This may be a problem with your prescribers. It's extremely rare that I see oxycodone written as a first-line pain medicine by anyone but a surgeon (and occasionally an ER doctor)
This is definitely a problem with your prescribers. Most prescribers, at least in my area (granted I don't live in Florida) prescribe quite reasonably and do not give early refills more than once.
I was not trained to be a police officer, not do I have the training to diagnosis the degree of a patient's pain, nor do I feel any compulsion to morally/ethically tell a patient what they should do. If there is a legitimate concern that a patient is overdosing on a medicine (or selling it), then I would refuse the prescription. If it's just that the patient is running out a week short every month, and I have talked to the physician and they are OK with the patient taking extra doses, than I am not going to refuse to dispense it (although I would encourage the physician to write the prescription to reflect the extra doses that the patient is taking.)
I totally disagree with this. The goal of pain relief is that the pt can carry on a normal life. Most people do not have good enough disability insurance that they can lay around and be taken care of. Do you want the state to increase the disability rolls and raise your taxes to pay for it? Most people HAVE to work, and many jobs involve at least standing on ones feet, as well as a certain amount of lifting & walking. And they may need strong narcotics in order to get through the day. And who are you to say that treatment goal shouldn't be to be pain-free? If you are or a loved one ever experience chronic pain which could not be cured, you would probably be more understanding. Of course, there will always be flare-ups and such, but the goal for treatment should be to make the patient as pain-free as possible and able to accomplish whatever their job entails.
The medicine the ER would offer you is also going to be based on the extent of your injury/problem, not just how you rate your pain. The ER will also look for other signs to gauge how severe your pain is, like increased BP/pulse. If you go in with a hangnail and rate your pain a 10, you will NOT get oxycodone. ER's are quite aware that many people have an undue fear of narcotics and addiction, and/or that people will downplay their pain because they are "tough." For you to have been offered oxycodone 3 times, undoubtedly there were other reasons why the nurse/doctor was offering you that, besides just your 5 out of 10 pain rating.