"Toughest Feedback" secondary thoughts?

[The Deep]

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I was thinking about writing about how one of the older kids in host family during my time in the Peace Corps told me I was selfish for ignoring my host family. I wasn't actually ignoring them, but, after spending my first few months at site almost exclusively with my host family, I became really excited spending time with the rest of my village and spent little time at home, leading to my family getting jealous without me realizing it because I'd still come home for meals and small talks. I realized that I wasn't doing enough to show them I appreciated them and started balancing the day by spending mornings in the village and nights at home with the family. I also wanted to talk about how it parallels with how I sometimes go crazy hanging out with specific people, then go crazy hanging out with other people and how that's led to friends believing I don't like them, when I really just sucked at balancing relationships. Thoughts?

 

[Nontrad_FL_LGBT]

The hidden purpose of this question is to see what you've done to rectify it. Have an answer?

 

[The Deep]

The hidden purpose of this question is to see what you've done to rectify it. Have an answer?

Sure: I opened conversation about why I was seen as selfish and they explained that I wasn't spending enough time with them and they believed I found other families better than them because the other families had more money, more people my age, etc etc. I apologised, explaining that I didn't feel that way about them and that I mainly spent time with other families to hear different perspectives on village issues and project ideas, but that I should have been doing more to show my family that I appreciate them. So I started to spend a lot more time with them and started showing the kids movies on my laptop once a week (something special only for them).

I also learned that it was impossible to make everyone happy because when I started spending more time with my family, it made others in the village unhappy, so I basically started setting up "appointments." Ex: I'll come to your home for breakfast on Wednesday, but then spend Thursday morning at the school and Saturday morning tutoring students at this other home.

Do you think it's a weak answer and I should try to brainstorm something else?

 

[Mr.Smile12]

Seems close enough to a PREview scenario (Sample Question 2).

 

[The Deep]

Seems close enough to a PREview scenario (Sample Question 2).

So do you think it's good enough to use as a response?

 

[Nontrad_FL_LGBT]

Sure: I opened conversation about why I was seen as selfish and they explained that I wasn't spending enough time with them and they believed I found other families better than them because the other families had more money, more people my age, etc etc. I apologised, explaining that I didn't feel that way about them and that I mainly spent time with other families to hear different perspectives on village issues and project ideas, but that I should have been doing more to show my family that I appreciate them. So I started to spend a lot more time with them and started showing the kids movies on my laptop once a week (something special only for them).

I also learned that it was impossible to make everyone happy because when I started spending more time with my family, it made others in the village unhappy, so I basically started setting up "appointments." Ex: I'll come to your home for breakfast on Wednesday, but then spend Thursday morning at the school and Saturday morning tutoring students at this other home.

Do you think it's a weak answer and I should try to brainstorm something else?

That sounds good to me, try for a broader conclusion as well about how that experience has affected how you handle social obligations/relationships now.

 

[The Deep]

Good idea; thanks guys!