I guess this is a question for a program director if one is around.
I matched at my first choice program and hope to still go there. My husband and I both chose the location of my top choice (though I'm very happy to go there). We had been having problems and this week he completely surprised me by suddenly moving out; there is some hope we can salvage things. We aren't currently living anywhere near where I matched and our original plan was that he would join me in my match city a few months after I started due to his job situation. I think if I start on time, there's virtually no chance we can stay together.
I have not yet signed the match contract for my program, but it's due quite soon and I did commit by signing the NRMP agreement. I really like the program and don't want to screw them over. I'd definitely like to go there when things get better. I also don't want to end my relationship because we don't have enough time together to work things out (he's been out of town for 3 months and just got back recently). What can I do?
I guess my main questions are:
-Do people ever defer for a year or part of a year or is this impossible?
-How do I go about talking to the program?
-Is this a situation where I would be likely to be granted a match waiver by the NRMP?
-even if I were granted a waiver, would it be a huge black mark against me (I'm a strong candidate in my chosen field)?
Thanks. I'd appreciate any info from those who have dealt with something like this.
I matched at my first choice program and hope to still go there. My husband and I both chose the location of my top choice (though I'm very happy to go there). We had been having problems and this week he completely surprised me by suddenly moving out; there is some hope we can salvage things. We aren't currently living anywhere near where I matched and our original plan was that he would join me in my match city a few months after I started due to his job situation. I think if I start on time, there's virtually no chance we can stay together.
I have not yet signed the match contract for my program, but it's due quite soon and I did commit by signing the NRMP agreement. I really like the program and don't want to screw them over. I'd definitely like to go there when things get better. I also don't want to end my relationship because we don't have enough time together to work things out (he's been out of town for 3 months and just got back recently). What can I do?
I guess my main questions are:
-Do people ever defer for a year or part of a year or is this impossible?
-How do I go about talking to the program?
-Is this a situation where I would be likely to be granted a match waiver by the NRMP?
-even if I were granted a waiver, would it be a huge black mark against me (I'm a strong candidate in my chosen field)?
Thanks. I'd appreciate any info from those who have dealt with something like this.