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JDAD

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I am between a rock and a hard place. I love medicine and I know that one way or another, I will be doing something related to medicine with my life. Now the hard part.

My father is a very successful Dentist/Orthodontist/TMJ Specialist, and all I need to do is complete dental school, work for him as an associate for a few years, and then the practice is mine for the taking. He gross's over a million a year as his own boss and works four days a week for seven hours a day. Pretty Cushy lifestyle and that could all be mine. He desperately wants me to follow in his footsteps and take over his practice.

I worked in his office all summer and came to the conclusion that I am not a big fan of teeth. I don't like working in a small dark space as a hunched over evil man. There are very few people that enjoy going to the dentist. I was astonished at the number of people that come in, in no discomfort what so ever, and then leave with a very expensive treatment plan. I understand that the work needs to be done in order to avoid certain pain down the road, but in dentistry there seems to be too many what ifs.

I shadowed an orthopedic surgeon with a fellowship in sports orthopedics and I loved it. I liked the happy, youthful patients that want to get better and wanted to return to form. I liked the surgery, I would much rather work on arms and legs than teeth and gums. I liked this profession, but I wasn't there long enough to deal with the negatives. Malpractice premiums are outrageous, insurance seems to be determining who gets treatment and who doesn't. Also, the hours are more than double what I would be working as a dentist and in very few instances are you your own boss. The pay is comparable so that isn't what I am worried about. The schooling is more rigorous and the residency is very demanding.

My dad called me today gloating on the phone. "I spoke with a patient that works for an orthopedic surgeon, and he says he wished he had gone into orthodontics."

I know that was a lot to read. It gets down to the easy way, or the hard way. Is working 30hrs a week, making great money, and spending that extra time with my family a better choice. Or do I want to work harder, longer, see my family less at something I like better, but not that much more?

What would you do if you were in my shoes?
 
unless your desire to be a doctor is this fiery-super-hot, i say be pragmatic and go into dentistry. it seems like you'd be missing a fantastic opportunity if you didn't take your father's practice.

on the other hand, i have a somewhat similar situation-- my father own's a good ob/gyn practice....but i really don't want to be a vag-doctor...and after considering lifestyle/malpractice issues i don't think i'll end up going that route. a big difference between this example and yours is that you'd have much more free time than i would if we both followed paternal ways.
 
ALWAYS do what you love. It doesn't matter how much you make in the long run. If you hate what you do, and always wish you had done orthopedics, that million a year won't make up for it. It happened to my uncle. He was making a killing working as the #2 for a large oil company. But he hated the work. He quit, started something entirely on his own that he loved and he's doing great again.

Proved to me that, more often than not, if you do what you love, you will be successfull.
 
The most important lesson I ever learned was that you MUST LOVE THE PROCESS of your work or you will be miserable. Too many people go into medicine with idealistic visions of what the job will be like. However, they end up hating the everyday nitty gritty and they are miserable. You must love the process of the job to 1) be good at it, and 2) find it fulfilling.

Do the orthopedic stuff. In the end, you will be happier.
 
do what you love, love what you do
 
Do dentistry because:

1) you won't have to do a residency

2) you have a job lined up for you with a guaranteed future

3) it sounds like you could probably talk you dad into paying for school.
 
You'd be surprised. So many specialties are exciting. Orthopedics sounds exciting right now because you've been doing it. Everytime I work with a doc, I start thinking,"Maybe this is the specialty for me."

My guess is that if you like Orthopedics, you'll probably also like dentistry. Both are truly fascinating. There aren't too many unknowns in the dentistry route though. You will be working with people you already know and love, entering a proven successful practice, and keeping the business in the family.

In the end, do what you love. Maybe you need to do some introspection and determine what it is that you truly love.
 
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