Hey,
So this is my first post. I'm really stuck about what to do here and would seriously appreciate any advise post-bac grads or med students have to offer..I realize I'm about to unload a whole bunch of crap on to this post, but please bear with me because I really need some opinions.
I just finished my first year an Ivy League (with-holding name for now) Post-Bacnand I hate it. Im so so miserable. I'm not doing badly. Its an adjustment to go from sociology to science but I'm making progress I think. My undergrad GPA was 3.74 and my current gpa is 3.53...
But, its not the work load that I don't like, its the school's culture...
For one, I feel like for the amount of money you pay the education isn't that great. The teachers either read directly from slides or they ramble incoherently about whatever happens to be on their mind. I just read the text book in class and try to teach myself the problem-sets via youtube videos. I go to office hours, and with some teachers its great, but with others, its the same: stuttering, rambling stream-of-conciouness craziness and I often walk out of office hours thinking I just wasted two hours listening to this dude ramble and I'm still confused. I get that some of these folks are brilliant and are probably doing some brilliant research I couldn't grasp if I tried, but as teachers, they kind of suck.
Second, the guidance counselor I've been assigned to is, in my opinion, horrible. I don't know if this woman doesn't like me or if I always catch her in a bad mood...but the first time I met her in person she said "Oh, you're the one who asked all the questions..." I smiled and laughed it off but in my head I'm going "Woman. Isn't it your job to answer my questions?" Plus, my first semester here I got really sick and spent a total of 3 weeks in the hospital, but I worked my butt off while I was in there to keep up, and even left once, against doctors orders, to take a chem exam because he wouldn't let me take it in the hospital and was going to force me to take a zero. (And I still scored 5 points above the class average). I ended with pretty good grades considering but when I went to her to talk about going part-time next semester to give myself a break, she stone-faced and monotone told me I should just drop out of the program. No empathy, no supportiveness, no discussion of other options, no recognition of the fact that worked my butt off to keep up. Then after staring at her blankly for a full minute she added: "You know, for your health...thats the most important thing, after all."
It seems clear to me that all she cares about is keep the program's numbers up so the school looks good. But like I said, maybe I just have bad timing with her.
And lastly, the students here are so friggin competitive and cut-throat and judge-y. And again, maybe I just got stuck with a class with crappy social chemistry, but still. You don't know how many times I've (gladly!) given help to those who asked for it, but then when I needed help they'd turn around and say "do your own work". The way people talk **** about each other is insane! I feel like I'm in high school. I've seen people talk smack about other students sitting right in front of them, how this girl is stupid or that guy is a tool, and then walk right up to them and ask them for answers. And then there are the straight-up vultures. Twice I've had to deal with people who do this thing where they came up to me at the beginning of every. single. class. and copied all my stuff. And when I finally was like "Look, enough already." they didn't quit! It took like three or four of those conversations for them to back off. Then there are the other group of people who apparently think I'm a friggin' ****** because they don't even acknowledge my presence. Like this happens: we're all sitting in lab. someone asks an open question. I offer my answer. they ignore it. spend the next 10 minutes discussing it. Then ask the teacher. And when I'm right, no acknowledgement.
Am I losing my mind? Is this how it is everywhere? I feel like I'm back in high school, seriously! Maybe I just need to grow a thicker skin? You know, I wouldn't care so much if it wasn't for the fact that studying with other people helps me learn, but these kids are serious butt-heads (I'm trying really hard to avoid using more accurate terminology) and I can not get down with the conniving, back-stabbing and but-kissing that goes on. The few people that I did think were genuinely nice/up-front people have all switched out or just graduated. Seriously. All of them. The ones that graduated were so burnt out it was depressing to talk to them about it. They said empathized but ultimately said to stick it out. What other options do I have? Is it a terrible idea to switch out after one full year? Will it look really crappy on my transcript? Some of the students I know who switched last semester said they are way happier. But they did it after one semester, quick. I waited a whole year. Plus, if I switch out I want to go back to California (where I'm from, cause these winters are brutal), and moving all the way back is going to be a drag. I really don't know what to do. Should I stick it out or should I follow my instincts? Because I really feel like I don't belong here but I also feel like its too late to pull out.
Thoughts? I know that was a whole lot of stuff to process but I'd really appreciate help from any of you who've made it through the process.
Thanks so much
Sita
So this is my first post. I'm really stuck about what to do here and would seriously appreciate any advise post-bac grads or med students have to offer..I realize I'm about to unload a whole bunch of crap on to this post, but please bear with me because I really need some opinions.
I just finished my first year an Ivy League (with-holding name for now) Post-Bacnand I hate it. Im so so miserable. I'm not doing badly. Its an adjustment to go from sociology to science but I'm making progress I think. My undergrad GPA was 3.74 and my current gpa is 3.53...
But, its not the work load that I don't like, its the school's culture...
For one, I feel like for the amount of money you pay the education isn't that great. The teachers either read directly from slides or they ramble incoherently about whatever happens to be on their mind. I just read the text book in class and try to teach myself the problem-sets via youtube videos. I go to office hours, and with some teachers its great, but with others, its the same: stuttering, rambling stream-of-conciouness craziness and I often walk out of office hours thinking I just wasted two hours listening to this dude ramble and I'm still confused. I get that some of these folks are brilliant and are probably doing some brilliant research I couldn't grasp if I tried, but as teachers, they kind of suck.
Second, the guidance counselor I've been assigned to is, in my opinion, horrible. I don't know if this woman doesn't like me or if I always catch her in a bad mood...but the first time I met her in person she said "Oh, you're the one who asked all the questions..." I smiled and laughed it off but in my head I'm going "Woman. Isn't it your job to answer my questions?" Plus, my first semester here I got really sick and spent a total of 3 weeks in the hospital, but I worked my butt off while I was in there to keep up, and even left once, against doctors orders, to take a chem exam because he wouldn't let me take it in the hospital and was going to force me to take a zero. (And I still scored 5 points above the class average). I ended with pretty good grades considering but when I went to her to talk about going part-time next semester to give myself a break, she stone-faced and monotone told me I should just drop out of the program. No empathy, no supportiveness, no discussion of other options, no recognition of the fact that worked my butt off to keep up. Then after staring at her blankly for a full minute she added: "You know, for your health...thats the most important thing, after all."
It seems clear to me that all she cares about is keep the program's numbers up so the school looks good. But like I said, maybe I just have bad timing with her.
And lastly, the students here are so friggin competitive and cut-throat and judge-y. And again, maybe I just got stuck with a class with crappy social chemistry, but still. You don't know how many times I've (gladly!) given help to those who asked for it, but then when I needed help they'd turn around and say "do your own work". The way people talk **** about each other is insane! I feel like I'm in high school. I've seen people talk smack about other students sitting right in front of them, how this girl is stupid or that guy is a tool, and then walk right up to them and ask them for answers. And then there are the straight-up vultures. Twice I've had to deal with people who do this thing where they came up to me at the beginning of every. single. class. and copied all my stuff. And when I finally was like "Look, enough already." they didn't quit! It took like three or four of those conversations for them to back off. Then there are the other group of people who apparently think I'm a friggin' ****** because they don't even acknowledge my presence. Like this happens: we're all sitting in lab. someone asks an open question. I offer my answer. they ignore it. spend the next 10 minutes discussing it. Then ask the teacher. And when I'm right, no acknowledgement.
Am I losing my mind? Is this how it is everywhere? I feel like I'm back in high school, seriously! Maybe I just need to grow a thicker skin? You know, I wouldn't care so much if it wasn't for the fact that studying with other people helps me learn, but these kids are serious butt-heads (I'm trying really hard to avoid using more accurate terminology) and I can not get down with the conniving, back-stabbing and but-kissing that goes on. The few people that I did think were genuinely nice/up-front people have all switched out or just graduated. Seriously. All of them. The ones that graduated were so burnt out it was depressing to talk to them about it. They said empathized but ultimately said to stick it out. What other options do I have? Is it a terrible idea to switch out after one full year? Will it look really crappy on my transcript? Some of the students I know who switched last semester said they are way happier. But they did it after one semester, quick. I waited a whole year. Plus, if I switch out I want to go back to California (where I'm from, cause these winters are brutal), and moving all the way back is going to be a drag. I really don't know what to do. Should I stick it out or should I follow my instincts? Because I really feel like I don't belong here but I also feel like its too late to pull out.
Thoughts? I know that was a whole lot of stuff to process but I'd really appreciate help from any of you who've made it through the process.
Thanks so much
Sita
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