MD Taking time off in the middle of MS3

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Hello everyone, I'm currently a MS3. Due to extenuating circumstances, shortly after the end of my second year, my dad was diagnosed with stage IV lung cancer; a few months prior, my mother was diagnosed with a brain tumor was experiencing severe neurological effects. As a result, I took a year and a half off from school to care for them and also to manage several aspects of the household (financial, helping look after my much younger sibling, etc.).

I recently came back to my 3rd year. However, just a few weeks in, my dad's sickness took a severe turn and he decided to end his life. The aftermath that followed has been nothing short of indescribably devastating for our entire family. With the added weight that is MS3, I find myself suffering daily from severe depression / multiple panic attacks daily and my insomnia has reached a level where I stay up for days at a time. I'm also afraid - I don't want to end up like my dad. I know I desperately need help, but I feel as if I'm stuck in my position, unable to leave school. But at the same time, I know that I need to take time off - both for my own well-being and for my family's - before things become worse past the point of no return.

I am aware that this will hurt my application for residency, but I was wondering how badly this would affect it and would love to hear any of your thoughts/advice on the matter. I go to a medical school that is supposedly ranked in the top 4, although I'm not sure if this helps clarify anything or not?

A huge thank you to everybody!
 
You can't worry about later on down the road with residency - you have to survive the now. Taking care of yourself now IS the best thing you can do for your later bid for residency.

I can reassure you that people go through this stuff all the time, take care of themselves with time off, and are able to land a residency and have a successful career as a physician. The key is do what you have to do now, that is how you will get there.

I won't lie, medicine is very competitive as a career, and not very tolerant of blips along the training path. So this might keep you from doing neurosurgery at Hopkins. Or what the hell do I know? People do beat the odds. However, as I said, you will get to practice if you stay flexible in all of this.
 
Sent you a PM. I am sorry that this is happening. Please be kind to and take care of yourself. You matter and you will be successful. Give yourself some grace and some room to heal right now.
 
Thank you all for the encouraging words! They mean a lot to me, especially during this time. I will definitely talk to my administration and see how it will go from there.

Again, thank you so much!
 
Hello everyone, I'm currently a MS3. Due to extenuating circumstances, shortly after the end of my second year, my dad was diagnosed with stage IV lung cancer; a few months prior, my mother was diagnosed with a brain tumor was experiencing severe neurological effects. As a result, I took a year and a half off from school to care for them and also to manage several aspects of the household (financial, helping look after my much younger sibling, etc.).

I recently came back to my 3rd year. However, just a few weeks in, my dad's sickness took a severe turn and he decided to end his life. The aftermath that followed has been nothing short of indescribably devastating for our entire family. With the added weight that is MS3, I find myself suffering daily from severe depression / multiple panic attacks daily and my insomnia has reached a level where I stay up for days at a time. I'm also afraid - I don't want to end up like my dad. I know I desperately need help, but I feel as if I'm stuck in my position, unable to leave school. But at the same time, I know that I need to take time off - both for my own well-being and for my family's - before things become worse past the point of no return.

I am aware that this will hurt my application for residency, but I was wondering how badly this would affect it and would love to hear any of your thoughts/advice on the matter. I go to a medical school that is supposedly ranked in the top 4, although I'm not sure if this helps clarify anything or not?

A huge thank you to everybody!
Very sorry to hear of this bad news. Taking LOAs will not hurt your medical career.
 
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