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Your past sounds an awful-lot like mine. I never seemed to fit into a certain groups, but was friends with an odd collection of misfits from many different groups.
A strategy I've always tried to employ in medical school is to be a good person to everyone, even people that aren't very friendly back. I try to be lighthearted, strike up conversation, and ask about people with genuine interest, without being irritating of course. I try never to complain around people, I don't bust people's chops, I always encourage them and try to bring out the best in them. Even if people are avoiding eye contact in the halls, give them a warm greeting. If they aren't with it, then that's their problem.
Basically, what I'm getting at, is instead of trying to fit into one group, maybe do things to become universally likable, so that you'll never be on the tail end of the gossip, and you'll be pretty friendly with any/everyone. If you're at school until late hours, a classmate might say "hey, there's NotSoObvious, I'll share a table with them!" You may not be loved by any specific group, but liked by everyone. This has worked best for me. Good luck OP!
Yes, true. This is everywhere. I've heard people like to gossip.many people are gossipy.
It will never end. Not during clinical years, not during residency, not during attendinghood, not during your golden years in a the snazziest nursing home. Get used to it.Cliques are apparent
More like 2-ish. Then you're in clinicals and you're spending time in the real world and hopefully you'll find more of your groove then.the next 4 years
Family is the most important thing in life anyway, right? So why worry about investing your time with people who'll probably never have meaningful interactions with after graduation?family and my long-term gf
However, I can't help but think about how tortuous it might be to spend the next 4 years at an institution where I feel socially isolated, a feeling I am not all that familiar with, despite efforts to try and get to know people.
Consider yourself lucky. I have to many friends in medical school and they are always asking me to do things like hang out and go places and do things. my friends decided throw me and my other friend a joint birthday party at their house and because it’s my party I have to go and my other friend is mad at me it’s a bit of a headache sometimes especially on top of classes and lack of sleep I feel like I could study more if I didn’t have so many medical school friends I feel like loners make the best grades in med school
Consider yourself lucky. I have to many friends in medical school and they are always asking me to do things like hang out and go places and do things. my friends decided throw me and my other friend a joint birthday party at their house and because it’s my party I have to go and my other friend is mad at me it’s a bit of a headache sometimes especially on top of classes and lack of sleep I feel like I could study more if I didn’t have so many medical school friends I feel like loners make the best grades in med school
Cool story I’m sure that’ll make OP feel better
This is great advice and I have heard this many times. I am more of the friends/acquaintances with everyone at my med school, but I don't particularly have a clique I hangout with. I am lucky enough to go to med school a little over an hour from where I grew up so I still hangout with my group/clique from home. Im a bit older in my late twenties and I honestly have made most of my friends in undergrad so I don't really get hung up on it. Youre in med school to study your butt off for two years before clinicals i wouldn't worry too much about finding a "clique" right now @NotSoObvious. Just be nice and friendly with everyone! I just don't care enough to try and "fit-in" with my class. Basically just study hard and crush boards these first two years that is what they are for, not to find a clique amongst people of whom 95% of them you'll never see after second year anyway ever again. Like Mr. breakfast said it will all workout once you get into clinicals/residency etcI made basically zero close friends during my first two years of med school, and felt the same as you. I went to a single class social event during my entire two years, my single closest friend dropped out, and my girlfriend broke up with me. I felt the most alone I've ever felt.
Now, wrapping up M4, I get so many social invites that I have to turn things down every day. I don't really know when things changed, but it was during clinical rotations. I now have multiple social circles and could get a meal or go to a bar with people literally whenever I want. I live alone, and people call me almost every day just to chat, which I haven't experienced since high school. As an introvert, it's almost too much.
I'm far from the most popular person at my school, but all I'm saying is hang in there. I've met some lifelong friends in med school, and I met all of them during clinical rotations, where the "forced interaction" is completely different. You'll spend long hours bonding with people. Things will come together.
My advice: think of pre-clinicals as a long, long study session. Focus on crushing Step 1, and let the doors open for you down the line. You'll make friends later without trying, I promise.
Consider yourself lucky. I have to many friends in medical school and they are always asking me to do things like hang out and go places and do things. my friends decided throw me and my other friend a joint birthday party at their house and because it’s my party I have to go and my other friend is mad at me it’s a bit of a headache sometimes especially on top of classes and lack of sleep I feel like I could study more if I didn’t have so many medical school friends I feel like loners make the best grades in med school
Probably against the grain here on this...But this is now a job, you aren't here to "make friends". If you are someone who desperately needs a pack to belong to so be it, but otherwise keep your head down and focus on the reason you came to school in the first place.
You seem to have “medical school” and “the fifth grade” mixed up. Don’t worry, the social scene is so similar it happens all the time.
Consider yourself lucky. I have to many friends in medical school and they are always asking me to do things like hang out and go places and do things. my friends decided throw me and my other friend a joint birthday party at their house and because it’s my party I have to go and my other friend is mad at me it’s a bit of a headache sometimes especially on top of classes and lack of sleep I feel like I could study more if I didn’t have so many medical school friends I feel like loners make the best grades in med school
Probably against the grain here on this..