No offense, but if I have the financial means to help my children through the course of their entire education then I will...and that includes medical school if that is the choice for them. Legally, you become an adult at 18, so I guess you wouldn't be expecting help with any undergrad studies either? Who made up the rule that once our children reach a myserious cut-off age that helping them would make them irresponsible adults? That is ridiculous. In european countries, parents help their children throughout their lifespan. I can only assume that this comment was made by a non-parent. And btw, during residency, most of the people we knew simply could not have made it financially without help from their families in some way. We weren't lucky enough to have any outside support, and it was horrible. In todays economy, a bachelor's degree is often not enough, and if I am fortunate enough to be secure enough financially to help finance my children's graduate education..even in part, then I will.
Let me just say that we are now out of training (as of about 4 months) and paying back 180,000 in debt is excrutiatingly painful...it was an "investment" but unfortunately, with medicare regulations changing, the HMO environment and simply the cost of living and raising a family, we live hand to mouth! We purchased a modest home that is only furnished in 1 room.... Our children have used furniture in their bedrooms and my husband and I have only a bed...and let me just say...that it will be that way for a loooooooong, loooooooooong time! We are still paying on the 6 year old car that we leased (don't ever lease a car) during residency and had to purchase...and it is our only transportation. If anything happens to our little junkster, we are quite frankly SOL, because we are poor...and next year the last of our loans come out of deferment.
Think, think, think before you take out too many loans. Seriously, take out the minimum unless you want to live like us...and if your mommy and daddy offer a few bucks, accept it graciously and pay them back by becoming the best damned doc you can...
my .02
Kris