Relationships during dental school

[KahunaDentist]

I'm curious if I am going to have to break up with my significant other when I go off to dental school.

I don't want to, but it sounds as if I have to break up since I don't know which dental school I'm planning to attend. Plus any dental school I attend is far from home.

Is it easy to find a girlfriend in dental school?

I'm worried because I want to get married in the near future, probably a year after graduating from dental school.

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[capisce?]

nevermind

 

[KahunaDentist]

nevermind

Wow, I didn't expect you dental students to be this much of a jerk to answer my questions. Sheesh. I guess dental school must be stressing you guys out ey?

(note: since capisce initially said my question was stupid).

 

[I'mFillingFine]

I don't think people are stressed, but perhaps frustrated when new questions are raised that have been answered again and again.

Try doing a search of the forum and you'll find many thoughtful discussions and debates on the issue, since it's certainly one close to our hearts. Feel free to bring one of them back if there's a comment you want to make. I think we've just said all that we can....

 

[aphistis]

Wow, I didn't expect you dental students to be this much of a jerk to answer my questions. Sheesh. I guess dental school must be stressing you guys out ey?

(note: since capisce initially said my question was stupid).

He retracted the comment on his own, so why not just let it go?

 

[tinman831]

I'm curious if I am going to have to break up with my significant other when I go off to dental school.

Only time will tell. No one can answer this for you. Do you want to make it work or just not even try?

I don't want to, but it sounds as if I have to break up since I don't know which dental school I'm planning to attend. Plus any dental school I attend is far from home.

Long distance relationships are very hard. But hey... there are lots of couples who go through this every day. It's possible if you are committed to each other. But it seems like if you are doubting yourself now (by asking a forum full of strangers, you might not be as committed as you need to be.

Is it easy to find a girlfriend in dental school?

How smooth are you? 😉

 

[Dukie]

Wow, I didn't expect you dental students to be this much of a jerk to answer my questions. Sheesh. I guess dental school must be stressing you guys out ey?

(note: since capisce initially said my question was stupid).

OK, kahuna, you need to calm down. You are getting freaked out about everything relating to dental school 7 months before even beginning. My suggestions are these:

1. Stop thinking everyone on SDN is mean who makes a joke or calls you out for being slightly ridiculous at the moment.

2. Enjoy your life now while you have lots of free time to do so.

3. Don't make any rash decisions or assumptions now. When you get to dental school, you can better evaluate what kind of free time you have, what relationships you want to pursue, etc. Everyone has a different experience, so asking others what kind of time you will have, if you will be able to find a mate, and such is meaningless.

 

[beannaithe]

If you don't want to break up with your significant other, then why would you? Long distance in managable as long as you go into the entire thing with realistic expectations (ie - you're not going to talk every night for 4 hours or see each other every weekend).

School limits your time considerably and I have to honestly say that if I didn't already have an LDR going, I highly doubt that I would have the time to even think about starting a new relationship.

Before you decide to do an LDR (which you have a LONG time!), you need to assess your feelings about this. It's not a walk in the park and there are days when you wonder if losing sleep to talk on the phone and skipping studying to go visit is worth it. Then you visit them and you know that it is....but that's the thing. You just need to know that the person you're with is worth all of the trouble that you're going to be going through.

You won't know about relationships..some people work out LDRs and some people who are local fizzle out....and vice versa. It just doesn't quite click until you find the right person....

 

[dark_horse]

As someone who has gone from long distance to marriage during dental school, make sure you like this girl. If she's the one, do the long distance thing. I must say that the LDR is much better than when they are with you, because you don't feel guilty studying on a friday or saturday night when your main squeeze is hours away.

Don't decide now, but when you do follow your heart. If she's someone you don't want to let go, try the LDR, it might work out well.

 

[29DATyep]

For you to even ask this question I must come to the conclusion that you have doubts as to whether this person is for you. With that being said...it appears you think the grass might be greener on the other side...so you will probably give in to temptation...therefore i say it won't work...now if you were gungho about your mate then the question you would have asked is "who has a long distance relationship that is working/worked, what did you do to make it work because I love my mate and want to do everything i can to make it work because i feel my mate is the one for me.....

so ya...i dont think your ld relationship would work.

 

[sadipagla]

For you to even ask this question I must come to the conclusion that you have doubts as to whether this person is for you. With that being said...it appears you think the grass might be greener on the other side...so you will probably give in to temptation...therefore i say it won't work...now if you were gungho about your mate then the question you would have asked is "who has a long distance relationship that is working/worked, what did you do to make it work because I love my mate and want to do everything i can to make it work because i feel my mate is the one for me.....

so ya...i dont think your ld relationship would work.

Yeah I was gonna say the same thing. If you are already thinking about some other girl, it clearly shows you are not interested or have enough faith on your current relationship. And if thats the case, I don't think its worth it for you to go through all the trouble of LDR.

 

[SuperC]

I'm curious if I am going to have to break up with my significant other when I go off to dental school.

I don't want to, but it sounds as if I have to break up since I don't know which dental school I'm planning to attend. Plus any dental school I attend is far from home.

Is it easy to find a girlfriend in dental school?

I'm worried because I want to get married in the near future, probably a year after graduating from dental school.

You are asking crazy questions again. Yes you can do your laundry in dental school, yes you can meet girls. I will say, however, if you are not having any luck now, you wont have any luck in dental school.
-C

 

[justsusan]

I'm curious if I am going to have to break up with my significant other when I go off to dental school.

I don't want to, but it sounds as if I have to break up since I don't know which dental school I'm planning to attend. Plus any dental school I attend is far from home.

Is it easy to find a girlfriend in dental school?

I'm worried because I want to get married in the near future, probably a year after graduating from dental school.

not to be offensive but that comes off as lame. if you were committed to your girlfriend, you'd make it work.

quite a few of my classmates are married and their spouses live in another state. one woman in my class is married to a man who lives in canada. if you love the person, you'll manage. my fiance currently lives in egypt. is it hard? yes. would either of us give up? no.

 

[north2southOMFS]

not to be offensive but that comes off as lame. if you were committed to your girlfriend, you'd make it work.

quite a few of my classmates are married and their spouses live in another state. one woman in my class is married to a man who lives in canada. if you love the person, you'll manage. my fiance currently lives in egypt. is it hard? yes. would either of us give up? no.

Wow, that is pretty good. A lot of the people who were married coming into my dental school left divorced. Not because of time contraints or anything, its just that you kinda have a grade school like atmosphere again in that you all go to your lockers at the same time, go to the same classes, have the same teachers etc. Now the only difference is that you add a lot of alcohol, late nights, and the ability to have sex to the equation. Shady stuff happens, a lot of temptation, too much drinking.....hence all the divorces. Mormons seemed to do ok though.


BTW, are you sure you know what you girlfriend is up to in egypt???????

 

[justsusan]

Wow, that is pretty good. A lot of the people who were married coming into my dental school left divorced. Not because of time contraints or anything, its just that you kinda have a grade school like atmosphere again in that you all go to your lockers at the same time, go to the same classes, have the same teachers etc. Now the only difference is that you add a lot of alcohol, late nights, and the ability to have sex to the equation. Shady stuff happens, a lot of temptation, too much drinking.....hence all the divorces. Mormons seemed to do ok though.

people need to grow up.

BTW, are you sure you know what you girlfriend is up to in egypt???????

fiancee = female. I'm female, he's my fiance.

I know what he's up to and he's not like that. neither of us are. we know each other well, it's a relationship spread over 10 years. we met in high school and he's mine.

I'm not worried.

 

[Squished Rat]

Wow, that is pretty good. A lot of the people who were married coming into my dental school left divorced. Not because of time contraints or anything, its just that you kinda have a grade school like atmosphere again in that you all go to your lockers at the same time, go to the same classes, have the same teachers etc. Now the only difference is that you add a lot of alcohol, late nights, and the ability to have sex to the equation. Shady stuff happens, a lot of temptation, too much drinking.....hence all the divorces. Mormons seemed to do ok though.


BTW, are you sure you know what you girlfriend is up to in egypt???????

How is this any different from grade school?

 

[beannaithe]

How is this any different from grade school?

I don't remember alcohol, sex or staying up past 9 in grade school. 😛

 

[KahunaDentist]

You are asking crazy questions again. Yes you can do your laundry in dental school, yes you can meet girls. I will say, however, if you are not having any luck now, you wont have any luck in dental school.
-C

^^🙄

 

[north2southOMFS]

people need to grow up.



fiancee = female. I'm female, he's my fiance.

I know what he's up to and he's not like that. neither of us are. we know each other well, it's a relationship spread over 10 years. we met in high school and he's mine.

I'm not worried.

Ouch. Lighten up frances.

Sorry about the whole gender mess-up thing. I'm sure he is a great guy. I'm sure he has never thought of ever even talking to those hot sexy egyptian women in those scantilly clad outfits they wear in that sweltering hot egyptian heat.

 

[north2southOMFS]

Wife of north2south omfs here.... "Fiancee" is not gender specific..... Once engaged a man is also called a fiancee in the relationship. Just had to point out the obvious ( at least for most people).
Also, There were lots of people in long distance relationsips in dental school who did just fine. At the same time people who saw thier significant others every night didn't make it through. Obviously Kahuna needs to break up with the significant other now.... if you truly loved that girl then you would never think for a minute that the grass will be greener on the other side or ask a bunch of people you dont know what to do cuz the answer would be clear.... If you LOVE her then you know you could make it work.. even through the tough times.. and dental school will not be the toughest thing your relationship will encounter through life and marriage... so do her a favor and stop leading her on when you are not 100% comitted.

 

[toothfairy85]

I'm not trying to start an argument but the spelling of fiancee/fiance is gender-specific. I am not sure which one refers to which gender anymore, but I learned in it my high school journalism class when we discussed associated press writing styles. But yes, you are right when you say that a male or female can be one's fiancee/fiance.

 

[aphistis]

First off, I agree with the relationship advice here.

Secondly, fiancee is a feminine term. Fiance is the male equivalent. In French, the trailing e is a common method of feminizing a noun. In other words, the meaning is identical but the spelling differs depending on whether the antecedent is male or female.

Third, I can't believe I still remember anything from high school French class.

 

[north2southOMFS]

First off, I agree with the relationship advice here.

Secondly, fiancee is a feminine term. Fiance is the male equivalent. In French, the trailing e is a common method of feminizing a noun. In other words, the meaning is identical but the spelling differs depending on whether the antecedent is male or female.

Third, I can't believe I still remember anything from high school French class.

Yes. But i am American. Screw the trailing e.

Long live Freedom Fries!!!!

 

[burgler09]

freedom fries baby!

 

[justsusan]

Wife of north2south omfs here.... "Fiancee" is not gender specific..... Once engaged a man is also called a fiancee in the relationship. Just had to point out the obvious ( at least for most people).

it's amusing that you're being condescending when you're wrong.

 

[gryffindor]

First off, I agree with the relationship advice here.

Secondly, fiancee is a feminine term. Fiance is the male equivalent. In French, the trailing e is a common method of feminizing a noun. In other words, the meaning is identical but the spelling differs depending on whether the antecedent is male or female.

Third, I can't believe I still remember anything from high school French class.

Dang. I never realized that word was gender specific. Just learned something new and maybe even useful.

 

[scalpel2008]

grammar schmammar...the spelling has nothing to do with the reality of the relationship so why argue the damn spelling....reminds me of the 6 degree ideal taper as opposed to the 7 degree i cut that made me fail the damn practical back in the D school days... we as dentists are so friggin' anal about irrelevant stuff

 

[Denticized]

Just don't come to my dental school because all the girls are going to be all over me and then I will drive them to lesbianism.

 

[GiveMeDMD]

I am in the same situation as Kahuna. I have been with my girl for a little over a year and I love her, but I also want to dedicate 100% to dental school. I know that statistically we will not work out, despite how naive we both are about being in love.

 

[dinesh]

I tried long distance...didnt' work out.It was hard, even worse for me after we broke up...If I could do it all over again, would I break up with her before trying?Nope.


I don't see why it can't though, I have a couple of friends that have been doing long distance for 2years +, and it's working great..

The 2 people , however need to be fully committed, willing to make sacrifices,and trust eachother completly.
IT will be alot of work on both sides..but if you think it's worth it in the end...

 

[siba]

Seems like there's more men than women in dental schools huh? or women just wanna avoid this topic? Isn't the ratio in of men to women like 50-50 now?

 

[sprinkibrio]

Ouch. Lighten up frances.

Sorry about the whole gender mess-up thing. I'm sure he is a great guy. I'm sure he has never thought of ever even talking to those hot sexy egyptian women in those scantilly clad outfits they wear in that sweltering hot egyptian heat.

THIS is what I'm dreading hearing when I go into med school with a LDR. No one outside of the relationship will give you any support. Especially those who want to bang you.

 

[justsusan]

THIS is what I'm dreading hearing when I go into med school with a LDR. No one outside of the relationship will give you any support. Especially those who want to bang you.

yeah...you won't get any support. but if you believe in what you have, stay strong 🙂