I found out my bf cheated on me. I found out a day after Thanksgiving break. I am very sad and I can't seem to concentrate at all. I can't help but feeling down....can't seem to concentrate or do anything at all. I have my test in 3 weeks...1/2.. the thing is I can't studyyyy... anyone in similar situation? I know it's not worth it, but it's easier to say than do🙁.
very depressed, bf cheated on me and i scheduled my test in 3 weeks
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move it 4 weeks you would be kicking ass again by then 😀
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Well I am single. 😀
What's the best revenge besides doing kickass? I cant think of any.
What's the best revenge besides doing kickass? I cant think of any.
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I'm sorry to hear that...
I had something similar to that happen to me last year before my last finals as an undergrad...
I found out 3 days before my finals began...I cried hard for the first night...after that I was like to hell with him! I stuck my head in a book and studied.
Every time I felt a cry I grabbed more books and notes and read...
I aced all my finals with the exception of Latin (sight translation got me)...I was taking 19 credit hours all upper division sciences and a language course.
Re-schedule it if you feel bad enough...it would really be bad if you spent all that time, energy, and money then go into the test with a broken heart and do poorly.
Give yourself a mental break and think about it.
I hope you start to feel better soon...sometimes guys can be awful 🙄
I had something similar to that happen to me last year before my last finals as an undergrad...
I found out 3 days before my finals began...I cried hard for the first night...after that I was like to hell with him! I stuck my head in a book and studied.
Every time I felt a cry I grabbed more books and notes and read...
I aced all my finals with the exception of Latin (sight translation got me)...I was taking 19 credit hours all upper division sciences and a language course.
Re-schedule it if you feel bad enough...it would really be bad if you spent all that time, energy, and money then go into the test with a broken heart and do poorly.
Give yourself a mental break and think about it.
I hope you start to feel better soon...sometimes guys can be awful 🙄
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What bad timing. If the break up is affecting your studying then you need to re-schedule.
You should vent; cry, scream, whatever you need to do to get it out of your system (just don't murder him). Then take a breath and realize you have your whole life ahead of you and it isn't worth sacrificing any of that for a jerk like your ex.
You should vent; cry, scream, whatever you need to do to get it out of your system (just don't murder him). Then take a breath and realize you have your whole life ahead of you and it isn't worth sacrificing any of that for a jerk like your ex.
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Rather than consoling you, I think this calls for celebration. I congratulate you for finding out what a jerk your bf is, and that you can end the relationship here and now. Imagine if you found out later on, it would hurt you even more.
Now he's someone other person's problem (once a cheater, always a cheater), just move on. There many tons of fish in the ocean, you are not required to stick with the bad ones 😀
good luck on your DAT
Now he's someone other person's problem (once a cheater, always a cheater), just move on. There many tons of fish in the ocean, you are not required to stick with the bad ones 😀
good luck on your DAT
This is good. Way to shed the dead weight before you become a rich, successful dentist.
As someone who cheated on women in my youth, I can tell you the fault lies with THEM not with YOU. Allow yourself to feel dissappointed, vent, cry, and then move along. There are much better boys out there.
Now, keep your eye on the prize and continue studying!
Steve
As someone who cheated on women in my youth, I can tell you the fault lies with THEM not with YOU. Allow yourself to feel dissappointed, vent, cry, and then move along. There are much better boys out there.
Now, keep your eye on the prize and continue studying!
Steve
The second time I took my MCAT my husband and I got into a big fight 2 weeks before and I still took the test. As you can imagine I did not do well hence the third time.I left my husband 2 weeks before I was suppose to take my MCAT for the third time. I did reschedule my third time for a year later in the meantime I improved my ec's, bonded with my daughter and enjoyed my freedom. When I took it the third time I did improve and this year not only did I get three acceptances but I turned down two interviews.
The point is if you need time to heal take it, but do not forse yourself to take it and you are not ready the results could damage your chances in an already competitive field. I wish i could say you will get over it because you may not, but at least you can learn to survive.
Good Luck
The point is if you need time to heal take it, but do not forse yourself to take it and you are not ready the results could damage your chances in an already competitive field. I wish i could say you will get over it because you may not, but at least you can learn to survive.
Good Luck
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Time heals all wound. I know its generic but believe me, you will get over him. Now, i think you should reschedule, you still have plenty of time for the next cycle.
In my opinion, let yourself get over this jerk first. Concentrate on yourself now: exercise, make more friends... After that, hit the DAT books hard
Trust me, you will be fine. The only revenge is to be a hot successful dentist🙂
Gluck
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Time may heal all wounds but it doesn't stop for anybody. While I'm not necessarily recommending that the OP go ahead with the test if she doesn't feel ready, sometimes you have to learn to put personal issues to the side and still do your job.
That may sound a little heartless, but from a married person's perspective, he was just a loser boyfriend. Life goes on.
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He is trying to emulate the big TW.
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i do not think it is good for her to take the test now. Depend on how long the relationship is, it takes time to recover. She will experience the withdrawal symptoms which would be impossible to concentrate on.
Personal issues should be aside but this is the matter of the heart.
I recommended reschedule since i think it will be impossible for a human being with emotion to go through the 5 hours test with her significant other betray her just 3 weeks ago.
And to all guys who cheat, burn in hell
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If it makes you feel any better...I take the DAT in 5 weeks from now, and...tonight I went to my girlfriends house and broke up with her. After I left her house, I went to a coffee shop and continued studying for the DAT lmao. Oh...hmm...now that I think about it--I didn't get cheated on. Hmm...well...take my advice, because it'll cheer you up:
Just because you got cheated on doesn't mean its the end of the world for you. Look at it is a positive thing: you found out so in case you two were to marry one day, he might have cheated on you then. also...you now have more time to study for the DAT. And you'll end up with a better guy I'm sure. Just take a step back and realize "Wait...lol...this isn't that big of a deal. This is in NO WAY the end of the world. I'll find a guy who will be faithful to me someday. But for now, I'm gonna kick some ass on the DAT."
You WILL get thru this. You have to get thru the bad guys to find the good one. 😉 Smile, k?
Just because you got cheated on doesn't mean its the end of the world for you. Look at it is a positive thing: you found out so in case you two were to marry one day, he might have cheated on you then. also...you now have more time to study for the DAT. And you'll end up with a better guy I'm sure. Just take a step back and realize "Wait...lol...this isn't that big of a deal. This is in NO WAY the end of the world. I'll find a guy who will be faithful to me someday. But for now, I'm gonna kick some ass on the DAT."
You WILL get thru this. You have to get thru the bad guys to find the good one. 😉 Smile, k?
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I know it's hard but don't let a stupid thing like that affect your future. Think about how bright your future is and don't worry you'll get many opportunities to find a great guy who will treat you well. Stay focused on your goal and forget everything else, trust me it's worth it. 👍
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I agree with above, by all means take your time. Only take when ready. Man I wish we had this luxury on the canadian DAT, we can only take it twice a year, middle of Feb or middle of Nov, both of which are middle of semester when you have a load of exams/papers.
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In all honesty you have to decide NOW what's more important to concentrate on. I'm sorry if I sound harsh by saying this but, SDN is not a forum for pity parties.
Here's my suggestion: Concentrate on your DAT as this will guarantee your future (well, to an extent). After that is over you can turn all your attention to your other issue (s).
It's really up to you.
Here's my suggestion: Concentrate on your DAT as this will guarantee your future (well, to an extent). After that is over you can turn all your attention to your other issue (s).
It's really up to you.
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