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A bit long story but I would sincerely appreciate your help.
Hey everyone,
So I have a little dilemma with one of my professors. He thinks that I've been skipping the class for the last few weeks which isn't true. I can't have him have that kind of a perception of me since I'm taking his class in the fall and spring and I'm planning on asking him to write me a letter of recommendation. This spring is the first class he's taught me and I've already built a somewhat good - yet still new - relationship with him.
NOTE: The fall class I'm taking with him is already full but thanks to our good relationship, he promised me to put me on top of the waitlist, go talk to the department, and make sure I get his class.
So here we go
Since April, I've missed one of the 2 weekly meetings for a program I do at a local hospital. He is aware of this (meaning he gave me his permission to skip every other class starting from April when the program started - NOT the whole semester.) Also, attendance is not taken so grade-wise it wouldn't matter anyway. We have our last midterm coming up and I went to see him to reschedule my midterm due to the program I'm doing. We rescheduled it no problem. The problem is that he claims I've been skipping the class.
Him: "Oh I haven't seen you in weeks. You're asking me to put you in my fall class that's already full and you don't even show up to this class"
Me: *CONFUSEDDD* "I'm sorry Dr. X what do you mean?"
Him: "Yeah I haven't seen you in class in a long time"
I went on to explain him that I have been there every other day of instruction since April, but I'm missing Wednesdays due to the program. He said "Oh I forgot that you're doing that". I replied by reiterating that I have been there every Monday but Wednesdays are for the program. The convo continued for another minute or so about the matter and it ended him saying " Oh well I guess I don't remember seeing you then or maybe I've just noticed your absence on Wednesday and haven't paid attention to your presence on Mondays".
We then talked about other stuff for about 15 min or so before I had to go to my other class.
My worry is that his perception of me has changed and he thinks I'm a sloppy student who skips classes. I mean, to think that I haven't been there for weeks and I have the nerve to ask him to place me in his full class and cut everyone else off in the waitlist is not good. I'm getting a pure A from his class, so I'm only worried about our future classes.
My husband said we should definitely send him a nice&polite email later on today to reiterate that I have been there, and that there are some folks who can verify the information.
Do you guys think that if I'll just continue being a good student in the fall & spring and have a good relationship with him, I should be fine asking him to write the letter? Or do you think this is a really big red flag in his perception of me?
I know I can't rely on getting a letter from him etc etc but hypothetically if he were to write me one and everything else (grades, the relationship etc) were good with him, do you think this confusion about my presence matters?
Now reward yourself for reading this whole thing lol!
Thank you so much!!!
Hey everyone,
So I have a little dilemma with one of my professors. He thinks that I've been skipping the class for the last few weeks which isn't true. I can't have him have that kind of a perception of me since I'm taking his class in the fall and spring and I'm planning on asking him to write me a letter of recommendation. This spring is the first class he's taught me and I've already built a somewhat good - yet still new - relationship with him.
NOTE: The fall class I'm taking with him is already full but thanks to our good relationship, he promised me to put me on top of the waitlist, go talk to the department, and make sure I get his class.
So here we go
Since April, I've missed one of the 2 weekly meetings for a program I do at a local hospital. He is aware of this (meaning he gave me his permission to skip every other class starting from April when the program started - NOT the whole semester.) Also, attendance is not taken so grade-wise it wouldn't matter anyway. We have our last midterm coming up and I went to see him to reschedule my midterm due to the program I'm doing. We rescheduled it no problem. The problem is that he claims I've been skipping the class.
Him: "Oh I haven't seen you in weeks. You're asking me to put you in my fall class that's already full and you don't even show up to this class"
Me: *CONFUSEDDD* "I'm sorry Dr. X what do you mean?"
Him: "Yeah I haven't seen you in class in a long time"
I went on to explain him that I have been there every other day of instruction since April, but I'm missing Wednesdays due to the program. He said "Oh I forgot that you're doing that". I replied by reiterating that I have been there every Monday but Wednesdays are for the program. The convo continued for another minute or so about the matter and it ended him saying " Oh well I guess I don't remember seeing you then or maybe I've just noticed your absence on Wednesday and haven't paid attention to your presence on Mondays".
We then talked about other stuff for about 15 min or so before I had to go to my other class.
My worry is that his perception of me has changed and he thinks I'm a sloppy student who skips classes. I mean, to think that I haven't been there for weeks and I have the nerve to ask him to place me in his full class and cut everyone else off in the waitlist is not good. I'm getting a pure A from his class, so I'm only worried about our future classes.
My husband said we should definitely send him a nice&polite email later on today to reiterate that I have been there, and that there are some folks who can verify the information.
Do you guys think that if I'll just continue being a good student in the fall & spring and have a good relationship with him, I should be fine asking him to write the letter? Or do you think this is a really big red flag in his perception of me?
I know I can't rely on getting a letter from him etc etc but hypothetically if he were to write me one and everything else (grades, the relationship etc) were good with him, do you think this confusion about my presence matters?
Now reward yourself for reading this whole thing lol!
Thank you so much!!!
