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- Dec 4, 2015
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We have a new (to us) attending who was hired into a senior position. The attending has a good pedigree and a great resume. Most of us already like her and she's enacting useful changes. If she does 1/3 of what she wants to do, we will all benefit.
The issue is she's...kind of a mess. She's obviously stressed, which makes her unpredictable and snappish. For someone who is supposed to be improving communication, that's not good. You can tell she's overextended, which manifests as being late or not helping us prepare. More concerning is that she recently had a personal crisis that is overshadowing her accomplishments. She overshares. She makes comments about being miserable. She went on a man-hating tirade in the middle of a presentation. She has said some things that are blindingly inappropriate. It is making me uncomfortable and I have a high tolerance for social horror shows.
I worry that she'll burn out. I'm more worried that her inappropriateness is both making us lose respect for her and putting her in a precarious position HR-wise. If she says this stuff to the wrong people, it could make her life godawful. Someone needs to pull her aside and tell her to get some therapy and not use her junior residents to complain about her personal life. That person isn't me. I don't want to go to HR or our PD. I don't want her fired. I had enough of a corporate career prior to medicine that I know this is not okay for work.
The department had a suicide a few years ago. It was another up-and-coming attending with nebulous personal problems. She hid what was happening and no one knew the extent until she killed herself. I don't know if my attending is in that danger but ****, I could see it happening.
Do I say anything? Do I wait for it to rise to the level of an HR violation? Do I just roll my eyes?
The issue is she's...kind of a mess. She's obviously stressed, which makes her unpredictable and snappish. For someone who is supposed to be improving communication, that's not good. You can tell she's overextended, which manifests as being late or not helping us prepare. More concerning is that she recently had a personal crisis that is overshadowing her accomplishments. She overshares. She makes comments about being miserable. She went on a man-hating tirade in the middle of a presentation. She has said some things that are blindingly inappropriate. It is making me uncomfortable and I have a high tolerance for social horror shows.
I worry that she'll burn out. I'm more worried that her inappropriateness is both making us lose respect for her and putting her in a precarious position HR-wise. If she says this stuff to the wrong people, it could make her life godawful. Someone needs to pull her aside and tell her to get some therapy and not use her junior residents to complain about her personal life. That person isn't me. I don't want to go to HR or our PD. I don't want her fired. I had enough of a corporate career prior to medicine that I know this is not okay for work.
The department had a suicide a few years ago. It was another up-and-coming attending with nebulous personal problems. She hid what was happening and no one knew the extent until she killed herself. I don't know if my attending is in that danger but ****, I could see it happening.
Do I say anything? Do I wait for it to rise to the level of an HR violation? Do I just roll my eyes?