Stuck in a dilemma…don't know what to do.

[040111333]

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I received an email from my pre-health advisor regarding an invitation to attend a medical school orientation at UVA…however, it was only limited to 15 students and I did not get a seat before my advisor sent the list of prospective students to the UVA Director of Admissions on March 1st. I called the Admission office and asked them if I could still attend and they said the pre-health advisor will have to email them again sending my name and a request to allow me to join. Apparently, the communication for this event is mostly through pre-health advisors of various schools. I sent an email to him immediately March 1st week, but just got a reply this week saying that he will not be sending my name as the deadline is over.

I still really want to go to the event (which is on March 24th) and am considering emailing the Director of Admissions at UVA (who is in charge of this event) asking her if it would be possible for me to attend (in case another student dropped..or if they have more seats)

Is this unadvisable? Will it add a bad remark to my name? (I want to apply to UVA this year!) Also, the event is on Tuesday…will that be too late to email her to try asking? I was waiting for my advisor's email until now...

On the one hand, I feel like it won't hurt to ask and I want to try…but on the other hand, I'm scared that UVA will remember me in a bad light….

Any advice please?? Am I overreacting? Should I go ahead and email her? @Goro @LizzyM @gyngyn @Catalystik @Ismet as adcoms what would you think if a student emailed you in this situation?

 

[palatopharyngeus]

don't email the director. not only might it piss HER off, but doing so might also piss your ADVISOR off if he were to find out about it

 

[040111333]

don't email the director. not only might it piss HER off, but doing so might also piss your ADVISOR off if he were to find out about it

Would it really piss her off just for asking though? I mean, couldn't it show an interest in their medical school? I really really want to go...I wish I had gotten into the students list 🙁

 

[palatopharyngeus]

Would it really piss her off just for asking though? I mean, couldn't it show an interest in their medical school? I really really want to go...I wish I had gotten into the students list 🙁

well, theres no knowing unless you do it...but I just said it MIGHT piss her off, b/c the instructions were very clear: reach out to your advisor before a deadline. you missed the deadline. when you reached out to the school directly, they told you to just have your advisor email them. he said no. now if you reach out to the director directly, theres always the chance she'll just be like "wtf? did you not get the memo on how to apply like everyone else?"

again, this is just speculation. no knowing unless you do it, but im just wondering if the event is really worth the trouble. if it IS worth it, then sure, reach out to her I guess...worst case she might get a little bit annoyed and say no. in any case, I doubt your future application to the school will be adversely affected

 

[040111333]

well, theres no knowing unless you do it...but I just said it MIGHT piss her off, b/c the instructions were very clear: have your advisor email the director before a deadline. you missed the deadline, and when you reached out to them again, they AGAIN told you to just have your advisor email them. if you proceed to email the director directly, theres a chance that she might be peeved at your not following their procedures

again, this is just speculation. no knowing unless you do it, but im just wondering if the event is really worth the trouble

Regarding the above, this event is like an introduction to UVA's medical school and the students get to meet the Director of Admission and other medical students who are either volunteers for the event or on the committee. I feel like I am missing out big time because I can't go to this event. How much of an advantage will the students that do go have when it comes to getting accepted? I mean, they do get to meet the faculty earlier, so I would expect their names would be recognized come application time. This is what is making me upset 🤔…UVA is one of my top choices, I would have liked to have such an advantage for admissions

 

[MrLogan13]

You were late and your advisor said no. Emailing the director directly will be going over your advisor's head, something I am sure he will not appreciate.

 

[Ismet]

You missed a deadline and there are consequences to that. Part of being an adult. Learn from this and respond on time next time.

Believe me, the students that go to this thing do not have some incredible leg up just because they shook the director of admissions hand and talked to him for a couple hours. Don't worry about it.

 

[deleted577188]

Be careful if you're Black.

 

[040111333]

You missed a deadline and there are consequences to that. Part of being an adult. Learn from this and respond on time next time.

Believe me, the students that go to this thing do not have some incredible leg up just because they shook the director of admissions hand and talked to him for a couple hours. Don't worry about it.

Thanks for your input. so do you also think that if I did email her, it would negatively affect my future app?do medical schools keep records like that or remember stuff like this? Would you say the implications of emailing her outweigh the benefits of going to the orientation?

 

[Ismet]

Thanks for your input. so do you also think that if I did email her, it would negatively affect my future app?do medical schools keep records like that or remember stuff like this? Would you say the implications of emailing her outweigh the benefits of going to the orientation?

Emailing her would come off as immature, childish, and incredibly entitled. You missed the deadline, called the admissions office who told you to contact your advisor, who said no. It stops there. What makes you think the admissions director is going to give you a different answer than the admissions office? While there's no guarantee that she'd remember your name, there's certainly a good chance since you're applying this year. The implications of emailing her far outweigh the minuscule benefit of going to this orientation. Not sure why you're placing so much importance on this little meet and greet.

 

[palatopharyngeus]

...The implications of emailing her far outweigh the minuscule benefit of going to this orientation. Not sure why you're placing so much importance on this little meet and greet.

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