I got a pleasant surprise today when a friend from out of state called me. I met this person at a church youth convention years ago and we still keep in contact with each other. He's in a delima and doesn't know what to do, and asked for my advice. I told him I'd have to sleep on it.
He's 22 and fresh out of school (I'm talking just graduated a few days ago). He's doing a gap year so he's currently applying to med school. His girlfriend of two years has just landed a great internship at the department of treasury. He has no problem following her and just applying to a school that's close to by so they can still be together, but for her that's not enough. She wants him to MARRY her before he starts medical school. She wants to do it "before their lives get too hectic."
I know for a fact that he loves this girl, in two years they've stayed completely true to one another. And their families love each other. It's just that marriage is kind of scary to him, which I find completely understandable. His girlfriend is right, internships can be difficult and time-consuming and we all know how demanding medical school is, if not by experience then from reading people's stories.
I have no idea what to tell him. On one hand I think it's important to see if their relationship can withstand both of their upcoming hectic schedules, so they should hold off on marriage. On the other hand, my friend is only going to get busier. After med school, there's residency which is extremely demanding. So it might be a good thing to get married sooner rather than later.
Blah! I don't know. I've never been in love before so I have no idea how he's feeling. Doctors have extremely high divorce rates, but I hope he can work it out if this is truly the girl for him.
What do you guys think? 2 years isn't a long enough time to want to marry someone, or it doesn't sound like a very long time to make such a big commitment.
He's 22 and fresh out of school (I'm talking just graduated a few days ago). He's doing a gap year so he's currently applying to med school. His girlfriend of two years has just landed a great internship at the department of treasury. He has no problem following her and just applying to a school that's close to by so they can still be together, but for her that's not enough. She wants him to MARRY her before he starts medical school. She wants to do it "before their lives get too hectic."
I know for a fact that he loves this girl, in two years they've stayed completely true to one another. And their families love each other. It's just that marriage is kind of scary to him, which I find completely understandable. His girlfriend is right, internships can be difficult and time-consuming and we all know how demanding medical school is, if not by experience then from reading people's stories.
I have no idea what to tell him. On one hand I think it's important to see if their relationship can withstand both of their upcoming hectic schedules, so they should hold off on marriage. On the other hand, my friend is only going to get busier. After med school, there's residency which is extremely demanding. So it might be a good thing to get married sooner rather than later.
Blah! I don't know. I've never been in love before so I have no idea how he's feeling. Doctors have extremely high divorce rates, but I hope he can work it out if this is truly the girl for him.
What do you guys think? 2 years isn't a long enough time to want to marry someone, or it doesn't sound like a very long time to make such a big commitment.
