Look, I still think it's' f'd up and horrible to rank based on anything but merit. You don't get to rig the balance any more than you get to shun people based on their sex, race, age, etc without regard to the overall program demographics. People love to talk about the example of males in OB, or women in urology. To me, this is equally deplorable. If there's reason to believe that a certain group has limited access to opportunities, not due to their abilities but to circumstances beyond their control, then absolutely, attempt to level the playing field, especially if it's for the greater good. This is the spirit of affirmative action. IMO, this is NOT applicable to gender balance in residency.
With that said, I keep remembering how sad and dejected my attending looked. It absolutely broke my heart. I guess I expected him to say "well yeah, that's the brakes. Go ahead and be mad if you want, whatever." It's true that he did a lot for me, and I truly like the guy. I thought we'd be joking around over coffee at conferences in ten years. Especially after hearing what others said about how little APD has on the list, which is also what he said, I really want to believe that failing to keep any of us wasn't his fault, even if he really believes what he said.
The most likely case: he blurted out something stupid without thinking, and then smoothed over he details in his own mind. I didn't want to drag the residents into it, but I do think he should know that 2 female residents heard him and perceived his comment in the same way I did. However, who hasn't blurted out stupid crap that's probably not PC, and then not known how to fix it? I suppose it's not fair for me to throw him away the minute he shows me he's not perfect.