Sick and tired of feedback

[throw away]

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[BoardingDoc]

Why do they need to "know you at all" to give feedback on your performance in the ICU?

I have no idea whatsoever from your post whether the negative comments were warranted or not. All I heard is "I worked really hard and then I got yelled at." Did you deserve to get yelled at? Yeah, you're busy, but are you doing a good job and making good use of your time? Or is this resident just being an ass to you because they don't like you personally?

If it's the former, learn from your mistakes and move on.
If it's the latter, ignore them, realize that this is just one person who is a jackass and move on.

Either way, both sorts of feedback are common as a resident. You need to learn from it when appropriate and remember that some people are just miserable jerks for the other times.

 

[Law2Doc]

I just finished a grueling week of CCU where I worked 18+ hours EVERY day, had multiple admissions and discharges per day due to overflow, and was constantly maxed at 10 patients. In this week, I only worked with my resident for three days. She just left today and wanted to give "feedback." Basically she sat me down and told me all the reasons why she didn't like me. After that, she told me to have more "fun" on the rotation. I seriously wanted to slap her which makes me feel like a ****ty person.

I am getting so tired of constant feedback from people who don't know me at all. It doesn't make me a better doctor. Instead it destroys my motivation and makes me feel paranoid all the time 🙁 And now I'm sitting at home on Christmas alone, my only day off, obsessing about it. How do you guys deal with all the bad feedback? How do you take it in stride?

First, you are listing your status as a veterinary student -- I didn't realize they had CCUs in animal hospitals.
Second, if we are talking medicine you need a thick skin. not all reviews will be good. Not everyone is going to like you. So what. Just smile and say "thank you I will do better" and either learn from it or let it go. If you are letting it destroy your motivation nd making you feel paranoid, that's on you, not the resident.

 

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[Winged Scapula]

First, you are listing your status as a veterinary student -- I didn't realize they had CCUs in animal hospitals.

As an aside, I got to see one myself this week. Was dropping off my newly IDDM diagnosed 16 year old cat at a medical boarding facility (when I couldn't get my regular sitter or anyone else to come to my home BID to give him his Lantus) and the vet told me that if he didn't eat (as he is wont to do when stressed), he would move him to the ICU where he could be fed IV.

 

[Shikima]

As an aside, I got to see one myself this week. Was dropping off my newly IDDM diagnosed 16 year old cat at a medical boarding facility (when I couldn't get my regular sitter or anyone else to come to my home BID to give him his Lantus) and the vet told me that if he didn't eat (as he is wont to do when stressed), he would move him to the ICU where he could be fed IV.

I hope the Vet will turn him around and avoid a Catastrophe.

 

[Perrotfish]

Don't want to be recognized...

1) I wouldn't worry too much about being recognized. If you want to know the number of Interns with a story like yours in the CCU, take the total number of Interns currently rotating in the CCU nationwide and divide by 1.

2) I feel your pain. One of the hardest things about residency is the way that no one ever seems to have a kind word, of they do its always accompanied by at least two harsh ones. More than anything else its what separates residents from every other employee in the hospital. There are other hospital employees who are underpaid. There are other hospital employees who are underpaid. There are other people in the hospital who work weekends in holidays. There are even a handful of people who work similar hours to residents. However no one else in the hospital, has to deal with the constant barage of criticism that residents do. Its miserable at the best of times, but its especially galling when you have just finished working an 80+ hour week., you feel like you've given it your all, and then you get told the you're either barely good enough or not good enough.

All I can say is hang in there. You deserve better, and when you get through this miserable process you'll get it. Try to take the feed back seriously if you notice a pattern of criticism, but otherwise don't spend to much time sweating it.

 

[Law2Doc]

1) I wouldn't worry too much about being recognized. If you want to know the number of Interns with a story like yours in the CCU, take the total number of Interns currently rotating in the CCU nationwide and divide by 1.

2) I feel your pain. One of the hardest things about residency is the way that no one ever seems to have a kind word, of they do its always accompanied by at least two harsh ones. More than anything else its what separates residents from every other employee in the hospital. There are other hospital employees who are underpaid. There are other hospital employees who are underpaid. There are other people in the hospital who work weekends in holidays. There are even a handful of people who work similar hours to residents. However no one else in the hospital, has to deal with the constant barage of criticism that residents do. Its miserable at the best of times, but its especially galling when you have just finished working an 80+ hour week., you feel like you've given it your all, and then you get told the you're either barely good enough or not good enough.

All I can say is hang in there. You deserve better, and when you get through this miserable process you'll get it. Try to take the feed back seriously if you notice a pattern of criticism, but otherwise don't spend to much time sweating it.

I'm pretty sure there are a lot of hospital employees who get crapped on (both literally and figuratively). You are telling me you've never seen a doctor unload on a nurse?

 

[Chicago2012]

I hope the Vet will turn him around and avoid a Catastrophe.

Bad-dum-tsing

 

[evilbooyaa]

I'm pretty sure there are a lot of hospital employees who get crapped on (both literally and figuratively). You are telling me you've never seen a doctor unload on a nurse?

Yes, but regular nurses work 36 hours a week, or they get paid overtime for extra shifts. The same cannot be said for residents. Not 100% disagreeing with you, just stating there are significant differences.

And in the current nurse-doctor climate, a doctor that went off on a nurse would likely get written up. When it's an attending, it takes something quite serious for disciplinary action, but if it's a resident who yells at a nurse, it's filed into his/her permanent record and can be brought up at any future evaluation, including being the building block for contract termination. That's an awful lot of pressure for someone who is already working 80 hours a week.

 

[Doctor Bob]

You are telling me you've never seen a doctor unload on a nurse?

Most of the websites that show that are blocked in the hospital...

 

[wholeheartedly]

Most of the websites that show that are blocked in the hospital...

 

[Chicago2012]

 

[calvnandhobbs68]

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[Perrotfish]

I'm pretty sure there are a lot of hospital employees who get crapped on (both literally and figuratively). You are telling me you've never seen a doctor unload on a nurse?

Rarely. Good employers generally realize that there are many ways to compensate an employee, and praise is both the easiest and the cheapest . Its bad business to allow any normal employee to get crapped on, so most employers go out of their way to make sure that confrontations are rare and, when they have to occur, are as inoffensive as possible.

At any hospital I've worked at a physician who went off on a nurse would likely have to appologize. If he made a habit of doing it he would likely be fired. That also goes for any nurse who dresses down an attending, RTs who fight with the nurses, etc.