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my friend had a bad experience.
not good to date or be close friends with classmate!
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docmemi said:
i think in general it is a bad idea. but from talking to previous classes, they say it's not so bad during the clinical years b/c there is less contact b/w classmates.
may i suggest writing an emo song about it? maybe singing it at some school function. levity can make the situation a little better.
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But what if she is fat? then its ok right?, cuz then its just between u and her...
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i mean, real life isn't sex in the city...so unless you plan only to date strangers, people in your class aren't a bad option.
But yeah, i understand what you're going through. Don't worry, you'd be surprised at how much time can do. .
But yeah, i understand what you're going through. Don't worry, you'd be surprised at how much time can do. .
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Being professional and detached is ok too. I like alot of my classmates, but not all of them. I don't want to get into anything with any of them, and I try and keep up my personal life outside of school.
With the pressures of medical school, even simple friendships in class can blow up in your face and so I try and be careful.
With the pressures of medical school, even simple friendships in class can blow up in your face and so I try and be careful.
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Knowing that it's bad, rationally speaking, is one thing. Being able to resist the temptation is a whole 'nother ballgame. 🙂
Some of my best friendships have come out of medical school because of the many experiences that have bonded us together in a strong way. There are so many medical schoole experiences where if I hadn't been able to laugh about it with it with my classmates it just would have been really painful. . However, I defintiely agree that relationships outside of medical school are extremely necessary as well.
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Dating a classmate could be trouble, I could see, but don't be close friends? I hope to make some good friends in med school.
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TheProwler said:
I agree, and would love to make some good friends here in med school. I am just trying to be careful, because it can be so easy to misunderstand/get feelings hurt/feel competitive, etc. It's the pressure-cooker environment, I think. There are alot of people that I like and I am hoping that over the next few years some solid friendships will develop.
I think if you two ppl like each other enough, they should go for it regardless of whether they are classmates, intern, resident, etc. It's already hard meeting ppl when you are in medicine...yeah sometimes it will suck if you have to break up and see them and work with them all the time, but eventually you'll get over it....time heals all wounds as they say.
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btw, I am sorry that you feel so hurt. I hope you feel better soon. I broke up with someone I had been seeing for years in Nov and thought I will never get over the pain....now I am completely over him and ready to move on....I hope you feel better soon too.
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azzarah said:
Have to agree here. I'm one of four couples in my MS2 class who are currently engaged. My fiance is actually the one who keeps me on top of studying and yells at me for reading posts while I should be studying. Without her I'd probably still be in medical school, but not sure on how well I'd be doing.
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I have to disagree with a lot of the posters here. It's pretty unrealistic to just tell yourself you're going to "avoid serious relationships" in whatever venue you choose. We spend almost all of our time with our classmates, they are the majority of personal society for us, and it's only natural that people get together within the class. I'm in one of several class couples, just a few days from being at a 1 year anniversary, and although for about 10 seconds I considered not dating within my class, you can, at times, be making a decision that will alter your entire life. While break-ups are always difficult, and seeing the person every day in class would, I agree, be REALLY hard, to shut out an entire sector of your life from having the chance to offer you something great is really quite drastic. It may not seem that way, and it may seem like a more "professional" policy to not date within the class, trust me, professional and safe are not always the right way to go. I'd urge you to not shut down a whole part of your life as a possibility for being more than a workplace. You just never know who is sitting across the room.
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I totally agree. I've had "friendships" blow-up. I can't imagine the worse hell I'd be going through if anything beyond friendship had been going on. Choose your friends wisely.Paws said:I agree, and would love to make some good friends here in med school. I am just trying to be careful, because it can be so easy to misunderstand/get feelings hurt/feel competitive, etc. It's the pressure-cooker environment, I think. There are alot of people that I like and I am hoping that over the next few years some solid friendships will develop.
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OSUdoc08 said:
That is so true...it came back to bite me is the a$$. I start school this fall with a guy I hooked up with one night in a drunken stupor...meeting him at revisit was as awkward as hell for the both of us. How was I to know he would have been in my med class? ARGGGGGGHHHH! I just hope we don't end up lab partners...we do are best to ignore the situation as it is.
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You've got to be kidding me. I thought one trait med schools look for is emotional stability. If you can't date or befriend someone without having to worry about fighting and the outcome, maybe you should re-evaluate yourself. All I can say is grow up and welcome to reality.
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docmemi said:
Familiarity breeds Contempt----- and Children!!
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It's okay to date other students, or have an attending/resident relationship. ...That's what Meredith Grey learned on the new TV show, Grey's Anatomy. "O brave new world that has such people in it."
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The way I hear it, some SDNers only go to class for exams and labs. So, I guess they'd never even know anyone well enough to hook up, but even if they did, they wouldn't see them in class after a breakup.siempre595 said:
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That guy has such great quotes.DrGarfield said:
I hope to make some really great friends/etc. in med school. Pressure to perform and competition is going to be a regular part of life in this profession; does that mean I shouldn't expect to make friends with anyone for the rest of my life as an M.D.?
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yeah but a no-strings-attached hookup with a classmate doesn't *always* have to end poorly. 🙂 sometimes you can even be friends!
for the record, my current bf and the vast majority of my social circle are all not in med school. and i like it that way. just sometimes, well, you're attracted to who you're attracted to. and that's it.
for the record, my current bf and the vast majority of my social circle are all not in med school. and i like it that way. just sometimes, well, you're attracted to who you're attracted to. and that's it.
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Come on guys.... Let's be real. There is sooo much inbreeding in medical school. I am in a class of 20, and I can't believe how many mixing and matching we do. I haven't seen any blowups yet. Yeah, it takes some balls to be a mature person and face up to hard situations in life, but come on guys....
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What about other students in senior years of Med school? Do yall see each other at all? Perhaps you can date them. Is there a student organisation comprising all med students or is there one for each class? It is really a dilemna to try and maintain professionality and also try to date in your class. Thats why Im really looking forward to attend UofA in 2006 - They are building a new campus in Phoenix with school of Nursing, Pharmacy and a genome research facility within the same complex. So I got more options. Nurses, Pharmarcist, researchers - its gonna be fun 😀
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