So hate to be posting this; but here we go..
I am a female resident in my twenties and I have been chronically single.
I live in a big city and work in a big hospital where I interact with a lot of people. I am liked by my co- workers and get along with people fine. I care about people and I am certain I am not socially awkward.
I barely dated in college because I was always studying trying to get to medical school. Back then I had a bit of weight problem and I barely took care of myself.
During medical school I realized that this is a problem. I dropped the weight invested in fashionable clothes/ make up and started taking care of myself.
Shortly, I started my first relationship which was a disaster and a year Later I started dating a classmate and once again found myself a lone after investing a year with him.
The reason both relationships ended was because of major fundamental differences regarding lifestyles and what not.
Of note, my standards aren't high nor do I need to date a model. I want a decent guy who I am compatible with. I don't want to be old and alone.
I have tried talking to guys outside the medical field and well most aren't interested in talking after they hear I am a resident.
I had one guy tell me that he can't be with someone who will potentially earn more money than him. I have also asked a guy or two to get coffee once during med school. One said yes and backed out.
Of note, he is not even good looking but he was a decent guy. A year later he is in a serious relationship with a girl who I can certainly say is below average looking but is smart.
Since those 2 incidents I have resorted to waiting for the guy .
I am know I am smart, well travelled, and independent, fit ( size2) . I get attention from guys when I go out most times than not. Some are old, some are young and creepy.
I have random patients /co workers tell me randomly that I am pretty. I know beauty is subjective. But at least I a not hideous.
I have people ask me why am single . At this point, I am terrified of liking someone , because it's almost met with rejection.
I don't want to die alone. I want a family and a partner. I want someone to travel the world with and fall in love with.
What am I doing wrong ?!
I am a female resident in my twenties and I have been chronically single.
I live in a big city and work in a big hospital where I interact with a lot of people. I am liked by my co- workers and get along with people fine. I care about people and I am certain I am not socially awkward.
I barely dated in college because I was always studying trying to get to medical school. Back then I had a bit of weight problem and I barely took care of myself.
During medical school I realized that this is a problem. I dropped the weight invested in fashionable clothes/ make up and started taking care of myself.
Shortly, I started my first relationship which was a disaster and a year Later I started dating a classmate and once again found myself a lone after investing a year with him.
The reason both relationships ended was because of major fundamental differences regarding lifestyles and what not.
Of note, my standards aren't high nor do I need to date a model. I want a decent guy who I am compatible with. I don't want to be old and alone.
I have tried talking to guys outside the medical field and well most aren't interested in talking after they hear I am a resident.
I had one guy tell me that he can't be with someone who will potentially earn more money than him. I have also asked a guy or two to get coffee once during med school. One said yes and backed out.
Of note, he is not even good looking but he was a decent guy. A year later he is in a serious relationship with a girl who I can certainly say is below average looking but is smart.
Since those 2 incidents I have resorted to waiting for the guy .
I am know I am smart, well travelled, and independent, fit ( size2) . I get attention from guys when I go out most times than not. Some are old, some are young and creepy.
I have random patients /co workers tell me randomly that I am pretty. I know beauty is subjective. But at least I a not hideous.
I have people ask me why am single . At this point, I am terrified of liking someone , because it's almost met with rejection.
I don't want to die alone. I want a family and a partner. I want someone to travel the world with and fall in love with.
What am I doing wrong ?!
