Pharmacy envy

[Lonelypharmdstudent]

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Hello all,

I'm a current P2 student and would like to obtain some opinions. When I started pharmacy school I told myself that I was going to be very active socially, academically, and in organizations. As soon as I stepped in the door on my first, and observing the student body, I began to envy them. I envy the fact that they are so social, how they are able to make friends with each other so quickly, how they are able to score A's on their exams, how they don't have real world pharmacy experiences but are so optimistic that they will succeed. Afterwards I began to somewhat loath my classmates because they have it so easy.

I know that its not good to be envious of others, but I just can't help it. They have so much going for them, and I only have a job and school to keep me going. I have no hobbies, I don't travel anywhere at all, and I'm quiet. While I don't mind my characteristics, I couldn't help but hate myself that I'm not like my classmates. When we came back from summer breaks many of them were talking how they traveled, and I went nowhere. What should I do? Why are they so optimistic about life? Why can they form relationships so easily than I? Why do they get better grades than I do when they have a life?

Warning: deliberate grammars for anonymity.

 

[BMBiology]

Maybe because they came from a well off family? It's OK to be envy of others but you should use that to motivate yourself.

 

[WhiteSnows]

It is not ok to envy at people although we are human and we all do at one point or another. However, It does seem to me that your envy goes a little bit too far. You ask the question why life is so unfair to you when your friends are better than you in term of socialize and grades but you fail to compare yourself to the people who are less fortunate in this world with no food/water to survive nor money to go to school. If you expect yourself little less, you won't have any problem envy at other people.

 

[StellargalS]

You need to create a frame of reference for your mind. Try asking a question in class that will offer practical significance to the group. Teaching is a skill that very few people have. I happen to have it and can with a couple of questions steer the lecture to a point of practical significance.

The thing is the other kids despite achieving the A can't make sense of a lot of what they memorized but they don't question the process because they are getting As. Nevertheless they always perked up and occasionally would chime in when I would engage the professor.

Don't stifle your curiosity and by all means go against the grain. This will accomplish a couple of things. One: it will jump start your adrenaline and enhance your cognitive function. Two it creates your frame of reference and from that will come more. One way or another 🤣you need to engage with your environment. The idol mind is a dangerous thing.

Also you naturally assume 😵those people are slap happy because of what they choose to share. Some of them could be happy but I guarantee you not all of them are😒. Case in point albeit extreme, Mylie Cyrus. She really thinks she is having a ball and that deep down people are, despite what they say, enamored with her. Seemingly a classic case of a spoiled rich brat but really the kid is sick and they are capitalizing on it. She rich and she is laughing but she is not happy. A couple of years ago she a kid watching the same crap and interpreting what she saw at face value. It's human nature also known as "keeping up with the Jones". But you have the choice to limit your participation.

In the mean time make better use of your idol/envy time. Like instead of sitting there for 10 minutes watching the happy people, go to the deans office before class and stand on one leg until someone looks at you then walk out. Or skip the leg act and instead see if any ones knows of any opportunities for you to (insert topic of interest). I did and the answer was no . But "they" are getting creative in their desperation and perhaps it provides you a lead.

Lastly you will cultivate hobbies later when you have the dough and the time.That is what I did.

 

[Amicable Angora]

Hello all,

I'm a current P2 student and would like to obtain some opinions. When I started pharmacy school I told myself that I was going to be very active socially, academically, and in organizations. As soon as I stepped in the door on my first, and observing the student body, I began to envy them. I envy the fact that they are so social, how they are able to make friends with each other so quickly, how they are able to score A's on their exams, how they don't have real world pharmacy experiences but are so optimistic that they will succeed. Afterwards I began to somewhat loath my classmates because they have it so easy.

I know that its not good to be envious of others, but I just can't help it. They have so much going for them, and I only have a job and school to keep me going. I have no hobbies, I don't travel anywhere at all, and I'm quiet. While I don't mind my characteristics, I couldn't help but hate myself that I'm not like my classmates. When we came back from summer breaks many of them were talking how they traveled, and I went nowhere. What should I do? Why are they so optimistic about life? Why can they form relationships so easily than I? Why do they get better grades than I do when they have a life?

Warning: deliberate grammars for anonymity.

If you want to have a telephone chat about this I'd be happy to cheer you up.

 

[Hello2000]

Have you ever been diagnosed with aspergers. I am being serious here, some of the things said are classic symptoms.

 

[BPharmD2011]

I had some trouble relating to people in pharmacy school at first, too. In my particular instance, I transferred as a P2 and just about everyone else in my class had already been there a year and many cliques and friendships had already formed. Plus it felt like the class was split into 2 groups - the non-traditional students who were late 20's, early 30's - many of them with tech experience and then the "fresh from high school" group. When I transferred, I had already been in college for 2 years and I felt like an in-betweener and had trouble relating to either group.

I was also naturally shy, and despite promising myself (as you had) that I was going to be outgoing and social, I was unable to do that very well in the beginning -- so I searched for friends elsewhere and ended up joining a sorority. It sounds cheesy, but now I look back on college as being some of the best years of my life. I was able to meet many new people in different majors and from different states and I had an almost instant network of friends and people to hang out with outside of class and on weekends - it was a ton of fun and, to this day, I still keep in contact with many of my sorority sisters. That being said, it WAS a huge time commitment and financial commitment and I am sure joining a sorority might not be for everyone -- but I would check out your school's website for a list of clubs and societies on campus, especially since you mentioned wanting to have a hobby, also. Throughout my college career, I was also involved in physics club, wilderness club, and SIFE -- all of them were very fun and I got to meet new people all the time -- we also did fun things like build bottle rockets and go on trips for cheap - like skiing! 🙂 There are also pharmacy groups for students like SSHP and ASP -- which may be the best of both worlds. I also feel that as I started enjoying my time on campus more, my grades and outlook improved. I was busier, yes, but I felt more motivated and ultimately ended up being more successful.

Societies and clubs aside, I eventually did get to know some of the people in my pharmacy class really well and they also turned out to be some of my very best friends. For me, I'd say that the bonding with others in my class happened more during the P3 - P5 years when we were no longer doing as many gen eds and were in more pharmacy specific classes where we all spent more time together/in the same building on campus. At that point, we were pretty much forced to get to know each other.
Also, one of the best ways I found to relate with people in my pharmacy class was to invite people to study with me. After a few study sessions and getting to know each other better, we started hanging out more and spending time together outside of school - doing fun things other than just studying. 🙂

I don't post much here -- I tend to be more of a lurker, but I remember what it was like when I first started school and how isolated and alone I felt and I wanted to give some advice and encourage you not to give up because I'm sure it will get better. 🙂