God I love these consults where you intake a patient with depression and then they say:
1. I don't want a referral to a psychiatrist or any psychotropic medication
2. I'll try "talking to someone" (with their pissed off wife sitting next to them) but have no real interest in changing my behavior
Ok, hang on, let me just go find my magic wand...I think it is in a box with grad school diplomas
These days, after and initial session or two, I've gotten pretty militant about the fact that therapy is YOU doing YOU and either making goals to change:
(a) your patterns of thinking/beliefs
or
(b) your patterns of behavior
'My goal is to be less anxious'
Okay, let's break that down into changes you can make in your thinking or your behavior. Nothing else is an appropriate 'goal' for psychotherapy.
And no continuous recitation of symptoms, either. That's not you participating in therapy.
"You gotta help me stop these nightmares/flashbacks."
Your nightmares/flashbacks are symptoms of your (service-connected) diagnosis of PTSD, right?
"Yes"
Okay, let's go back to what the literature / expert consensus guidelines say about treating PTSD (and its associated symptoms such as nightmares/flashbacks). Oh, lookeee here! It says we need to do some CPT/PE/EMDR. You know, work on YOU changing YOUR patterns of thinking/beliefs and/or behavior.
What's that? Can't make weekly sessions? Don't want to discuss your trauma? Aren't interested in a professional service that involves YOU changing your actions/ beliefs? That's okay, we don't have to reschedule. I wouldn't want to go to the Audi dealership if all I wanted was a unicycle, either. It's important to be 'in the market' for the service being offered.