maybe a research gig based on what my file looks like?
Any help will be appreciated, ( and please be nice, been going through a lot).
) So here goes, I am a foreign medical graduate, passed USMLEs with okay scores. Got into the residency of my choice, had some hiccups in the beginning- failed July August rotations, got placed on remediation. However, continued to work my ass off and did well on rest of the rotations, basically, everyone saw how well I did and noticed a stark difference. During this time, I was married and my SO ( significant other) was also looking for residency. I spoke with the chairman and rest of the committee who were impressed enough with me at that time, gave my SO an interview and eventually we both were in the same program, Me as a senior and SO as my intern. Basically, life seemed set at that point, but the universe had a totally different plan
My SO and I were always having problems, so much so in spite of our best efforts, there were even physical altercations ( I know, I am not proud of this). Everything was always at home nothing ever happened at work until one day my SO basically took my phone while I was doing a very intensive rotation and this could have led to potential patient harm. They were thinking I was sleeping around and wanted to do their investigation. This type of behavior (potential patient harm, not the accusation) was crossing the line for me. After some serious thinking (I think I should have discussed with someone else) I decided to speak with PD and tell them what really happened. PD seemed very understanding and they said they will speak the other party ( my SO) involved.
They spoke and apparently put my SO on suspension until further notice. PD and the DEAN OF GME spoke with my SO. During their discussions, my SO mentioned about the physical altercations and said they acted out at work because of all the emotional stress and physical altercations at home (basically saying I was violent). PD and GME thought there might be something called TITLE IX violation( yeah.. look this up... historically used for sexual misconduct now even includes domestic problems).
So, basically, tables were turned on me. Even though I was the person who brought up this to PD's attention I was put on administrative leave until they conduct further investigation, which included SO and me interviewing separately.
Weeks turned into months and the final result was something really unexpected. We BOTH were found in violation of this TITLE IX, even though my SO was not even accused party. I said oh perfect finally time to go back to work, but when I sat down with the dean and PD, they recommended I should resign from my position, either that or they will put sanctions that could include termination from the Program.
I asked, again and again, what do the sanctions include, but PD simply said, let's focus more on termination part. We ( my SO and I ) were given only hand full of days, I spoke with whomever I could and that's when a TITLE IX expert told me, its unlikely they will fire one of you, but there still is a likelihood of them terminating both of you.
One thing I didn't mention, my SO and I have kids together. So, if we both were to lose our jobs, that would have been really bad
. So after a lot of contemplation, I spoke with the PD and gave in my resignation letter. PD accepted and we discussed if they can consider keeping my SO at least for the sake of our kids, they listened and allowed my SO to continue with residency training. I am pretty sure there were some or After resignation, the time came to get on the grind and get back into a program who would take me. I was able to get 4 LORs plus 'letter of good standing' from the PD. Reason I put letter of good standing quote is, it basically explains what happened during my time there- including my failed rotations ( with no explanation of which months which were July and August and how I and only I was found to be in violation of TILE IX secondary to domestic violence which led me to resign, basically no mention of how I was as a resident overall and what the PD thought about me, nothing even though I had decent evaluations). Applied through the match with 5-6 IVs and went unmatched. Bunch PL2s have opened up since and have told me again and again that we cannot hire someone who had to leave secondary to professionalism issues.
Since that time been working as an Assitant physician with doctors here and there, and trying to survive on menial jobs. My question for anyone who cares to answer is, I have done 20 months of training, is there a way I can get a GP license or maybe a research gig based on what my file looks like?
Any help will be appreciated, ( and please be nice, been going through a lot).
