Sabotage!

[Pet of the Week]

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Anyone feel that your family and friends might be trying to sabotage your medical application process? I have a stack of secondaries I haven't finished due to what seem to be planned interruptions and false emergency situations.

On the osteopathic side, I have to finish up RVUCOM, SOMA, AZCOM, and LMU_DCOM. I also have secondaries from UAB, USF, and Emory (my really really really reaching dream school). Most of these are not terribly difficult (except USF, wow), I just keep getting interrupted... And I work full time+part time+part time (three jobs), and I'm in school so my time is limited. I know that they are doing it on purpose....specifically my boyfriend and my sister.

I think my boyfriend is interfering subconsciously. He used to be in medical school and isn't anymore. I think he gets annoyed and doesn't want to hear about any of this stuff because he is reminded of his past experiences. So he pulls me away from what I need to do, and distracts me with other things so he won't have to think about it. He also offered to read over my essays, and I delayed sending one of my secondaries so he could check over it. After about a week, I finally asked him about it, and he said he didn't feel like reading it. I could have sent it in a week sooner if I were not waiting on him. Now whenever I say anything about the application process or medicine, he "does not want to hear about it." He's also started being really weird about money and where he is willing to live...

As for my sister, she is just one of those people who thinks the world and everyone in it revolve around her, and if she needs to go out and party on Friday night or lay by the pool all day Saturday, there is no reason that I should not to be able to babysit her toddler. And that if I refuse, I am a horrible sister..... She's all like "When are you going to be done with all that stuff. I'd have quit by now." If I didn't help her out so much, I'd have been done weeks ago.

Okay, sorry for that rant, but I have no one else to talk to about it. Lol.

Suck it up and finish your secondaries, Pet of the Week!

But seriously, any advice on dealing with this situation?

 

[cleothecat]

If he is really a saboteur now, it will get worse later. Sort this out soon,and establish your priorities quickly.

 

[PeachyPhd]

Your situation with your BF sounds is very familiar to me. Sounds like ya'll need to have a serious talk about the future and about how much support you need right now, and during medical school. He needs to be busting his butt to help you to succeed. I hope you guys work things out. 😍 Your sister needs a similar talk, or maybe do some growing up.

Good luck with the rest of your apps!

PM and I can tell you spefics about my situation if you want.

 

[elektron]

I think this is a time where you put your blinders on and just focus on the task at hand. Don't mention anything else about the process to your boyfriend except to maybe let him know when you'll be out of town for your interviews and when you get accepted to and decide on a school. At this point, you can have a talk about whether he's going to support you and your decision to go to med school.

As for your sister, I personally would just not answer her calls when you're busy. If she starts showing up unannounced at your door, start going to the library or somewhere else quiet when you want to work on anything related to the application process.

It seems that you are a nice person and that your boyfriend and your sister are too wrapped up in themselves to have your best interests at heart. Take good care of yourself, and don't let them derail you from your goals.

 

[ilmdoc]

It sounds like the first thing you need to do is get those secondaries done. Go out of town for the weekend if you have to, but get them in ASAP! Turn off your phone and don't answer the door until they're done. Then, you need to decide if your boyfriend is a potential husband. If he is, you need to have a difficult talk about where you are going in life and that you would PREFER he come with you. If he isn't, put him on the back burner. In order to deal with both of them, it sounds like you need scheduled "unavailable time." Again, turn off the phone and don't answer the door. I hope this helps!

 

[cbrons]

Its almost september, you need to get focused. Tell your boyfriend and sister to stfu.

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[Pet of the Week]

Thanks, you guys. I intend to hide out and finish as many as I can before I have to go to work at 4 tomorrow. And then again Thursday after 3. I know it won't take me long. It's just a matter of being able to focus.