That's kind of like asking, how do you tell when it is "two people pulling in opposite directions on either end of the same rope" or a tug-of-war? A buffer IS a weak acid-base equilibrium. The reason a buffer buffers (read: resists changes in pH even when you drop in mega strong acids or bases) is because it is an equilibrium established between that weak acid and its conjugate base or the weak base and its conjugate acid. The added acid or base disrupts the system and according to Le Chatelier's it will resolve back toward equilibrium as quickly as possible (meaning no major pH change).
So, to answer your question, I would say don't try to see them as different, when you see "weak" combined with acid/base...and definitely if you see that with the word "equilibrium" think BUFFER! The other clue you'll see on AAMC MCAT questions is 1:1 ratios. If you see 0.1 M of this and 0.1 M of that....most the time this and that are going to be a weak acid/base pair buffering. Also look for that "only 1 hydrogen" difference on anything you know isn't strong--that's another clue its a buffer (e.g., CH3COOH/CH3COO-, NH3/NH4+, H2CO3/HCO3-...you get the idea).