I went from being in a fraternity and involved in university politics where people were fun, passionate, lots of good looking girls to medschool where most people IMHO had traits of a cluster A or C personality disorder, a party after the exam were a bunch of heterosexual guys with cologne dancing not putting together it was a sausage fest with no girls around, and many were on track to be 40 year-old virgins.
I took a year off from medical school, and the bottom line was to unwind and have fun and live life for real. During that time I dated some nice women, made a lot of money, and enjoyed hanging out with my college buddies who were moving along to more refined stages. E.g. instead of partying at the fraternity house, I'd hang out with a fraternity brother who was newly married to his college girlfriend and it'd be more of a wine and cheese thing. It was very healthy for me and gave me a good perspective to re-enter school.
So it's a few years later and I'm at Columbia U interviewing for a forensic fellow position and Paul Applebaum very astutely noticed I took time off (most people didn't even notice it), and said in a very dry manner, "why should we take you if you took a year off." I responded (really not caring if he saw this as a mark against me), and said something to the effect of "I wasn't aware of any evidence showing that taking a year off correlated with poor performance as a physician. I thought it was a good experience for me. I lived life and recharged my psychological batteries." He retorted, "I have several applicants here who didn't take a year off who are applying for the same position."
Hey, I didn't care. No disrespect to Applebaum who is a titan in the field. To me this wasn't a you got to one-up everyone thing. I already knew I got into a fellowship I wanted to get into. I also was told by other NYC fellows that Columbia despite the Ivy-League rep wasn't the one the fellows thought was the best one after they graduated since so many of them knew each other and did several of the same rotations together. To me it was a -I'm going into this cause I want my fellowship to be an enriching experience not just being impressive on paper but wanting everything out of it including learning, mastering, but also making great relationships, enjoying myself, and really having a great experience-experience.
Applebaum again is a titan in the field who deserves so much respect, but this to me was one of those things about the medical academic culture I don't care to waste my time on. Just like some surgeons (and other physicians) who think they got to haze the people they train, or a pharmacology professor I worked under who saw students who smiled with utter disdain...I wasn't mentally going there. I didn't want the place that looked best on paper or had the most elite attitude, for those ends. I wanted the place that was going to inspire me to work my best and hardest cause I felt the fulfillment to make me want to do it.