Will you be single when you go to med school?

[The Poet Sings]

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ok perhaps i should give you the chance to explain what you meant by "epic fail". i only saw it as a negative thing with the laughter to rub it in extra hard... but maybe you were jk? and if you were serious then... HATER! 😛

 

[J ROD]

hope you guys end up near each other!

🙄

 

[J ROD]

ok perhaps i should give you the chance to explain what you meant by "epic fail". i only saw it as a negative thing with the laughter to rub it in extra hard... but maybe you were jk? and if you were serious then... HATER! 😛

 

[The Poet Sings]

hope you guys end up near each other!

thanks 😀

how is this even a relevant response...?

 

[ElegantWeapon]

I'm married, but I heard once you become a doctor you've got to trade up for a younger model. Don't tell my wife.

this made me crack up

 

[J ROD]

thanks 😀


how is this even a relevant response...?

go back and read it again....😉

 

[longhorn09]

Nice, I'm glad to know that there are still many single girls 😛

 

[lost786]

single, because life tends to be easier that way... i'm waiting to find a girl in medschool so I can marry rich!

👍


j/k


sorta...

 

[casillas]

I will be single, and hopefully single through med school too.

So you WANT to be single through med school? i can understand if it happens, but that's how you want it to be?


I'm single but open to life, can't really plan it out.

 

[casillas]

interesting that the poll is so skewed towards "all the single ladies/gents" (you should have sang that!!) I wonder if this is an accuarate representation of how med school will be at matriculation, or if the single ones are more likely to be on SDN?😕😕

 

[J ROD]

So you WANT to be single through med school? i can understand if it happens, but that's how you want it to be?


I'm single but open to life, can't really plan it out.

Elmo 😍

 

[ARK013]

Your bride is gonna looooooove that, planning the wedding and what not in 5 months as well as moving... she's gonna be busy and stressed and crazy 🙂

It is really nice having spousal support though... Even if your day sucked, you know you've got someone nice to come home and hug 😍

Oh it wont be so bad! Although yes it will still be stressful...Fortunately she has a REALLY easy semester and will have a TON of extra time to get stuff figured out! She lives a good life for now haha.....And the move wont be bad either! Both of us live in the same city about an hour from the university!

 

[tinery]

interesting that the poll is so skewed towards "all the single ladies/gents" (you should have sang that!!) I wonder if this is an accuarate representation of how med school will be at matriculation, or if the single ones are more likely to be on SDN?😕😕

that's exactly what i was thinking! maybe it's skewed because most of the nonsingle premeds are all with their significant others.

 

[standard]

Lets stand back and look at this.

You're in a serious relationship...

But your mom says you should be single..

Now you're asking random people on the internet what they plan to do.

I don't think you're in as serious of a relationship as you think.

i lol'd...

 

[BlueElmo]

So you WANT to be single through med school? i can understand if it happens, but that's how you want it to be?


I'm single but open to life, can't really plan it out.

Yup, I'm gonna find myself a real treasure after I become a doctor. Probably a lot of demand for a doctor husband.😀

 

[FloatOn]

I broke up with my long-term bf recently. He was a momma's boy, and his mother gave him gems of advice such as "You need to find a girl dumber and less attractive than DarwinA so you can control your woman" hahaha

After years of this it gets realllly old. I'll be glad to start med school single, and I will enjoy my pre- med school travelling around the country a lot more now that I'm free!

Damn straight, you assert your independence!

 

[casillas]

Yup, I'm gonna find myself a real treasure after I become a doctor. Probably a lot of demand for a doctor husband.😀

watch out for that kind, they'll want your money more than they'll want you. The way i think of it, if i can find someone now who can stick through this whole medical school misery then they must be a real keeper.

 

[DrHiner]

Oh it wont be so bad! Although yes it will still be stressful...Fortunately she has a REALLY easy semester and will have a TON of extra time to get stuff figured out! She lives a good life for now haha.....And the move wont be bad either! Both of us live in the same city about an hour from the university!

Best wishes to you both 🙂 I'm sure you'll have an amazing wedding day, and more importantly, I hope you have a wonderful marriage!

 

[BlueElmo]

watch out for that kind, they'll want your money more than they'll want you. The way i think of it, if i can find someone now who can stick through this whole medical school misery then they must be a real keeper.

Ah that's a good point.

 

[Hifey]

I'm sort of inaverdently and by choice single too...

I figure if I'm going to be somewhere far far away in a few months, then its not really worth it to start something up.

I am however up for a fun light hearted relationship until I have to leave. If that happens, and becomes more serious then I would have to think about it more. If neither happens, then I can still be single and have tons of fun with my friends without a boy toy 😉

I am looking forward to meeting new people in med school though!

 

[tinery]

Lets stand back and look at this.

You're in a serious relationship...

But your mom says you should be single..

Now you're asking random people on the internet what they plan to do.

I don't think you're in as serious of a relationship as you think.

i think it's natural for mothers to have an opinion about stuff like this, no? and, as i said i'm just taking things as they come, i'm not planning on listening to her.

but you're right, no one ever asks questions to random people on the internet.

 

[OpalOnyx]

Medical talk/sharing gets really old after a while so I'll be searching for someone outside of the profession... *balance*

 

[MilkmanAl]

Hey, at least she's not my dad. The only girlfriend he hasn't made a remark similar (or identical) to "Why do you like her? Easy piece of ass?" about is the one he has never met. He once noted that the girl I dated for most of college "scared the **** out of him." Granted, his derision has turned out to be well-founded so far, so maybe there's something to it. 😛

I've got to agree with Mackey, though. When you turn to pre-meds for relationship advice, you probably already know the answers to your questions. It's like asking Mike Tyson for help with a physics problem.

 

[gymtanlaundry]

It still blows my mind people get married before med school. I mean, we're going to meet a LOT of high caliber peeps in the next few years, and then all over again during residency. To rule them all out as potential relationship material by marrying during undergrad- a much more diluted pool of individuals- just seems kind of short-sighted to me. I plan on marrying late as possible, late 20s/early 30s. Until then, single. So bring on the nerdy chicks.

 

[sassilysweet]

It still blows my mind people get married before med school. I mean, we're going to meet a LOT of high caliber peeps in the next few years, and then all over again during residency. To rule them all out as potential relationship material by marrying during undergrad- a much more diluted pool of individuals- just seems kind of short-sighted to me. I plan on marrying late as possible, late 20s/early 30s. Until then, single. So bring on the nerdy chicks.

You have to remember that at least SOME of the people on here are not going to medical school directly after undergrad, so "getting married before med school" can encompass a varying number of years.

...and love does not really work like how you seem to think it does. If you find someone, you find someone. Besides, I don't think I could handle another premed/med personality as a mate. My husband is WAY more laid-back than me, and I need that.

 

[MilkmanAl]

Actually, I think you're the one who's confused on the love issue, at least where med school is concerned. Love does not conquer all, and nothing proves that quite like studying for hours on end when your other half interprets your lack of assignments as you having "nothing to do." Loneliness, bitterness, jealousy, and all the rest of those fun feelings tend to set in pretty quickly. Med school is the relationship killer, regardless of what stage you're at in life or your your relationship. That obviously does not mean you certainly, 100%, will break up/get a divorce, but thinking that you've found your soulmate with whom you'll remain, no matter what, is pretty naive. Make no mistake, it will take a whole hell of a lot of work to make any relationship stick once med school starts. 8 weeks into last year, we were down 3 engagements, 1 marriage, and at least 10 couples that I can think of off the top of my head. 2 people dropped out due to marital issues. It's really rough.

 

[J ROD]

Actually, I think you're the one who's confused on the love issue, at least where med school is concerned. Love does not conquer all, and nothing proves that quite like studying for hours on end when your other half interprets your lack of assignments as you having "nothing to do." Loneliness, bitterness, jealousy, and all the rest of those fun feelings tend to set in pretty quickly. Med school is the relationship killer, regardless of what stage you're at in life or your your relationship. That obviously does not mean you certainly, 100%, will break up/get a divorce, but thinking that you've found your soulmate with whom you'll remain, no matter what, is pretty naive. Make no mistake, it will take a whole hell of a lot of work to make any relationship stick once med school starts. 8 weeks into last year, we were down 3 engagements, 1 marriage, and at least 10 couples that I can think of off the top of my head. It's really rough.

👍👍

 

[gymtanlaundry]

You have to remember that at least SOME of the people on here are not going to medical school directly after undergrad, so "getting married before med school" can encompass a varying number of years.

...and love does not really work like how you seem to think it does. If you find someone, you find someone. Besides, I don't think I could handle another premed/med personality as a mate. My husband is WAY more laid-back than me, and I need that.

True, average matriculant age is about 25, so there are some old folks, but I'd bet the skew is toward people with 1 year or less off from undergrad, and from experience I know the social scene to be pretty lame in the real world compared to undergrad, so not that much more opportunity to get serious.

Finding "someone" is great. But personally I'd feel like I was ordering after seeing only half the menu. I plan on sampling a number of dishes before making a fully informed decision based on experience 😀

 

[sassilysweet]

Wow, thanks DebbieDowner. That was pretty rude.

The love part I was referring to was about where you find someone/"diluted dating pool", not the "love conquers all" thing

Unlike some people, we have realistic expectations for what is going on. His brother is a doctor and went to the same med school I will be attending. We have had multiple discussions on the subject. Anyway I don't feel like defending my marriage before medical school, but we wouldn't have made the commitment if we thought it was going to be something that would destroy the relationship.

 

[MilkmanAl]

It's not rude, it's realistic. I don't imagine the engaged/married couples had planned to break up before med school came along, either. There are plenty of married folks who are still married and doing just fine. There are also a few of my classmates who have recently gotten or will soon be married. Just know that the failure rate here is much, much higher than it is most other places, and going into it blithely assuming the best is a recipe for disaster.

 

[Geekchick921]

In a relationship. As in, married. 😍

 

[searun]

I quickly discovered that med school is a lousy place to try to find a life partner. During orientation week of my first year, I observed that almost every attractive woman in my class was either married or in a serious committed relationship. It has remained that way throughout my med school career. ( I am a third year).

I do have a great girl friend. But I met her on a beach in Central America during the summer following my first year of med school. Then she moved to the city where I am attending med school.

If you are looking for love within the confines of your med school, good luck, you are going to need it.

 

[gymtanlaundry]

It's not rude, it's realistic. I don't imagine the engaged/married couples had planned to break up before med school came along, either. There are plenty of married folks who are still married and doing just fine. There are also a few of my classmates who have recently gotten or will soon be married. Just know that the failure rate here is much, much higher than it is most other places, and going into it blithely assuming the best is a recipe for disaster.

I admire your persistence, MM, but it's pretty much impossible to reconcile the cynical view of love single people have with the idealistic one of people in the early phases of marriage. Unfortunately, statistics tell us the cynical view tends to be correct more often than not these days. And anectodally I know a surprising number of docs who are terrible philanderers and it's sad that they brought a loving spouse and sometimes children into the picture beforehand.

 

[searun]

I was in a serious relationship when I started med school. I moved from the West Coast to the East Coast for med school. My girl friend remained on the West Coast. This relationship ended 4 months after I started med school, during Christmas Break.

 

[MilkmanAl]

I admire your persistence, MM, but it's pretty much impossible to reconcile the cynical view of love single people have with the idealistic one of people in the early phases of marriage. Unfortunately, statistics tell us the cynical view tends to be correct more often than not these days. And anectodally I know a surprising number of docs who are terrible philanderers and it's sad that they brought a loving spouse and sometimes children into the picture beforehand.

👍

If even one person remembers to put some extra effort into his/her relationship and to brace his/her significant other for the huge emotional toll on the horizon, I'll consider this thread a success. For those who cruise into med school thinking love alone will pull you through...well, don't say you weren't warned.

 

[J ROD]

I was in a serious relationship when I started med school. I moved from the West Coast to the East Coast for med school. My girl friend remained on the West Coast. This relationship ended 4 months after I started med school, during Christmas Break.

proof in the pudding....

med schools breaks more relationships than it fixes....😉

 

[J ROD]

I quickly discovered that med school is a lousy place to try to find a life partner. During orientation week of my first year, I observed that almost every attractive woman in my class was either married or in a serious committed relationship. It has remained that way throughout my med school career. ( I am a third year).

I have heard this many times.....I dont plan to look while in school. I rather just have my needs met......

 

[J ROD]

In a relationship. As in, married. 😍

for now...😱

 

[Renaissance Man]

I couldn't agree with sassilysweet more. How can one plan on when to get married or be in a serious relationship? People on here are telling me that if they meet the right person they will walk away from them simply because they have medical school commitments? I don't know what type of relationships you guys are used to , but if it is "the one" than the significant other will be understanding of work load, and will have a life of his/her own to attend to as well.

I am gonna go into medical school committed, and not worried about it. Love and medical school are not impossible to attain at the same time.

 

[Renaissance Man]

I dont plan to look while in school. I rather just have my needs met......

Me thinks your future wife, will have her needs met and run off with half you money

Its easy to be with someone when you aren't in debt and are making 150K (ish). Relationships should be made of stronger stuff.

 

[J ROD]

I couldn't agree with sassilysweet more. How can one plan on when to get married or be in a serious relationship? People on here are telling me that if they meet the right person they will walk away from them simply because they have medical school commitments? I don't know what type of relationships you guys are used to , but if it is "the one" than the significant other will be understanding of work load, and will have a life of his/her own to attend to as well.

I am gonna go into medical school committed, and not worried about it. Love and medical school are not impossible to attain at the same time.

not impossible...just makes it harder.

 

[nonsciencemajor]

I have heard this many times.....I dont plan to look while in school. I rather just have my needs met......

i myself have heard this about what searun had said.... why???.. i really just dont get it... but anyways

i dont really wanna marry a doctor anyways....

 

[Geekchick921]

for now...😱

I expected that response, J Dub. We've been together for nearly a decade, married for almost two years, and been through myriad life experiences together, some of which were wholly unpleasant. Especially considering how much we went through (and how little we made... ugh)this first year with our daughter, staying happily married through medical school and beyond seems well more than possible.

 

[J ROD]

Me thinks your future wife, will have her needs met and run off with half you money

Its easy to be with someone when you aren't in debt and are making 150K (ish). Relationships should be made of stronger stuff.

I would have a TRUMP prenup.....I 😍 money!!

It does not cheat or lie.....just complicates things....😉

 

[nonsciencemajor]

I would have a TRUMP prenup.....I 😍 money!!

It does not cheat or lie.....just complicates things....😉

haha.......................... ... we think alike... very alike

 

[J ROD]

I expected that response, J Dub. We've been together for nearly a decade, married for almost two years, and been through myriad life experiences together, some of which were wholly unpleasant. Especially considering how much we went through (and how little we made... ugh)this first year with our daughter, staying happily married through medical school and beyond seems well more than possible.

ok. might not....only time will tell...😛

 

[J ROD]

i dont really wanna marry a doctor anyways....

my probationary brother...😀

me either...I prefer "pretty dumb"

 

[ILikeDrugs]

I mean, we're going to meet a LOT of high caliber peeps in the next few years, and then all over again during residency. To rule them all out as potential relationship material by marrying during undergrad- a much more diluted pool of individuals- just seems kind of short-sighted to me. I plan on marrying late as possible, late 20s/early 30s. Until then, single. So bring on the nerdy chicks.

I think you are a bit delusional to think that the majority of people going into medical school are "high caliber." Maybe you should step down from that pedestal you are already putting yourself on. I've worked with physicians for a very long time and I never saw them as these god-like individual you probably see them as. They're just regular people like everyone else. To say that the majority of the people who aren't physicians are "low caliber" is ridiculous. 🙄🙄🙄 Some of the most sociable and genuine people I've met weren't physicians. What does "high caliber" mean to you? Having lots of money? Coming from an affluent family? Wearing $200 jeans?

 

[gymtanlaundry]

I think you are a bit delusional to think that the majority of people going into medical school are "high caliber." Maybe you should step down from that pedestal you are already putting yourself on. I've worked with physicians for a very long time and I never saw them as these god-like individual you probably see them as. They're just regular people like everyone else. To say that the majority of the people who aren't physicians are "low caliber" is ridiculous. 🙄🙄🙄 Some of the most sociable and genuine people I've met weren't physicians. What does "high caliber" mean to you? Having lots of money? Coming from an affluent family? Wearing $200 jeans?

Try working some of the jobs in some of the neighborhoods that I have and you will gain some perspective.

 

[MiniMoo]

Honestly, I personally would never date someone in the same class in med school, and I don't know why someone would actively pursue a relationship with a classmate. Can you imagine how awkward things would be if the relationship went badly? Having to see that person every single day, likely sharing the same friends. Eck. Too much potential drama for me.