When should I start dating

[Guyton Killah]

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[cpants]

The time situation is not going to get better anytime soon. Start dating immediately. No matter how busy you are you can and must make some time to take care of yourself.

 

[Mr hawkings]

Dont do it.
Wait till you are done with residency, then find youself a Golddigger.👍

 

[Depakote]

The time situation is not going to get better anytime soon. Start dating immediately. No matter how busy you are you can and must make some time to take care of yourself.

You can make time... dating doesn't have to be a huge dramatic event, just a few hours or two here or there. You'll be surprised what you can scrape up.

Don't procrastinate. One of the docs at my school gave a great talk about this, it doesn't get better as things go along, it just gets different. But a good interpersonal relationship can be one of the best stabilizing influences during stress...


(not to be parroting with the above, I agree with him... it's just he's the voice of experience in this situation)

 

[Guyton Killah]

Dont do it.
Wait till you are done with residency, then find youself a Golddigger.👍

Hope you guys understand. If you are always on exams, its sooo hard to find the right person😍!! I dont know if its only me, or majority of the medicine students are in the same mess. Its like a trap has been set up for you, every lil thing you do n trip you gone!! So I AM not quite sure if dating is "safe" for now!! Any tips etc would be highly apreciated.

 

[cpants]

There's no real secret man. Ask a girl you find attractive to grab a cup of coffee. Have a good time. Take it from there. Repeat.

 

[Tiger26]

So I was going to lead off with something really smart *****, but I think you have a great user name, so I'd suggest something like match.com. There's a lot of professional types who have the same time limitations, plus you know they're interested in dating and you'd be able to meet somebody outside your med school class. What do you have to lose . . .

 

[number]

Does flirting with nurses often go well for 3rd and 4th year students?

 

[MSKalltheway]

Does flirting with nurses often go well for 3rd and 4th year students?

If you are a charmer, the younger ones will come say hello. No personal experience, but I've had classmates successfully rope one or two in.

 

[thechad]

Hope you guys understand. If you are always on exams, its sooo hard to find the right person😍!! I dont know if its only me, or majority of the medicine students are in the same mess. Its like a trap has been set up for you, every lil thing you do n trip you gone!! So I AM not quite sure if dating is "safe" for now!! Any tips etc would be highly apreciated.

No one will ever love you, "Guyton Killah."

 

[medstudent11]

There's a lot about med school that's just like high school. So, a lot of flirting, gossiping, etc.

Except, now more people are at the married/engaged stage. I think 5 of my classmates got engaged over Christmas.

You'll see a few couples that are already married b4 starting med school, some that just got married while in med school, those looking to get engaged, and then the students who are interested in dating, and there are many students in this last group.

So, yes, a lof of med students are in the same boat. Trying to balance studying with dating and trying to figure out their priorities.

I think tiger26 made a good point. You don't necessarily have to date someone in class. For many of my classmates, including me, that's what been done over the past two years.

Ad i just got engaged over Christmas, so dating is for sure a possibility while in med school.

~Medstudent11
http://themedstudentexperience.blogspot.com

 

[searun]

There's no real secret man. Ask a girl you find attractive to grab a cup of coffee. Have a good time. Take it from there. Repeat.

I recommend inviting the girl out for martinis rather than coffee. And be a gentleman and pick up the tab for the martinis.

 

[Law2Doc]

Does flirting with nurses often go well for 3rd and 4th year students?

Nah, they want somebody not 5 years away from a real job. Most nurses think med students don't give them adequate respect (which in a lot of cases is accurate), so this tends not to be the best avenue of fraternization.

 

[Blesbok]

The most important part of a healthy relationship is communication skills, which you obviously lack. Your relationship problems have nothing to do with medical school.

 

[khadija]

The most important part of a healthy relationship is communication skills, which you obviously lack. Your relationship problems have nothing to do with medical school.

now that's just mean. go away meanie.

I understand what the OP is saying about not having enough time. Its hard to maintain a relationship while in med school. My friend (who is engaged) is always having to cancel or cut short dates because of studies. And trying to start a relationship is even harder.

Notice I said hard, not impossible. And I agree with the poster that said it will only get harder. You think you don't have enough time now. You'll have even less time as a resident on-call most nights. And who really wants to wait until they're 30 to start dating. Match.com might work, if you have the budget for it. Personally, all my money is spent on buying books and study aids (and clothes).

My advice is to keep yourself open to all possibilities. Yes we are all busy studying, but use that free Saturday to go dancing with friends and see if you meet anyone interesting. If you do meet someone you like, let them know how you feel but explain that med school takes up a lot of your time. Make email and facebook your friend, and use those to stay in touch. When you take that half hour study break between studying anatomy and histology, call him to say hi.

Don't let med school discourage you from having a relationship. Often times, when med school will drive you crazy, having someone by your side will keep you sane. Hope you meet someone special soon.

 

[SpookyDoc]

Five years ago.

 

[Gabujabu]

I recently read in a book that half of doctors get married either during medical school or residency. However, 60% of them are divorced within 10 years of finishing residency. 😱

 

[TMP-SMX]

I recently read in a book that half of doctors get married either during medical school or residency. However, 60% of them are divorced within 10 years of finishing residency. 😱

You'll feel better when you realize the difference between that statistic and the general population isn't that different. If you'd like to be a statistic it has more to do with the two individuals than your profession as dealing with a lack of time with each other/infidelity is the issue rather than money which is the issue with most other couples. Of course if the physician is the sole money-maker then yes there can be strife.

Five years ago.

👍

 

[HurricaneKatt]

You can make time... dating doesn't have to be a huge dramatic event, just a few hours or two here or there. You'll be surprised what you can scrape up.

Don't procrastinate. One of the docs at my school gave a great talk about this, it doesn't get better as things go along, it just gets different. But a good interpersonal relationship can be one of the best stabilizing influences during stress...


(not to be parroting with the above, I agree with him... it's just he's the voice of experience in this situation)

Seconded! And, if you do find someone else in your class (or at least in Med school) the nice thing is you can spend time together studying. not as good as like dinner or dates or just chill time which is still needed, but it is still a way to spend time together. My boyfriend and I have a lot of classes together (that's how we met) and study together a lot. It's nice because we can help each other out in areas, but aren't distracted by tangential convos that often happen in a big study group. Good luck! 😍

 

[Mr hawkings]

MODS.
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[akpete]

any time's a good time to sleep around. 👍

 

[MedMan25]

I think finding time for dating is just like finding time for anything else in medical school. My guess is that if you're not dating much now, you probably weren't dating very much in college. So, I believe instead of asking yourself "when is the right time to start dating" a more appropriate question might be "why am I afraid of girls (or guys)"

 

[VincentAdultman]

Little thing called a Roofie Colada