Relationships and med school

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Is it possible to have a significant other during medical school and spend time with em during med school?

 

[Sephirakra]

Is it possible to have a significant other during medical school and spend time with em during med school?

Not sure, let me check with my girlfriend.

 

[Pagan FutureDoc]

My wife was an M4 when I was an M1...we are still going strong.

 

[Cornfed101]

Don't watch the PBS documentary doctor diaries... like all of them got divorced

 

[ciestar]

Ive been married for three years. All is fine

 

[Cornfed101]

Were they all surgeons

I don't think so... I think it was like 50/50, but it's been a while since I've seen it.

 

[Alexander Brosef]

I've seen lots of third and fourth years doing rotations who are happily married and look forward to going home to see their spouse when they're done for the day. It definitely seems doable, but your relationship needs to be in a place where it can withstand the time commitment of med school.

 

[Cornfed101]

Also an old adage I heard in undergrad was that you have 3 main things to juggle: school stuff, sleep, social life. The problem is that you only have time for 2 of the 3. When you get married sleep and social life are combined. So really it gets easier to juggle instead of harder

 

[Goro]

Is it possible to have a significant other during medical school and spend time with em during med school?

Only if they get used to this conversation:

Them: What are you doing?
You: Studying

 

[Cornfed101]

Only if they get used to this conversation:

Them: What are you doing?
You: Studying

My wife: Will you get off your phone??
Me: I'm studying flashcards
My wife: yeah right
Me: Anki has an app!
My wife: so does facebook
Me: ...

 

[Moko]

You will learn to prioritize the things that are important to you. If finding and being with your significant other is important, you will make time for it. If not, then they clearly were not important enough to you at that moment.

A common theme you'll hear is "well, once I finish X, I'll finally have time to pursue a relationship". Except that the time requirements will continue to increase with each step of your medical training (and may peter out as an attending depending on your priorities). So it's important to start reserving time for other important aspects of your life, as medicine will naturally fill up any remaining time you give it.

 

[bananafish94]

I met my girlfriend in medical school and we're couples matching this Fall. Definitely possible!

 

[mwsapphire]

About 8% of entering of MS1 are married which increased to about 25% of graduating MS4. So it would appear relationships can thrive in medical school. It should also be noted that about 0.4% of entering MS1 are divorced but 1.0% of graduating seniors are divorced

https://www.aamc.org/download/494044/data/msq2018report.pdf
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https://www.aamc.org/download/490454/data/2018gqallschoolssummaryreport.pdf
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I love the thought of someone finding thier SO in medical school.
One of my classmates ( A graduating senior) is marrying her HS sweetheart this summer. And she is also aspiring for med school, like me.

 

[ciestar]

I love the thought of someone finding thier SO in medical school.
One of my classmates ( A graduating senior) is marrying her HS sweetheart this summer. And she is also aspiring for med school, like me.

My husband and I met as college freshman!
A few of my classmates who got together as M1’s are married or engaged. Many couples matching.

 

[JeSuisUnDoc]

Is it possible to have a significant other during medical school and spend time with em during med school?

I hope so, I’m married

 

[Nugester]

Yes. Some people met their spouse in medical school. Some people went in with a SO and broke up/got divorced. Some went in with kids or had kids (during 4th year). Anything is possible.

 

[gyngyn]

I met my girlfriend in medical school and we're couples matching this Fall. Definitely possible!

You are matching already!!!

 

[bananafish94]

You are matching already!!!

I can’t believe it myself! It really, truly flew by.

 

[Medic741]

Met my SO in orientation and has been one of the best parts about medical school. We moved in together M2 and did our last pass of material together for every exam.

We’d each make an anki deck for the upcoming exam, merge the decks and go somewhere fun/not school (climbing gym, park, brewery) to do that last pass together. Worked really well, got good grades and made exams not stressful!

 

[On_The_Way_Up]

I really hope I meet someone on rotations or during residency. That way we can go to one of the on call rooms Greys Anatomy style tearing into each other’s white coats. It’s a dream of mine.

 

[MedicineZ0Z]

I really hope I meet someone on rotations or during residency. That way we can go to one of the on call rooms Greys Anatomy style tearing into each other’s white coats. It’s a dream of mine.

I know you're joking but that almost never happens in real life. It's also grounds for termination.
Intra-hospital dating is also very uncommon nowadays. One off cases happen certainly, and everyone will know every detail.