Need Serious Advice!!

[Brandie28]

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I got in a argument last night with my husband and one thing led to another and we got to talking about our future. I am 24 and he is 25. He wants kids and all but I said not til I am done with school. He said well how much longer is it going to take? I said I don't know. He said well you know if you can't do it you can't do it.🙁 Because this is my second year applying. I was totally crushed and now I feel like such a failure I don't know what to do. Maybe I should just give up. I wanted this more then anything and now my motivation has gone to nothing because of his comment. I was planning on studying all weekend (again) since I am taking the PCAT on the 23rd but now I have no desire. Any advice from you guys? What should I do?😕

 

[Flares]

I got in a argument last night with my husband and one thing led to another and we got to talking about our future. I am 24 and he is 25. He wants kids and all but I said not til I am done with school. He said well how much longer is it going to take? I said I don't know. He said well you know if you can't do it you can't do it.🙁 Because this is my second year applying. I was totally crushed and now I feel like such a failure I don't know what to do. Maybe I should just give up. I wanted this more then anything and now my motivation has gone to nothing because of his comment. I was planning on studying all weekend (again) since I am taking the PCAT on the 23rd but now I have no desire. Any advice from you guys? What should I do?😕

Where are your weaknesses?

What is your science/math GPA? What did you get on your last PCAT, exactly?

How far are you away from B.S? Have you done any volunteering or relevant work lately?

It is important to keep your goals in sight. If this is what you want to do in life, you need to stick to it.

I have a feeling that your issue is with your PCAT scores since you have mentioned those but not your grades. Some people just don't perform well on high stress tests like those. You should analyze your weaknesses from your last one and just study, study, study.

I don't think your husband is trying to discourage you. The fact that he wants to have children should already remind you of how much he loves you. However, sometimes goals that go against eachother can conflict, and that's normal. Don't let it get you down.

 

[Brandie28]

Where are your weaknesses?

What is your science/math GPA? What did you get on your last PCAT, exactly?

How far are you away from B.S? Have you done any volunteering or relevant work lately?

It is important to keep your goals in sight. If this is what you want to do in life, you need to stick to it.

I have a feeling that your issue is with your PCAT scores since you have mentioned those but not your grades. Some people just don't perform well on high stress tests like those. You should analyze your weaknesses from your last one and just study, study, study.

I don't think your husband is trying to discourage you. The fact that he wants to have children should already remind you of how much he loves you. However, sometimes goals that go against eachother can conflict, and that's normal. Don't let it get you down.

My M/S GPA is 3.4 and last PCAT I got a 72. The PCAT is definitely my weakness! I have been studying non-stop for a couple of months now so we'll see how it goes. I don't volunteer I work FT at CVS Pharmacy as a Lead Tech....been there for about 3.5 years. As for a B.S I am probably 1.5 years away...unfortunately I haven't made getting a B.S priority. Thanks for the reply! I just feel so confused anymore about my life...I appreciate your words of encouragement!

 

[Flares]

My M/S GPA is 3.4 and last PCAT I got a 72. The PCAT is definitely my weakness! I have been studying non-stop for a couple of months now so we'll see how it goes. I don't volunteer I work FT at CVS Pharmacy as a Lead Tech....been there for about 3.5 years. As for a B.S I am probably 1.5 years away...unfortunately I haven't made getting a B.S priority. Thanks for the reply! I just feel so confused anymore about my life...I appreciate your words of encouragement!

You're in better shape then you realize. Your PCAT is 'average'. Review your materials and focus on any deep weaknesses based on your last PCAT scores. Normally you can see an area that will easily pump your composite to 80-85+ if improved on.

Consider reevaluating your personal statements. Have them proofed by a writing center at your university or college. Most colleges have one and do it for free. Consider writing about the dedication you are going through reapplying to these schools and how that transcends to your desire to go to pharmacy school.

You're too close to give up now. Keep at it! 🙂

 

[mmafan]

Try to forget the unpleasant remark from your husband. In the heat of an argument, we sometimes say what we don't mean. He may very well be feeling bad about what he said at this moment.

 

[Farcus]

not to sound rude but my advice for you would of been never to get married or get involved in a serious relationship when you're that young.

 

[tootoo30]

not to sound rude but my advice for you would of been never to get married or get involved in a serious relationship when you're that young.

Is there an age limit on when and how you fall in love and who you fall in love with? I just think you both got caught up in the heat of the moment and he knew how to push your buttons. I think you M/S GPA is pretty competitive, how is your overall. Maybe you need to broaden your applications to include many other states. Take what he said with a grain of salt, because in my opinion he loves you and wants to be with you he's just being selfish right now. I get the same thing from my boyfriend, he doesn't understand that getting into pharmacy school is very competitive and I have to study alot.

 

[Brandie28]

Thanks everyone...even though I don't know you all very well your input means a lot to me!!

 

[sle3pyguii]

Hey, don't worry about what your husband said. I'm sure he didn't mean it.

Just focus on your PCAT for now. No point in studying half-assed for a test you already paid for. That and the PCAT is pretty important in pharmacy school admissions. Your GPA is fine, and your pharmacy experience is awesome. I would recommend trying to get your bachelor's soon. i'm not saying you should rush it, but it would help your application if you didn't get in.

Which state do you live in? Some state schools actually prefer to take their own in-states. Have you also thought of non-PCAT schools? Are you able to move to a different state for school?

 

[Brandie28]

I live in Florida and I really would prefer to stay here because my husband can't move because of his job. I did apply to MCPHS-Boston because they don't require the PCAT.

 

[mrblah]

I got in a argument last night with my husband and one thing led to another and we got to talking about our future. I am 24 and he is 25. He wants kids and all but I said not til I am done with school. He said well how much longer is it going to take? I said I don't know. He said well you know if you can't do it you can't do it.🙁 Because this is my second year applying. I was totally crushed and now I feel like such a failure I don't know what to do. Maybe I should just give up. I wanted this more then anything and now my motivation has gone to nothing because of his comment. I was planning on studying all weekend (again) since I am taking the PCAT on the 23rd but now I have no desire. Any advice from you guys? What should I do?😕

sorry but your hubby is a *****hole. You should tell him that there is more to life than working at cvs as a tech and having kids. I don't know what your husband does for a living but I highly doubt you and him will be living comfortably if u go on maternity on a tech's pay rate + whatever he makes.

Make a compromise somewhere, tell him u will have kids before 30 but until then, u should have the freedom to pursue a career that will support a comfortable lifestyle for you and your future family. If he still doesn't listen, then call him a do#chebag 🙂

 

[Pharmpills]

I live in Florida and I really would prefer to stay here because my husband can't move because of his job. I did apply to MCPHS-Boston because they don't require the PCAT.

My advice would be to try your best to do better on the pcat and apply early as possible and not wait for scores because a 72 is not too bad. With your current pcat it's unlikely you might get into a FL school but again it's possible but if i were you i would definitely apply to other schools. The GREAT news is that you don't have kids yet so you don't need to worry about leaving them or taking them with you to another state. Do not settle for working your butt off for a few dollars a week bc if your husband leaves you then u will have nothing so you should always remember that. Alot of divorce happen in this country so consider what if u dont go to pharm school bc you are afraid to leave and in time he leaves you then you have nothing and need to struggle to pay bills.

If you end up going away then so be it bc if he trully loves you then he will wait or come with you period.

 

[jhafez87]

My advice would be to try your best to do better on the pcat and apply early as possible and not wait for scores because a 72 is not too bad. With your current pcat it's unlikely you might get into a FL school but again it's possible but if i were you i would definitely apply to other schools. The GREAT news is that you don't have kids yet so you don't need to worry about leaving them or taking them with you to another state. Do not settle for working your butt off for a few dollars a week bc if your husband leaves you then u will have nothing so you should always remember that. Alot of divorce happen in this country so consider what if u dont go to pharm school bc you are afraid to leave and in time he leaves you then you have nothing and need to struggle to pay bills.

If you end up going away then so be it bc if he trully loves you then he will wait or come with you period.

great post !

 

[JoJo1972]

Wow! Let me start by saying it is your life. If you let him persuade and deter you from your goals you may feel resentment towards him. This is not a good thing in a marriage. I speak from experience. I am now divorced from the man that controlled my life for so many years. I have remarried and he too would like children. I waivered for a couple years, but finally decided against more children. I became a tech in 2005, and my husband was not fully behind me on this idea. I insisted and now he is my biggest supporter in me taking it to the next level.

 

[PrepharmKID]

This is not the first time I have heard of a couple getting in fight like this. I'm 24 and I know that of about 10 friends that have been married, 7 have divorced for this reason. Got married too young and never had a chance to fully comprehend their life goals. Maybe you 2 should evaluate whether you want to stay together or not. Pharmacy school is not easy on a relationship. Wanting kids just before starting, IMO is kind of irresponsible if your relationship itself needs work. I'm probably the only person in my crew "group" of friends whose parents are still together and its primarily cause my parents were older when they got married and had kids.

I think you are right on track for school. DOnt be discouraged. Apply. Push yourself and great things will come from it.