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Hello all. It has been such a long time since I've posted on SDN...
Well, here's my situation. I have completed two years of a general surgery categorical residency, and have started the third. 6 months into my intern year, my husband passed away. I took a total of about 4 weeks off in two 2 week segments after he died. Then I went back to work with the surgeon mindset of "I'm tough enough and strong enough, I don't need help, I can get through this on my own" yadda yadda. 6 months go by somehow while I'm lost in the widow fog. 6 more months go by where I've at least mentally returned to the land of the living but am really still not all that with it. Meet a guy and fall head over heals shortly after the 1 year mark. Had a LOT of new relationship issues that just met full force with my deficiencies in residency (being mostly absent mentally for the last year) and spent the next several months in a very manic obsessive relationship that calmed down into a wonderful, calm, steady, happy, supportive one. In that process, I realized (partly by being forced by my program, which just a few months ago finally acknowledged I wasn't doing so great after my husband died over a year ago), that it was time to get counseling. So I did, and it's been very helpful. So helpful that I thought everything was going peachy. Then my program decides that nope, I'm too far behind the curve and need to repeat 2nd year (after completely 2 months of 3rd year). I get angry and hurt at first, but after a lot of thought, realized that I had spent WAYYY too much time in the last 6 months when I started healing trying to get back to the person I was when I started out instead of trying to accept who I am now. Who I am now is not a surgeon.
The reason I became pre-med was because I wanted to do psychiatry. I lost it along the way by the excitement of the ER, then the glamor and prestige of the OR. My wonderful new guy happens to be finishing his training in counseling, and I've been helping him study for his board exam or whatever and his questions were SOOO much more interesting than my absite (surgery) questions we were practicing. I have always been interested and naturally adept at behavioral sciences; I majored in sociology-criminology. Abnormal psych was my fave class in college. I aced my behavioral sciences classes in med school and I always loved studying for them. I like to write, I'm very good at talking to patients, and I just know that I'm making the right decision when I say I am now switching from surgery to psychiatry.
Now the logistics of it all. This is where it gets complicated and I am seeking input. I've spoken to my program director and chairman in surgery and they support me. My family supports me, my boyfriend supports me, even my counselor thinks its a great idea. I've got a meeting set up with the program director of psych at my hospital in a week.
Given the newness of my relationship (7 months) and my thoughts that it is a forever kind of thing, I want to stay at the hospital I am at. The nearest alternatives are 3 hours away (2 programs) and 5 hours away (3 programs). So I really want to stay here. I'm hoping very strongly that the psych program director will say they have a spot for me and I can switch now, but I don't know if she will.
Any recommendations for what I should say when I go in for this meeting? Should I have a copy of my CV / scores & make a new personal statement?
Thanks all.
Well, here's my situation. I have completed two years of a general surgery categorical residency, and have started the third. 6 months into my intern year, my husband passed away. I took a total of about 4 weeks off in two 2 week segments after he died. Then I went back to work with the surgeon mindset of "I'm tough enough and strong enough, I don't need help, I can get through this on my own" yadda yadda. 6 months go by somehow while I'm lost in the widow fog. 6 more months go by where I've at least mentally returned to the land of the living but am really still not all that with it. Meet a guy and fall head over heals shortly after the 1 year mark. Had a LOT of new relationship issues that just met full force with my deficiencies in residency (being mostly absent mentally for the last year) and spent the next several months in a very manic obsessive relationship that calmed down into a wonderful, calm, steady, happy, supportive one. In that process, I realized (partly by being forced by my program, which just a few months ago finally acknowledged I wasn't doing so great after my husband died over a year ago), that it was time to get counseling. So I did, and it's been very helpful. So helpful that I thought everything was going peachy. Then my program decides that nope, I'm too far behind the curve and need to repeat 2nd year (after completely 2 months of 3rd year). I get angry and hurt at first, but after a lot of thought, realized that I had spent WAYYY too much time in the last 6 months when I started healing trying to get back to the person I was when I started out instead of trying to accept who I am now. Who I am now is not a surgeon.
The reason I became pre-med was because I wanted to do psychiatry. I lost it along the way by the excitement of the ER, then the glamor and prestige of the OR. My wonderful new guy happens to be finishing his training in counseling, and I've been helping him study for his board exam or whatever and his questions were SOOO much more interesting than my absite (surgery) questions we were practicing. I have always been interested and naturally adept at behavioral sciences; I majored in sociology-criminology. Abnormal psych was my fave class in college. I aced my behavioral sciences classes in med school and I always loved studying for them. I like to write, I'm very good at talking to patients, and I just know that I'm making the right decision when I say I am now switching from surgery to psychiatry.
Now the logistics of it all. This is where it gets complicated and I am seeking input. I've spoken to my program director and chairman in surgery and they support me. My family supports me, my boyfriend supports me, even my counselor thinks its a great idea. I've got a meeting set up with the program director of psych at my hospital in a week.
Given the newness of my relationship (7 months) and my thoughts that it is a forever kind of thing, I want to stay at the hospital I am at. The nearest alternatives are 3 hours away (2 programs) and 5 hours away (3 programs). So I really want to stay here. I'm hoping very strongly that the psych program director will say they have a spot for me and I can switch now, but I don't know if she will.
Any recommendations for what I should say when I go in for this meeting? Should I have a copy of my CV / scores & make a new personal statement?
Thanks all.
