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I read Bessel van der Kolk's "The Body Keeps the Score," and I've realized that I have trauma reactions about my job all the time.
My state is a disconnect between the role I play, that of the confident, calm, self-assured specialist who can keep their head in a crisis and come up with a solution, and the person that I am, who feels constantly in danger and ill-equipped to do much of anything. Not physical danger per se, but professional and emotional danger. In physical danger, I know what to do, just get the heck out and call security. Emotional and professional danger is more complicated. Patients angry at you, patients complaining, or simply going into a situation and not being able to come up with a plan, or bungling things under pressure. A bad outcome resulting in an institutional investigation, a board investigation, a lawsuit, or simply colleagues' censure. That kind of danger. In the end everything usually works out and I am able to come up with some reasonable intervention, but somehow that doesn't "teach" me that yes, I am capable, and yes, everything will probably be alright.
I changed to a job with a slightly more stable, worried well population, but suicidal, homicidal, substance abusing, and capacity-lacking patients are everywhere. I feel unsafe when I know I am responsible for their violent and self-harming behaviors, yet am ill-equipped to mitigate the risk.
Switching jobs helped, since now at least my staff doesn't give me pushback when I ask them to do something.
I spend my days off self soothing myself back to a state where I'm ready to face it all again. Working less is not a solution because I just worry about all the fires I'm not there to put out - though, again, with more reliable coverage and support staff at new job this has improved a bit.
My therapist is unhelpful. He is an older private practice MD who does mostly therapy. I thought he'd be able to understand what I am going through, and he does, but all he does by way of counsel is pontificate about his fringey views and how jaded modern psychiatry makes him. I tried giving him feedback, but that hasn't helped. I might need to find a different therapist.
Idk what to do. Looking for perspective or guidance, I guess.
My state is a disconnect between the role I play, that of the confident, calm, self-assured specialist who can keep their head in a crisis and come up with a solution, and the person that I am, who feels constantly in danger and ill-equipped to do much of anything. Not physical danger per se, but professional and emotional danger. In physical danger, I know what to do, just get the heck out and call security. Emotional and professional danger is more complicated. Patients angry at you, patients complaining, or simply going into a situation and not being able to come up with a plan, or bungling things under pressure. A bad outcome resulting in an institutional investigation, a board investigation, a lawsuit, or simply colleagues' censure. That kind of danger. In the end everything usually works out and I am able to come up with some reasonable intervention, but somehow that doesn't "teach" me that yes, I am capable, and yes, everything will probably be alright.
I changed to a job with a slightly more stable, worried well population, but suicidal, homicidal, substance abusing, and capacity-lacking patients are everywhere. I feel unsafe when I know I am responsible for their violent and self-harming behaviors, yet am ill-equipped to mitigate the risk.
Switching jobs helped, since now at least my staff doesn't give me pushback when I ask them to do something.
I spend my days off self soothing myself back to a state where I'm ready to face it all again. Working less is not a solution because I just worry about all the fires I'm not there to put out - though, again, with more reliable coverage and support staff at new job this has improved a bit.
My therapist is unhelpful. He is an older private practice MD who does mostly therapy. I thought he'd be able to understand what I am going through, and he does, but all he does by way of counsel is pontificate about his fringey views and how jaded modern psychiatry makes him. I tried giving him feedback, but that hasn't helped. I might need to find a different therapist.
Idk what to do. Looking for perspective or guidance, I guess.
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