Thinking about transferring for social reasons but I'm concerned it could affect me later on

[letmeknow]

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I'm thinking about transferring from my school because I don't have any friends. I used to but they had to transfer. The thing is I actually like my school but I don't like the fact that I don't have any friends. I have acquaintances but I don't have any close friends if that makes sense. Like I don't have a group of people to go out and party with, or even eat with and I don't really like that.

If I were to transfer I'd transfer to a school where I do have a couple of friends. However, I don't like their school that much and I'm not a fan of their bio curriculum, and I would have a decent amount of catching up to do. As in I'd have to take genetics, biochemistry, and a couple other science classes all in the same semester to catch up and I'd rather not do that. And orgo 2 doesn't transfer over and I'd rather not retake that.

I guess what I'm asking is: Should I transfer for a better social life?

 

[shellsterpie]

If your goal is to be a dentist and getting there is your priority, I don't think you should transfer just for social purposes.
Transferring, like you said, would put a speed bump in the process due to catching up, and taking all those classes together can affect your gpa.
Are you in any student organizations? Maybe you can meet people there.

 

[Charles_Darwin]

personally, I would say no

 

[gangazi]

Add me on league and we can hang out together at the summoners rift


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[Chipotlegonewild]

Stop being a baby and go talk to people. Join a club, go to the gym, you're going to actually have to try and not just sit around and mope.


You are responsible for your happiness, take control.

 

[DancingBull]

What's going to happen in the situation if you are only accepted to dental schools that are in fairly rural areas with no social life? Don't expect to just party with classmates because they can vary from 21-50+ in age.

 

[Flemish]

I don't say this to be mean or deter you, but you should know that dentistry is a social profession.

 

[letmeknow]

Add me on league and we can hang out together at the summoners rift


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Haha thank you but I heard that game can become addicting and that's the last thing I need

 

[letmeknow]

Stop being a baby and go talk to people. Join a club, go to the gym, you're going to actually have to try and not just sit around and mope.


You are responsible for your happiness, take control.

Thing is my school is a little cliquey so I don't know how open other people are going to be to meeting someone new.

 

[letmeknow]

What's going to happen in the situation if you are only accepted to dental schools that are in fairly rural areas with no social life? Don't expect to just party with classmates because they can vary from 21-50+ in age.

That's actually a really good point. But for me its not that I necessarily want to be wild and party 3x a week. There's other aspects where having friends helps too, such as knowing which classes to take and not take, good vs bad professors, study groups, etc.

 

[letmeknow]

I don't say this to be mean or deter you, but you should know that dentistry is a social profession.

No offense taken. I had friends in high school but I just don't really have any friends here.

 

[ThirdMolarz]

My advice: From what you've shared, I say stay at your school. Don't make such big life decisions based on your where your friends are at.

Are you in a large or small school? Large school, there are plenty of clubs to join. If you let us know your school or interests, we can probably direct you to some good clubs to check out. If you are in a small school where you perceive that everyone already has their cliques, you can still make friends (don't come off as desperate) by doing something you enjoy that others also enjoy. Sports, cultural clubs, volunteering -- all great ways to get involved.

 

[letmeknow]

My advice: From what you've shared, I say stay at your school. Don't make such big life decisions based on your where your friends are at.

Are you in a large or small school? Large school, there are plenty of clubs to join. If you let us know your school or interests, we can probably direct you to some good clubs to check out. If you are in a small school where you perceive that everyone already has their cliques, you can still make friends (don't come off as desperate) by doing something you enjoy that others also enjoy. Sports, cultural clubs, volunteering -- all great ways to get involved.

I'm at a small school. I like sports, working out, I like biology (just a little though), and I'm gonna start volunteering soon. I'm also thinking about playing a club sport next year. I was supposed to play freshman and sophomore years but this year I got sick during sign up weeks and last year I did it for a bit but it was just too much on my plate.

 

[blablabla1]

I'm at a small school. I like sports, working out, I like biology (just a little though), and I'm gonna start volunteering soon. I'm also thinking about playing a club sport next year. I was supposed to play freshman and sophomore years but this year I got sick during sign up weeks and last year I did it for a bit but it was just too much on my plate.

Joining a team is probably one of the best ways to make friends! Just keep yourself busy with extracurriculars and the social aspect will come naturally

 

[DentalNucleicAcid]

How happy do you feel when someone approaches you out of nowhere and starts a conversation? I feel pretty flattered and I'll drop whatever I'm doing to talk to this new person. Most people would probably feel the same way. But most people would also not want to be the one to start the random conversation. It's like when a guy and a girl like eachother but both are afraid to make the first move--nothing happens. Be that guy (or girl) to make the first move. Be completely random, even if it comes off as a little awkward. It's only awkward if you make it awkward. You'll be bound to meet new people this way, and if you're looking for love this is also a great way to go about it. At a library, at a coffee shop, in class, on the sidewalk, on the ceiling, start up a random conversation with someone. Use your surroundings to start the conversation--it's a shared experience so both of you would be able to comment on that (just don't talk about the weather). If you feel the person doesn't really want to talk, that's their loss, not yours. You should be damn proud of yourself for even initiating the conversation even if it fails, which it will plenty of times. Relationships with people aren't just going to come to you, you have to go get them.

But, don't try too hard on this. At the end of the day, you're in school to become a dentist, not make friends. I would sacrifice a lot of the little friendships I've had over the years for a higher GPA. Stay at your school.

 

[blablabla1]

How happy do you feel when someone approaches you out of nowhere and starts a conversation? I feel pretty flattered and I'll drop whatever I'm doing to talk to this new person. Most people would probably feel the same way. But most people would also not want to be the one to start the random conversation. It's like when a guy and a girl like eachother but both are afraid to make the first move--nothing happens. Be that guy (or girl) to make the first move. Be completely random, even if it comes off as a little awkward. It's only awkward if you make it awkward. You'll be bound to meet new people this way, and if you're looking for love this is also a great way to go about it. At a library, at a coffee shop, in class, on the sidewalk, on the ceiling, start up a random conversation with someone. Use your surroundings to start the conversation--it's a shared experience so both of you would be able to comment on that (just don't talk about the weather). If you feel the person doesn't really want to talk, that's their loss, not yours. You should be damn proud of yourself for even initiating the conversation even if it fails, which it will plenty of times. Relationships with people aren't just going to come to you, you have to go get them.

But, don't try too hard on this. At the end of the day, you're in school to become a dentist, not make friends. I would sacrifice a lot of the little friendships I've had over the years for a higher GPA. Stay at your school.

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[letmeknow]

How happy do you feel when someone approaches you out of nowhere and starts a conversation? I feel pretty flattered and I'll drop whatever I'm doing to talk to this new person. Most people would probably feel the same way. But most people would also not want to be the one to start the random conversation. It's like when a guy and a girl like eachother but both are afraid to make the first move--nothing happens. Be that guy (or girl) to make the first move. Be completely random, even if it comes off as a little awkward. It's only awkward if you make it awkward. You'll be bound to meet new people this way, and if you're looking for love this is also a great way to go about it. At a library, at a coffee shop, in class, on the sidewalk, on the ceiling, start up a random conversation with someone. Use your surroundings to start the conversation--it's a shared experience so both of you would be able to comment on that (just don't talk about the weather). If you feel the person doesn't really want to talk, that's their loss, not yours. You should be damn proud of yourself for even initiating the conversation even if it fails, which it will plenty of times. Relationships with people aren't just going to come to you, you have to go get them.

But, don't try too hard on this. At the end of the day, you're in school to become a dentist, not make friends. I would sacrifice a lot of the little friendships I've had over the years for a higher GPA. Stay at your school.

Thanks for writing up an excellent comment. Yeah I really do like it when random people talk to me. Thing is I'm a funny person so I can make people laugh when I actually get a chance to talk to them (like in a lab or something), it's just that I don't get that opportunity a lot.

Interestingly enough, your analogy with 2 people liking each other but both being too scared to make the 1st move is something that really applies to me and its eery how true that is.

I'm going to take this advice and see what happens.