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As if this issue hasn't been brought up before... but I'm 27 years old and in the process of applying to medical school. As I'm going through this process, I'm rethinking things through again. I won't back down and discard my application efforts---I want to find out whether I could get into medical school and fulfill my dream of becoming a physician. BUT I was already thinking that if I get accepted into medical school and become a medical student and eventually a physician.. how in the world am I suppose to get married and raise a family?
I've already debated it straight through my head countless times and been able to shadow various female physicians to a substantial degree. I've seen them hire nannies, or have their kids raised partly by their in-laws or forgo pregnancy until later in residency, or get into pediatrics where it's not really an issue. xyz. this and that scenario. And I've seen people in medical school get engaged, married, pregnant.. all that. But I feel like my case doesn't apply to the scenarios I've observed. I'm female, asian and currently not in any committed relationship. And that's not to single me out or like put some red scarlet letter on me, but I guess what I mean is that, it's kinda different (I guess you would get it only if you were raised of a particular ethnicity..)
I've wanted to be a physician my entire life and it's been a great opportunity (and laborious process) to get to this point to even apply---so I'm glad actually to find out whether this is going to happen or not.... but sometimes when I critically evalute the situation and own up to who I am and who I am not and I see that all these females that got engaged and married were caucasian and 22-24 years old. And that they also had been in long term relationships or have boyfriends, fiances or spouses who had normal jobs like normal people do. I just sigh because I'm like as if it isn't hard enough to find someone compatible in life in general to fall in love with and partner up with... how many more hurdles are going to be on this one if you're older, different background ethnicity and have certain family principles you'd hope your spouse would also believe in.
Now, I would say that I'm reasonably attractive and have a social personality.. I'm not some homely girl who couldn't get a date with dudes... but I KNOW that if I were to get into medical school, that would change the balance of the equation for potential relationships somewhere down the future. And I KNOW realistically that good grief, I kinda want an asian spouse because of similar backgrounds (whatever it's my preference), and just the freakin commitment of time devoted to medical training... how hard it would be.
It sucks because I don't want to base a decision on marriage.. but I don't want to be some single chick at 30 and like mid swing in a career...But there's a more probable risk I wouldn't get married or even have the time to meet a potential mate... and then dealing with kids..and that whole life path.
Maybe this won't matter at all because I'll get rejected every where and have to scrape my blank back to the drawing board and build up my requirements for another health care field... but I have to bring this point up.
I guess I'm basically venting.
I've already debated it straight through my head countless times and been able to shadow various female physicians to a substantial degree. I've seen them hire nannies, or have their kids raised partly by their in-laws or forgo pregnancy until later in residency, or get into pediatrics where it's not really an issue. xyz. this and that scenario. And I've seen people in medical school get engaged, married, pregnant.. all that. But I feel like my case doesn't apply to the scenarios I've observed. I'm female, asian and currently not in any committed relationship. And that's not to single me out or like put some red scarlet letter on me, but I guess what I mean is that, it's kinda different (I guess you would get it only if you were raised of a particular ethnicity..)
I've wanted to be a physician my entire life and it's been a great opportunity (and laborious process) to get to this point to even apply---so I'm glad actually to find out whether this is going to happen or not.... but sometimes when I critically evalute the situation and own up to who I am and who I am not and I see that all these females that got engaged and married were caucasian and 22-24 years old. And that they also had been in long term relationships or have boyfriends, fiances or spouses who had normal jobs like normal people do. I just sigh because I'm like as if it isn't hard enough to find someone compatible in life in general to fall in love with and partner up with... how many more hurdles are going to be on this one if you're older, different background ethnicity and have certain family principles you'd hope your spouse would also believe in.
Now, I would say that I'm reasonably attractive and have a social personality.. I'm not some homely girl who couldn't get a date with dudes... but I KNOW that if I were to get into medical school, that would change the balance of the equation for potential relationships somewhere down the future. And I KNOW realistically that good grief, I kinda want an asian spouse because of similar backgrounds (whatever it's my preference), and just the freakin commitment of time devoted to medical training... how hard it would be.
It sucks because I don't want to base a decision on marriage.. but I don't want to be some single chick at 30 and like mid swing in a career...But there's a more probable risk I wouldn't get married or even have the time to meet a potential mate... and then dealing with kids..and that whole life path.
Maybe this won't matter at all because I'll get rejected every where and have to scrape my blank back to the drawing board and build up my requirements for another health care field... but I have to bring this point up.
I guess I'm basically venting.