mid-atlantic, class of 2012
Classes vary, normally 4 hrs/day
I don't socialize a lot w/ classmates, my free time = family time. This is partly due to the commute, and partly b/c I'm a homebody.
I don't exercise much, though I should : ) Maybe 1.5 hr/wk if you don't count walking to class.
Study time varies, but typically about 5 hours/day. For certain classes (cough, anatomy, cough) I was doing 12 hours all week (5 days).
Weekends are a mix of study time and free time, usually I take one day off, and then do a partial study day on Sunday. If we have an exam, I may study both days. If we just finished an exam, I probably won't do anything school related all weekend.
I commute to school b/c of my family. It doesn't bother me, but I do think 3rd year would be easier if I could stumble across the street to get home post call vs driving home.
I use my commute time to listen to Goljan audio and NPR. My school also audio records lectures, and sometimes I listen to those en route as well. I also just don't go to class a couple of days/week, and listen to the audio and look at the ppts on my own.
Spouse time -There is absolutely no reason you can't have a life your first 2 years. That said, there will be times when you feel stressed out because of a big exam and will be a PITA to be around. This is no different from anyone with a "real" job. Third year I can't really speak to; from what I hear it's highly variable from school to school and rotation to rotation. Some people use med school (or their job, or whatever) as an excuse to be a useless inconsiderate significant other...you don't sound like that sort of person. Some spouses use their SO's med student status as an excuse to complain about lack of time, $$, etc. Others are more flexible, and can wait to celebrate your anniversary until after your exam, etc. Either you married someone who is able to deal, or you didn't, and unfortunately, it's not always apparent before you're in the middle of it.
I think it's really useful for a spouse to read a negative take on medicine -like Panda's blog. I think it's best to sit down before hand and develop a battle plan. For me, the hardest part has been the financial side, because I had a paycheck, and now I have debt instead. For my spouse, I think it's been hardest for him to deal w/ the shift in household rank -for years, the household schedule basically revolved around him, because I had a flexible job. Now, if the kid is sick, and I have to be in clinic or have an exam, he has to rearrange his schedule. Sometimes he has to take the dog to the vet, or one of the other 200 little things that go along with running a household. But fortunately for me, his father was a physician, and he sort of gets the whole middle of the night phone calls, sleep deprivation, etc that will be my future life, and is ok with it.