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So I am applying for general surgery and am, for the most part, very excited about it. My issue is that I have a kid and am therefore extremely limited geographically. If I attend any of 3 programs, I will have excellent family support since I can live by my large extended family and know that my kid will have great care and I won't have to deal with complicated childcare issues if he needs to be picked up from daycare/school early or is sick etc. Basically, I have a very loving little village to help. I have done my best to optimize my chances of matching at those programs, and I think I have a decent shot, but they are unfortunately all very competitive programs. I am pretty tough and competent (I made it this far and have done pretty well with a baby and my fair share of adversity, etc) but I know my limits, and that include doing a general surgery residency somewhere without family support or my baby (sorry, I'm not leaving my kid).
My back-up was to do a prelim year if I needed to, or possibly SOAP into an easy specialty (psych, rads, path etc) that I may not be as excited about somewhere else so I wouldn't worry about childcare in the same way. But when I think about not doing surgery or getting sub-par training at a bad program I get really upset . I worked so hard to acquire all this knowledge, and I actually did do pretty well in medical school and would hate to get poor training somewhere because I ended up SOAPing or doing a prelim year.
Any advice? Anyone have experience in a similar situation? I was considering adding applications to other specialties through ERAS, but then I was afraid that would hurt my chances for surgery.
And please, no commentary about how awful surgery is for family. I get it. I hear it all the time. That's not my question.