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Hey there!
After being a lurker for some time now, I've noticed how helpful and encouraging everyone is here. With that said, I do need some advice on how to cope with an impending long-distance relationship...let me explain the situation between me and my boyfriend.
We met 3 years ago, and we actually started our relationship long distance (him in WA, myself in NY), and stayed in an LDR for a year before I moved to be with him in WA 2 years ago. Now, I'm still living in WA, and applying to physical therapy school at the same time. I applied to schools in both WA and NY, and I just got my acceptance from NYIT, and unfortunately, no acceptances from schools in WA. The program is set to start on May 20, which means I will be moving back home to NY in 3 months, while he has to stay in WA to finish his schooling and receive his bachelor's We are both 24 years old.
So needless to say it's been a bit hard coping for both of us (though he doesn't like to think or talk about it since its still 3 months away), and rather than dwelling on it I enjoy as much time as I can with him in the time being. There's good communication between the two of us when we're apart (such as when I'm on vacation visiting family, and of course when we started out in an LDR)...we talked everyday for at least an hour (we set a time to meet and if one of us will be late, etc, we let the other know), and of course we're huge fans of Skype! He plans to visit me every 2 months or so and I plan on spending my 4-week long winter breaks visiting him. We've decided that when he graduates, he will come live with me for a year or two until I graduate, and then wherever we end up after that is anyone's guess. But that's 1-1.5 years away...granted, it's not too long, but it seems like a long time to wait.
Though I am familiar with all the emotional ups and downs of LDRs, since I've been in 2 LDRs before I met my current b/f, and our relationship started out long distance, I'm still having a bit of trouble coming to terms with the fact that after spending 2 happy years together, we're going to be separated again. If you've ever been in this situation before, how did you cope / come to terms with it?
Any advice is helpful, and if you read through all this, well, thanks for listening!
After being a lurker for some time now, I've noticed how helpful and encouraging everyone is here. With that said, I do need some advice on how to cope with an impending long-distance relationship...let me explain the situation between me and my boyfriend.
We met 3 years ago, and we actually started our relationship long distance (him in WA, myself in NY), and stayed in an LDR for a year before I moved to be with him in WA 2 years ago. Now, I'm still living in WA, and applying to physical therapy school at the same time. I applied to schools in both WA and NY, and I just got my acceptance from NYIT, and unfortunately, no acceptances from schools in WA. The program is set to start on May 20, which means I will be moving back home to NY in 3 months, while he has to stay in WA to finish his schooling and receive his bachelor's We are both 24 years old.
So needless to say it's been a bit hard coping for both of us (though he doesn't like to think or talk about it since its still 3 months away), and rather than dwelling on it I enjoy as much time as I can with him in the time being. There's good communication between the two of us when we're apart (such as when I'm on vacation visiting family, and of course when we started out in an LDR)...we talked everyday for at least an hour (we set a time to meet and if one of us will be late, etc, we let the other know), and of course we're huge fans of Skype! He plans to visit me every 2 months or so and I plan on spending my 4-week long winter breaks visiting him. We've decided that when he graduates, he will come live with me for a year or two until I graduate, and then wherever we end up after that is anyone's guess. But that's 1-1.5 years away...granted, it's not too long, but it seems like a long time to wait.
Though I am familiar with all the emotional ups and downs of LDRs, since I've been in 2 LDRs before I met my current b/f, and our relationship started out long distance, I'm still having a bit of trouble coming to terms with the fact that after spending 2 happy years together, we're going to be separated again. If you've ever been in this situation before, how did you cope / come to terms with it?
Any advice is helpful, and if you read through all this, well, thanks for listening!