NPR Article: Finding A Husband Before Graduation

[BMBiology]

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http://www.npr.org/2013/04/04/176191335/a-letter-on-finding-a-husband-before-graduation-spurs-debate

 

[Ackj]

Please unban SHC, if only for this thread.

 

[BMBiology]

That's funny! She would love this thread. Actually, I would like to dedicate this thread to her.

 

[Ackj]

Regardless of the caliber of mate you're selecting, college is probably your best bet to find one, period. Where else are you going to meet so many people in your age range in a social/informal setting? The fact that they're successful is icing on the cake.

 

[confettiflyer]

Seriously, banning SHC was the worst forum/management decision ever made. This place is boring now.

Kind of how SDN1977 leaving was a major intellectual loss for the forum.

Piss poor decision making. Oh well. IDGAF.

 

[BMBiology]

This place is boring now.

Should I start another student loan thread? Maybe that would spice things up! 😳

 

[confettiflyer]

Should I start another student loan thread? Maybe that would spice things up! 😳

i'd end up wrassling you or something

 

[npage148]

Seriously, banning SHC was the worst forum/management decision ever made. This place is boring now.

Kind of how SDN1977 leaving was a major intellectual loss for the forum.

Piss poor decision making. Oh well. IDGAF.

You can say it was a bad decision but her shtick was tiresome and not very entertaining unless you where a complete syncophant like her.

 

[WVUPharm2007]

It amuses me seeing women in their late 20s/early 30s complaining that they can't find a man. If you look at studies, women expect to find a mate that is at LEAST equal to them intellectually and financially. Thanks to feminism's over-reaching policies that totally forgot to include correctly educating boys, men now only get about 40% of the degrees and in young adults single women now make more money on average than single men. So now there are more women in higher status and less men in higher status. Which means that the number of women who can marry up are declining. Which means that, even though the marriage rate is declining and more single men are out there, that they "can't find a man." Of course, they don't tell you that they require a man that's over 6' tall, makes at least $150,000 a year, will buy them a European luxury sedan, is funny as hell, and will treat them like a queen. Something like 4 dudes like this exist. Because they can't find senor perfecto...they can't find a man. Not to mention the fact that men don't want to marry anymore because its a good 50% chance you'll lose everything when your wife decides she wants to start banging the pool boy.

**** is amusing to me.

I married someone in college. I'm doing just fine. If you want a man and a family, I'd suggest it. Otherwise, the successful men will just marry women that are younger than you when you are "ready." If I was single, I wouldn't even glance at women my age (29, 'bout to be 30). 23-25 would be my range for permanent girlfriend material, I think.

So Mr Perfect doesn't want you because you are old and men in general don't want marriage because its unfair to them. If you're not married by the time you are 30, get a cat or a puppy. They will love you. That or change your expectations. A balding, hard working guy who makes it as a plumber that thinks you're swell isn't a terrible thing. If men went centuries marrying down, eventually women should hypothetically realize that they can too. Unless they don't. Then we'll have a birth rate crisis, I guess.

I'm going to invest in pet products and sperm banks in the mean time.

 

[mustang sally]

It amuses me seeing women in their late 20s/early 30s complaining that they can't find a man. If you look at studies, women expect to find a mate that is at LEAST equal to them intellectually and financially. Thanks to feminism's over-reaching policies that totally forgot to include correctly educating boys, men now only get about 40% of the degrees and in young adults single women now make more money on average than single men. So now there are more women in higher status and less men in higher status. Which means that the number of women who can marry up are declining. Which means that, even though the marriage rate is declining and more single men are out there, that they "can't find a man." Of course, they don't tell you that they require a man that's over 6' tall, makes at least $150,000 a year, will buy them a European luxury sedan, is funny as hell, and will treat them like a queen. Something like 4 dudes like this exist. Because they can't find senor perfecto...they can't find a man. Not to mention the fact that men don't want to marry anymore because its a good 50% chance you'll lose everything when your wife decides she wants to start banging the pool boy.

**** is amusing to me.

I married someone in college. I'm doing just fine. If you want a man and a family, I'd suggest it. Otherwise, the successful men will just marry women that are younger than you when you are "ready." If I was single, I wouldn't even glance at women my age (29, 'bout to be 30). 23-25 would be my range for permanent girlfriend material, I think.

So Mr Perfect doesn't want you because you are old and men in general don't want marriage because its unfair to them. If you're not married by the time you are 30, get a cat or a puppy. They will love you. That or change your expectations. A balding, hard working guy who makes it as a plumber that thinks you're swell isn't a terrible thing. If men went centuries marrying down, eventually women should hypothetically realize that they can too. Unless they don't. Then we'll have a birth rate crisis, I guess.

I'm going to invest in pet products and sperm banks in the mean time.

This is so true and an interesting point about society that I hadn't thought of before. Thank God I got married young before I had all of this higher education and such high standards for myself.

 

[xiphoid2010]

Regardless of the caliber of mate you're selecting, college is probably your best bet to find one, period. Where else are you going to meet so many people in your age range in a social/informal setting? The fact that they're successful is icing on the cake.

Agreed. Met my wife in pharmacy school, and many paired up are married now too. I think people took way too much of a politically correct stance on an issue, again. There is truth in her words, even if it was a stereotype and not very PC. But who cares? Why does everything has to be PC? This is just an opinion piece on a campus paper, a million different ones in different say. Why so serious?

 

[Lubeckd]

Agreed. Met my wife in pharmacy school, and many paired up are married now too. I think people took way too much of a politically correct stance on an issue, again. There is truth in her words, even if it was a stereotype and not very PC. But who cares? Why does everything has to be PC? This is just an opinion piece on a campus paper, a million different ones in different say. Why so serious?

Really? Wow. I never thought of it that way. I always thought the rule was never date anyone in your class o.o.

 

[xiphoid2010]

Seriously, banning SHC was the worst forum/management decision ever made. This place is boring now.

Kind of how SDN1977 leaving was a major intellectual loss for the forum.

Piss poor decision making. Oh well. IDGAF.

Yeah, I miss her. Not just because she was asian. She was so entertaining in a beer and bag of popcorn kind of way. 😳

 

[xiphoid2010]

Really? Wow. I never thought of it that way. I always thought the rule was never date anyone in your class o.o.

Yes, and I have advised the same to people here. The rule of thumb is not to date someone in your class because if it goes bad, you are stuck for 4 years. There are those of us who beat the odds, but more crashed and was awkward for a long time. Hey, if you want to date another pharmacy student, why not date the class ahead or after?

 

[Momus]

Why I have a pre-nup agreement on hand >_> cost $600 to make at legalzoom.com...

 

[rph3664]

Of course, they don't tell you that they require a man that's over 6' tall, makes at least $150,000 a year, will buy them a European luxury sedan, is funny as hell, and will treat them like a queen. Something like 4 dudes like this exist. (snip)

And 3 of them are gay.

(snip)

If I was single, I wouldn't even glance at women my age (29, 'bout to be 30). 23-25 would be my range for permanent girlfriend material, I think.

So, what would you do with the 23-year-old leaves that age range? Trade her in for a younger model?

 

[rph3664]

Yes, and I have advised the same to people here. The rule of thumb is not to date someone in your class because if it goes bad, you are stuck for 4 years. There are those of us who beat the odds, but more crashed and was awkward for a long time. Hey, if you want to date another pharmacy student, why not date the class ahead or after?

I can think of 3 couples in my class who got married. One of them has no children (and the husband isn't working in pharmacy any more either, and hasn't for quite some time), another has 5 kids 😱, and the other had 2 kids and got divorced several years ago. 🙁 They were pretty much the last couple I ever thought would do that, too but then again, a lot can happen in almost 20 years.

 

[WVUPharm2007]

So, what would you do with the 23-year-old leaves that age range? Trade her in for a younger model?

If I was single, that would probably sound fine with me.

 

[ThunderThighs]

If I was single, that would probably sound fine with me.

Why does it matter whether you're single or not? By your own admission, you are willing to trade in your current significant other for a 23 year old. Unless I totally misunderstood.

 

[Ackj]

Why does it matter whether you're single or not? By your own admission, you are willing to trade in your current significant other for a 23 year old. Unless I totally misunderstood.

Because in that scenario, they wouldn't be a "significant" other, they would just be an other.

Like with a car you lease vs. the first one you bought and drove for 150,000. If you trade them in every 2 years, you can't get too attached.

 

[confettiflyer]

Because in that scenario, they wouldn't be a "significant" other, they would just be an other.

Like with a car you lease vs. the first one you bought and drove for 150,000. If you trade them in every 2 years, you can't get too attached.

Using that analogy, you can always go to the car rental counter

 

[WVUPharm2007]

Why does it matter whether you're single or not? By your own admission, you are willing to trade in your current significant other for a 23 year old. Unless I totally misunderstood.

Nah, never. I lubs her too much.

 

[cycloketocaine]

I got married when I was 19, and one divorce later, I don't recommend that. I met my future hubs at work, he's an attending. And 9 years older than me.