Reason not to attend a school?

[mpino]

---

Members don't see this ad.

i just contacted a school through email telling them i would be declining their offer. i received an email back asking what were the reasons i wouldnt be attending? can any1 tell me how honest i should be? should i mention the school i have accepted, ect?

 

[perfektspace]

Congrats on your acceptances, I envy your options! Maybe I am just old-fashioned but I was under the impression a phone call followed by a formal letter was the proper way to reject an offer. Not at all trying to get onto you, but I thought e-mailed declines were considered rude.

To answer your question, I would compliment their program and site "neutral" reasons for declining (e.g., geography vs. other school, family). The only reason I would stay away from any criticism is because I assume the school you rejected is still in your area of interest and you will probably work with these people in the future. I'm sure some will disagree but I would play it safe.

 

[Psyclops]

Just say it was a better fit elsewhere. Who are they to know what "fit" means to you. That way no one is insulted.

 

[clinpsychgirl]

i just contacted a school through email telling them i would be declining their offer. i received an email back asking what were the reasons i wouldnt be attending? can any1 tell me how honest i should be? should i mention the school i have accepted, ect?

I am thinking along the lines of perfect... regardless of how you decide to contact them (I personally think email is ok if they emailed you to ask), I would just tell them you were very grateful for the offer and it was a very difficult decision and that you hope to collaborate with them in the future... kept it vague

 

[mpino]

thanks every1 for the replies.
i actually called first to let them know, but they told me to email them so they have something in writing. i just didnt expect the email response from them. in any case, thanks every1 for the advice and good luck.