Consultants often act like sphincters wherever you go. No really... they make a lot of noise and stink but what they actually produce (what they claim they have to hurt you with) is just a bunch of huey.
I have a hard time dealing with the guff. You've got to focus on keeping professional and trying hard not to take it personally.
I think there are a lot of angry and or disfunctional doctors. Of course there are you would say, because there are a lot of angry/dysfunctional people. I would have thought that physicians would act more professional and courteous than the public, but that isn't the case.
There are various stressors in all of our lives that often heavily impact our dealings with other people and might come into play with an individual physician:
1- Relationships- in my group of 6 physicians I work with here, three out of six have committed adultery in the past year. A fourth got a divorce for reasons I'm not privy to. The stresses of undergraduate, med school, residency, and first years of practice are really hard on loved ones and a TON of relationships break apart. Who cares much about how polite they are when their home-life is a wreck?
2- Clinical depression- We have idealized the lifestyle and wealth of a being a physician for years (some for decades), and when we finally get there, thinking oh so naively, "Life will be perfect then." Becoming a physician doesn't magically make mood better. I'd say that it often does the opposite.
3- Sleep deprivation- You've seen the angry drunks. Some of you ARE angry drunks. Sleep deprivation is equivalent of intoxication, and often, inhibitions are lowered.
4- Personality disorders- Many people's natural narcissism is matured and honed in the fire of med school and residency, turning what used to be decent people into arrogant turds.
5- Simple anger- I'd say about a third of people have anger problems, myself being one of them. Some people live on edge of boiling over, constantly viewing the world as working against them. This is usually a self-fulfilling prophecy leading to more anger.
6- Alcoholism and drug addiction- I'd say doctors are even more prone to addiction than the average person. The constant glamorization of alcohol in the media, and academic settings isn't a healthy environment for those who have an addictive personality.
7- Job stressors- I have the most problems with patient interaction and with anger with staff when the excrement is really hitting the fan. The times that they are really ornery with you is probably the time when they are the busiest. Modern hospitalist/residency programs run to maximize the efficiency and time off of fellow physicians so that every three or four days, you are incredibly busy and then you have more pleasant schedules. You are calling when they are most stressed out.
I'm sure you could all add many things to the above list. What percentage of physicians are affected at any given time by one of the above stressors? What percentage are affected by all seven, and just got sued last year and are worrying about whether or not they can actually continue to be a physician.
To simplify, walk in their shoes, and imagine what their job/personal life might be like at the moment.
Some jerk consultants have no excuse. They are intentionally rude as a rule. Their goal is to get you to call them less, and admit less. It is generally an effective tool as an attending. As a resident, while not effective, it is popular behavior. The heroes of the internal medicine residencies are the residents that actually have spines and chew out the ER, and occasionally, block admissions.
I think many physicians are affected heavily by confirmation bias-
http://www.skepdic.com/confirmbias.html
They walk around like Eeyore telling themselves three things.
1. ER doctors are idiots
2. The ER always dumps on me
3. The patient doesn't need to be admitted
It is easy to find evidence for these presumptions, especially in residency settings (especially when your definition of "dump" means the ER wants to admit a patient.
It is fascinating to view the orders on some of the people I was chastised for not sending home. I'll look three days later, and the patient is still in the hospital. I smile, shake my head and realize that it was just a game...it was just a game.