you are missing the point....it wouldnt be some formal 'professional' thing.
Think about all the awkward forced social things you did with residents related to the interview. I remember one night before an interview we met 3 residents(i think there were 4 of us applicants) for tea and coffee. And then made forced conversation about where we were from, what areas of psych we were interested in, asked the usual questions about their program, etc.....all while we sat around and drank coffee and/or tea in some crappy coffee house. I *guarantee* you not a single person of the 7 involved(at least I hope not) had a good time. I certainly didn't feel like I clicked with the residents, but heck sitting around drinking crappy tea listening to crappy elevator music I probably wouldn't have clicked with the coolest person in the world. If there would have been a situation where a couple of the people who would be cool went to a gentlemans club with a couple of the residents who were also cool with that(the others could go somewhere they preferred), I guarantee you we would have had a better time, clicked better, felt more comfortable, and really got a better sense of what they were like....and more importantly what their program was like.
"I certainly didn't feel like I clicked with the residents, but heck sitting around drinking crappy tea listening to crappy elevator music I probably wouldn't have clicked with the coolest person in the world." A bit limited?
Do you find yourself unable to hold conversations that allow you to "click" with anyone unless a woman is undressing in front of you? I hope you have open minded, non-misogynistic therapist, that grants equal respect to patients regardless of gender or sexual orientation (i believe i've read some brilliant prose in which you insists that you "don't have any issues with homosexuals" (aprx quote). I hope you can sort out WHY you need alcohol and the proximity of objectified females in a disadvantaged, exploitative position (they are naked and you get to gaze with your clothes on) in order to "bond" with other closed minded misogynistic individuals.
Doctors orders: attempt to think beyond patriarchal society's norms of acceptable behavior. A bit critical thinking. Supplement with cultural studies. Augment with Women's Studies." And than, maybe, just maybe, you may question why those women of upper-middle class subject themselves to voluntary sublimation(and go beyond your BPD jokes - but that is asking too much). Our society has done very well in brain washing people (a lot of whom vote unfortunately) with no critical skills what so ever. In this case "money" does not equate with education or freedom from internalized sublimation.
Hm, and the fact that your wife does not see any problem with you "gentlemen" clubs tells me you drank the same cool-aid and are mostly likely a good match, until she starts to ...do some noggin workouts
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"I guess what I'm trying to get across is that if someone is going to get all hysterical and think "oh my god how could he ask if we wanted to hang out there."
Do you define and equate "hysterical" with someone that may express a strong feminist critical point of view and raise an objection to your choice of "entertainment" that actively dehumanizes, exploits, and objectifies women? (cliff note for your convenience - feminist does not denote gender, if you are confused) You have the DSM-IV, right? Are your female patients ok or are they all manipulative hysterical, neurotic, borderlines or all of the above? I do hope you do receive adequate supervision, for the sake of the patients. So would love to know what self-respecting academic environment is proud of your graduation.
(ok, this was a fun brake but vist, you're easy to poke at so i feel guilty of jumping on your case - you got to see the humor in it all, but keep in mind the points i brought up do not luck in validity;as someone else above said - this kind of thought process is not up to par with the powers and responsibilities a future, out on the loose, psychiatrist...will be given - wow - side efects - you never what loony you may encounter behind a care giving degree
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