holy crap great great explanation, this'll come in handy when I take ochem2, but another question I been baffled on what they mean conjugated... I mean do they mean like every other one? like double,single,double bond? Again great help on the lone pair thing, would this work for all compound or asking to see if its aromatic or not or just certain ones?
well, i guess best explanation of conjugation is that all atoms in the ring must be sp2 hybridized (or sp hybridized i guess, but that usually doesn't apply in a ring b/c triple bonds are never seen in small rings because of the strain you'd create). the problem with this explanation is that a lot of times, it's not always apparent what the hybridization is. for example, let's take my example of pyridine and then pyrrole (again, if you could look them up on wikipedia it'd probably help). for pyridine, it's very obvious that all the atoms are sp2 hybridized.
for pyrrole, it's not so obvious. the carbons are clearly sp2 hybridized. the nitrogen would normally be considered sp3 hybridized, right? it's got three single bonds and one lone pair, so that's normally sp3. if you had ammonia or something, you would say it's sp3 hybridized. but for pyrrole it's not. the reason it's not is because you can draw a resonance contributor into the ring. so if you look at a resonance structure of it, you can draw at least two that have a double bond to the nitrogen and two single bonds to the nitrogen. so that'd be sp2.
i'm not that good at explaining it, but i hope you get the idea.
also, to answer your other question, the approach to determining whether or not lone pairs contribute to huckel's rule applies to all aromatic compounds.
so when checking for aromaticity, you go through the following checklist:
1. is it cyclic? determine like in first grade
a) if yes, move to step 2
b) if no, nonaromatic
2. is it fully conjugated? determine as said above
a) if yes, move to step 3
b) if no, nonaromatic
3. does it obey huckel's rule? determine as I described earlier
a) if yes, it's aromatic
b) if no, nonaromatic
1) check for antiaromaticity-does it obey the 4n rule?
Technically there's a fourth check: is it planar? Generally, for small rings, they will always be planar. Unless they explicitly tell you that a molecule is nonplanar, assume planarity.
sorry i couldn't be more help tho with the conjugated thing