texas_dds said:
women absolutely are fickle, i know since i am one
so are men - that is human
here is how my mom encouraged me to be a dds:
she said the right man would come a long no matter what, but that is an entirely separate issue from your development as an educated person. do what you are interested in, be everything you can be - your family will be behind you one thousand percent. and becoming so educated will limit your pool of potential mates, a lot of men are turned off or intimidated by intelligent well paid women - but those are the guys you're trying to weed out anyways.
and here i am, about to graduate and thinking about specializing
i get nervous sometimes about the biological clock, cause once i'm done w/ortho i will be almost 30, and then i'll be working
a thought i know i share w/many women trying to "do it all" :
hope my eggs dont all die before the right one comes along 😱
Dear Texas_dds and all women in dentistry,
I know that a lot of people will be unhappy with what I write but I think I have a rational argument. Women-you can't have all at the same time!!!!
I think it is impossible to have it all. In one way or another , one aspect of your life is doomed for failure. You cannot compare youself being a mother and FULL TIME dentist compared to a woman who is a full time stay at home mother. I repeat you CANNOT be it all! Unfortunately, the feminist movement has misled a lot of modern day young women into the delusion that they could have a successful full time career, be a successful full time mother , a successful wife and still have time to have a social life!!!! PLEASE give me a break! Wake up!
My mother was a stay at home mom even though my dad did not earn a 6 figure salary. My mother believed it was better to sacrifice her own needs/luxuries for her children. She wanted to be there during those early years to monitor us- give us moral principles, affection, discipline etc. And I can tell you she has no regrets because her kids turned out all straight and happy. Motherhood is more important than having a career- it's the most important and toughest job in the world. If I have kids, I would feel so guilty of being a full time dentist- I would really have to cut back my hours- at least for the first years.
A woman who works full time and drops off her kids at a nursery since they are but a few months old, cannot say she is the best mother in the world! How can you say that having a stranger raise your kids during most of the day and you having the kids in the evening when you barely have time to take care of them ( you have to clean the house, attend to your husband and cook ) be called a successful mother? Your children will grow attached to those that take care of them during their waking hours.
As for me, if I ever become a mother I want to be there for all the "firsts"...first words, first baby steps etc. and at most work as a dentist on a part time dentist and only return to full time work once my children are school-aged. I want to spend time to teach my children all the things I know...music education/appreciation, art education, learning different languages, etc. Studies show that the most important bonding time between a child and mother are the very first years. Part of the reason why dentistry appealed to me was exactly because of the flexible hours- the possibility of at least working part time when I have young children.
Say what you want! At least respect my view! It may not seem right to other women, but it is right to me.
Smilemaker
